What should I do?
 

So my husband and son n law (Jared) are buddies. They are both car fanatics, and often do car related stuff with one other.

So last week Jared gave my husband a memory card with bunch of photos that he had taken of my husbands car while they were at the track. I was standing beside him while he was going through the pics one by one on his computer. The last few photos weren't of the cars, but instead, they were nudes of our daughter (she's 32). :eek:

My husband quickly deleted the photos from the card, and we agreed to pretended that we didn't see them.

My husbands b-day is coming up, and I decided that it would be cool if I took one of the photos from the track, and had it blown up into a poster for my husbands man cave. As I was going through the pics, I found the photos of our daughter had been put back on the card.

I kind of get the curiosity factor, I could even understand him taking another quick peek... but he SAVED them again....

I thought about deleting them again and having a talk with him, but I don't know what to do. What should I do?

Ask
 

Perhaps he thought to ask the son in law if he wants them back.

I think that would be pretty awkward....

I saw nudes of my daughter in law when I fixed my son's PC. They were taken by a professional and were beautiful, not really erotic at all, I just flipped through them once and moved on. Deleting from some devices is a multistep process, it's very possible that he thought he had deleted them.

Not quite sure I understand.

Jared's biological father is your Hubby? How is the daughter related to Jared?
How old is Jared?
Have they lived together with you and your husband?
What type of photos are they?

So many unknown pieces to this moral dilemma.

As stated, Jared is my son n law. My husband is not his bio dad. Jared is my daughter’s husband. Jared is 33? They live together in their own house. They were nude pics. Jared is a amateur photographer, I think he probably forgot the pics were on the car or he accidentally added them some how.

That is a tough one. You mention that Jared is MY daughter's husband... does that mean that your husband is not your daughter's biological father? If that is the case, I can understand the curiosity and maybe wanting to keep those pics. Assuming what I've typed is accurate (not biological father), I think it is an easier conversation, and you just say that you'd appreciate that he really delete the photos, and you think it is weird.

If this is the husband's biological daughter, that is a different conversation altogether. For whatever it is worth, Jared didn't accidentally add them somehow... he put them on the card on purpose.

going to put some on here?

I wont be posting the pics on here. lol

And yes, he is the bio father of her.

What are you conflicted about?