How open are wives/GFs about masturbation?
 

Early on in our relationship, my would-be wife and I used to have sex almost everyday. Neither of us could get enough. She had (and still does for that matter after almost 20 years) an absolutely smoking hot, tight body, with long black hair, and an ass to die for. She is also very adventurous in the bedroom and open to dirty talk, role play, and other fun and games. But, early on in our relationship one time when we were having sex I asked her about her masturbation habits, and she got all embarrassed. With a little smile, she claimed outright that she didn’t regularly masturbate. I suspected that she wasn’t being forthcoming but decided not to dwell on the subject.

Often when we would mess around I would encourage her to touch herself and bring herself to orgasm in front of me. After a couple drinks she would usually willingly oblige. I found it hot AF to listen to her moans and watch her get off. But, even though she was comfortable to play with herself in front of me, whenever I asked her how often she masturbates by herself she would always deny she ever did.

Fast forward several years to 2020. To help deal with the boredom resulting from COVID restrictions/shutdowns, I bought my wife a new sex toy, the satisfyer penguin. I definitely made the right choice. She absolutely loves the thing. She said that she’s never experienced that kind of pleasure before and laughed that it might become addictive. On one occasion when she was using it on herself at full power she squirted for the first time in her life, completely soaking the bed sheets. She was really embarrassed when that happened but I reassured her that it was completely natural, and that I actually found it super sexy. I told her that she should use it by herself anytime she wanted and not be embarrassed about it, but she basically laughed it off.

About a week ago, I was surfing the net trying to decide what kind of new toy to buy her. I happened to notice in a write up about the penguin that it is waterproof and can be used in the shower and bath. I had totally missed that when I first bought it. I mentioned this to my wife and told her that I would leave it in the shower so that she could use it whenever the urge arose. She laughed and said that it wasn’t necessary. But, I put it in the shower room anyway. I placed it in a corner on a shelf where it would not get wet while someone was taking a shower. After that, every time after my wife had a shower, I would check to see if it had been moved or was wet. For a few days, no luck. It never moved from where I had put it and was always totally dry.

Yesterday, as I was going out the door to run some errands, my wife had just completed her morning workout and was about to take a shower. I told her I would be back in about an hour. When I got back, as usual, I checked the penguin. To my surprise it was in the same corner but positioned at a different angle and all wet. I was pretty sure that she had finally used it by herself. I didn’t say anything to her right away though. I waited until later that night when we were relaxing and having a glass of wine. When I asked her, she gave me a big guilty smile. I said that she must have used it because it was moved and all wet. She said ‘yes, when I got into the shower I saw the penguin and I realized that you were out and I could relax and use it without you possibly barging in.” This was a huge step - it was really exciting to hear her finally admit her ‘dirty deed’! I told her that she should use it anytime she wants, even when I’m in the house. I said that we could even set a time period during which I absolutely would not come into the bedroom and she could have total privacy to play with her toy. Of course, I would love to watch or participate but there’s also something extremely arousing about the idea of my wife playing with herself alone without me. Anyway, unfortunately she has not yet come around to my idea of of a ‘masturbation break’ so to speak. I plan to keep encouraging her though!

Curious if others have similar experiences and how other wives/GFs react when the topic of their masturbation comes up?

By the way, sorry for the really rough description of everything. I realize I’m much more of a photographer (of my wife anyway) than a writer! ;)

Today no shame...
 

For a long time ago most girls and women masturbate, but they rarely admitted it because they were ashamed....

My first girlfriend (She was short before 16th birthday) first answered not if I ask her if and how often she masturbated... But one day we walk in the wood and came to a meadow. I kissed her, fiddled with her breasts, grabbed her under her panties until she was wet. Then I bet her to do it before me and she does it - with a red head... Until she got an orgasm.

My wife does it from first day before me and had no problem with it. She talk about masturbation to her sisters and brothers, to her girlfriends, to me and our friends. She masturbated since she was 8 yo very often. Her older siblings and cousins showed her to do.

She loves to masturbate until today and most time she masturbates more often than we have sex...

Before over 4 years we opened our relationship and she masturbates before other men and women without shame...

I love it when she does it before me and other people...

The day after I met my wife, I asked her if she masturbated, and she said of course and even pulled out all of her toys to show me.

She said she had done it twice a day since her 19th birthday (but not a single time before then). But she has only done it twice since we were married. She said it makes her feel really down because sex is so much better.

Two different views
 

First wife said masturbation had no place in a marriage, that if either of us needed relief the other was there to help. She always carried through, always ready to fuck or give a blow job.

Current wife was open to masturbation right from the start, did it often and regularly and encouraged me to participate. She brought with her an amazing array of battery-powered toys, but was quite skilled with just her hands, too. Fucked herself with various fruits and vegetables, liked peeled cucumbers the best.

My wife once told me of a masturbation trick that she used as a teen.

We have both been social nudists since we were kids. She has always greeted friends with hugs and kisses. And I still get a big thrill when we approach a group of nude people and she starts her greetings.

Most nudists do the A frame hug, avoiding accidental contact with any part of their bodies. Julie has always stood straight for hugs, providing ample opportunity for her breasts and other parts to make contact. She hugs that way with both women and men.

A few years after we were married I got a big thrill when she hugged 4 guys in a row and I knew that one of them had been a previous teen age boyfriend when she was 17. Before we married she had told me how she used let the head of his dick just go in to get wet then she would slide it up to rub it up and down on her clitoris until she came. Essentially, she would masturbate using his dick. Because she wanted to stay a virgin and feared getting pregnant she never let it go in all the way. I trusted her but that did seem awfully close to me.

My wife never masturbated before, ever, before we were married. But she will, on occasion, permit me to use a Hitachi Magic Wand on her. Occasionally, she'll use it while I watch. But she never uses alone for some reason. The Hitachi is the only way she can climax, and is the closest I can get her to actually 'rubbing one out'.

When we were teens dating, we were parked somewhere making out, this was even before we were doing anything sexual. She stopped me and asked if I masturbated, the question was so unexpected I kind of stumbled through a yes answer. Then she told me that the night before she was putting on her nightgown and her hand brushed against her pussy, she felt a good tingle and kept going until she had her 1st orgasm. Now she wanted me to do to her what she did to herself and she would do the same. That night we did exactly that.

So we've been open about masturbation for a long time.

The wife loves masturbating and she gets off on me watching her.
I will sometimes ask her what she is thinking about, but she always says nothing, just how good it feels. At this point she has always said the same thing, so I doubt it's going to change. She doesn't masturbate by herself. She did occasionally in the past, but she much rather does it with me as not only I enjoy it, but it makes her feel sexier. She also likes loooooong sessions. We're talking hours. A few times she's looked at me and said, "I can't stop..."
I have my triggers for revving her up while she is enjoying herself with varying degrees of success. In no particular order of sexiness some of them are...
Physical:
rubbing her nipples
taking her photo
videoing her with the front camera so she can see herself working away on her pussy
mild SM play like spanking, pulling her hair or grabbing her throat

Mental: Telling her...
how sexy each part of her body is
how hard her nipples are
all the saucy things she's done over the years
what I like to do to her
fantasy role play several people watching her etc.
making her tell me that she wants people to look at her or that she is tied up and vulnerable

These last two she needs to be revved up, but if she is, they will push her over the edge really quick.

Early in our relationship my now wife would tell me when she’d masturbated in her bedroom or at work, and I’ve always loved watching her masturbate during sex.

We have a massager - mainly for back, but sometimes during sex play. I left a phone cam running when she was home alone a while back, and discovered she usually massages herself when she’s alone - to two or three orgasms each time!

The wife from Menorca
 

Hello, I'm the wife from Menorca (Contribution # 2).

Yes, please, girls and women, do it with yourself, so much joy, and you learn what a boy / man must do with your body to have fun for both. There i no reason to shame, there is no reason to hide before your partner.

It was very hot and a littlebit crazy when I masturbated for the first time by our couple friends a good four years ago and that was the opener to have sex together soon after...

I have masturbated for all my boyfriends before Menorca, today I masturbate nearly every day for my or my husbands fun and since some time before other guys and ladies. I love it - he loves it, too!

Hope every mum tells their daughter(s) how to do it or to show the girls how it works...