[QUOTE=Larry27;1141012]
I would like to know what the men and women on OCC have to say about this.
BACKGROUND AND CONTEXT:
I need your input.
My wife comes from a very conservative background and so have most of her friends, including her best friend. She will suck my cock, but is reluctant.
When we talk about it, she always goes to the same statement, and I don't have a way to refute it. That is where YOU come in. She always says, "Most women don't like to give blowjobs. They just do it because the man wants them to." I wonder if that means she and her best friend have decided this, or is it true of most women?
Very few women want to appear "cheap" or "sl*tty" (except when it suits them) so they will justify what they do to make it ok in their own minds. Therefore if they say that they are only doing it because the man really insists then in their mind they feel ok and their actions are justifiable. You can help the situation by telling her how good you feel when she does it and that you want her more because of it, this gives her more reasons to justify what she is doing.
The other point for men to consider is how attractive is it down there. Your chances of getting a bj are much better if you are very clean and smelling nice instead of all sweaty and salty. Also consider shaving or waxing the area as a mouthful of hair is not always much of a turn on, it maybe best to discuss this with her first. In other words try to find out if there is something that you can do to make it more attractive for her.
I agree with most of the other comments and the 70/30 ratio is probably accurate but many of the 30% will on occasions when it suits them.