My experience is a little different than the ones posted here. My wife, April, was my older brothers girl friend for almost 3 years. He was the first to have sex with her and he is almost 2 years older than me. I was in love with April from the time we were in the 3rd grade together, but when we got older she fell for my brother. I know they had sex alot because one time on a camping trip our family went on and he came with us he told me that was the first day he had not had sex with her in over 3 months. I remember thinking WOW!!
I never tried to cheat with her while she was with my brother and I had plenty of girl friends before they split up. It took me over a month to convince her to date the brother of the guy who broke her heart, even if we were almost best friends.
We have been together for a long time and married over 20 years. The past is the past of course though it did cause a little tension between him and I at first because he had cheated on her, causing the break up. He is happily married to a beautiful woman he met while working in south Texas, but I still see him look at April at times during the family get togethers and holidays. I know he still remembers and remembers well. It is not something that turns me on, but I live with it. It is part of my life and has been for a long time. I don't begrudge either of them for the past either. Sex is sex and doesn't have to change people or create issues unless you let it or want to let it.
Great thread! Just wanted to add my two cents worth!!
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