I definitely am not complaining. I am just trying to find a different way to approach it and see if there is a perspective that I can give her that puts us on the same team.
She has come a long way over the years. For the first several years of our marriage she didn't think she could have an orgasm. She was really sensitive about it. One day I carefully presented with the idea that I could try using a vibrating back massager to bring her to orgasm. It worked. It was truly life altering and exciting as I used this big clunky three points back massager on her (which, ironically, was actually her father's) to bring her to her first orgasm.
Before that, she wouldn't ever let me go down on her, so asking her to blow me required begging and was always met with rolling eyes. The sex was stressful, so the marriage was too. Since then, she really likes to have me go down on her. It has been easier to get her to 69, but she still doesn't love it.
I think Barmixer is on to something here. I want her to "make love" to it. From where we were to where we are now makes me believe anything is possible.
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