Nudist girlfriends and wives. Mixed feelings, plausible deniability and exposure
 

The nudist girlfriend/wife.

Unless the wife/GF was already a nudist before meeting her current partner, it likely was her current partner that got her to try it. Over the years, when I’ve asked nudist women how they started, they will usually point at their husband; often with a sarcastic expression. My wife does the same thing.
Every so often I’ll meet a couple where it was the woman who really wanted to hang out naked and “dragged” her husband to a resort; but that’s not the norm (I do like their spirit though).

Out of all these women that were convinced to try, a number of them will actually stick with it. Some find it surprisingly fun and/or relaxing, others yet find it empowering. For my wife, it’s sprawling out naked in the hot sun. She finds it not just extremely relaxing; but also a bit “titillating.” She says that if it wasn’t for other people, she’d spend the whole day like that.
But…“other people” is when things start to get complicated. Because if you’re at a nude beach or resort, there likely are other people around.

If your or any other wives grew up anything like mine, they were probably taught things at a young age like “good girls keep their pussies private”; or some variation of it. And social nudity will challenge the heck out of that concept. Sure, women do have “easy to conceal” internal genitals (although I would argue that actually complicates things more for them). And some will choose to just preserve their modesty by keeping their legs closed/crossed at all times. But that's hard to pull off without constantly sitting and/or wrapping up every time to get up.**

Some go in the opposite direction, just say "screw modesty," and let their legs fly open. That was the approach my ex-wife took. It was initially confusing to me because it was steeped in “plausible deniability.” When I’d bring up the fact that her bald pussy was exposed for all to see, she would claim “unawareness”, or just be evasive. I eventually realized that her decision to spread out had started from a desire to express a lack of inhibition; but it was her ensuing popularity and the attention she got from it that kept her spreading. It made her feel attractive, but she was also conflicted about it; because it was a little bit exhibitionistic, and it clashed with her moderately conservative upbringing.
Some women are not conflicted about it at all, and embrace it or just accept it. I don’t believe there is a single “spreader” out there that is “blissfully unaware” though. They know.

Then there are women, who like my wife, are totally inconsistent about it. The setting, their mood/vibe, the people around them, their blood alcohol level, the position of the moon…all these things and then some can make their comfort with social nudity virtually unpredictable. During the course of a day at the resort, you might see my wife chatting with an acquaintance, feet apart and hands on her hips; with her labia dangling right in front of them. Or on all fours while climbing on a paddle-board or straightening her towel. The next day she might be much more conscious about how she ‘hangs out” around other people. I’ve asked her about I, and she will admit that sometimes she’s in a “naked mood” and is likely to be more uninhibited; and other days she just isn’t.
I think a lot of nudist wives are a bit like this. Sometimes it’s a bummer; sometimes it’s a nice surprise.

At the end of the day though, if a wife is comfortable being naked at the beach or resort, the husband wins. Whether she’s a “spreader” or a “sitter” is secondary IMHO.

Thoughts and objections welcome.

My wife was a holiday nudist long before she met me. I didn't find out about it until our first holiday together in the Canaries. First time she saw that there were naked people on the beach, she whipped off her swimming costume. Yet as soon as I got the camera out, she covered up again. Latter, she took me to her favourite nudist beach on a Greek island.

She rarely spreads her legs when sunbathing and always comments sarcastically on women who do. I once saw her lying on her back with her legs wide apart pointing her pussy at a man sitting just a few feet away. When he got up and walked away, she said "I didn't know he was there. I've just been showing him my fanny."

I don't know for sure, but I suspect it was no accident. She probably got a thrill from giving a random man an opportunist flash of her sn*tch. If I hadn't spotted it, she might not have said anything. Years later, I caught her flashing pussy at a guy again while sunning her legs on a boat when she was going commando under a short dress.

Yes, in my case too, I was the one who introduced my wife to nudism, when we were still dating. First at some spa, then we moved on to the beaches. Little by little, she let herself go, now she's completely at ease and behaves as she does when she's wearing a swimsuit. She told me that at first it bothered her to talk to someone while she was naked, but now she does it without any problems.

Sounds like my wife
 

Shihoin, much of what you wrote sounds like my wife. What started as a mid-life dare or adventure between the two of us turned into a strong vacation preference. The freedom, relaxation, convenience, increased social aspect, with a small dash of titillation ended up being rather addicting. The warm sun on a nude body, the no tanlines result, discovering that a wet bathing suit is in fact a major inconvenience. She now looks forward to spending a week in the nude and hates spending money to go on a vacation where she is forced to wear clothes. And ironically, it highlights the absurdity of the textile resorts where in today’s culture any style a bunch of middle aged woman prance around 90-95% nude in their thongs and tiny triangles covering their nipples, but are totally disgusted or offended at the idea of going topless.

We've been going to the same resort for years now, and we are familiar with many of the regulars there. So if my wife is in a "naked mood" that day, around them she can easily rationalize that they've likely already seen her "nooks and crannies" at some point while doing "normal" activities. So she's going to be pretty relaxed, especially if it's people she knows and like to talk to. And boy does she love to talk and talk. So for her, it's not that big a deal in those moments if the person she's talking to gets an "eyeful." But it's not exactly "being brave." It's just being comfortable and confident - in that moment.

A few years back we transitioned from clothing-optional resorts to our current "nude-mandatory" one. The hardest thing my wife told me was going from covering up to walk around; to staying naked the entire time.
But she got used to it pretty quickly. As a matter of fact she now prefers it that way: because the people that see her nude are also all naked. There isn't the "imbalance" she used to experience at clothing-optional places.

My wife going nude
 

My second wife that passed, we started together our nude adventure back in the early 90s.

She got a taste of exposure in the 80s after a wet t shirt contest and taking her top off. She loved the attention from it. She rarely wore bras and her nipples always poked through.

The first time going we had be very cautious as to who we told where we were going. She only told one of her girl friends and told her not to share where we were going.

We went and she stated she would go topless but the bottoms should stay on. After about an hour seeing all the other women completely nude and confident she went total.

She enjoyed talking to other couples and loved being checked out. We went several times to different resorts and she was totally confident. She loved being nude on vacation.

I got a free trip to Mexico three days at a nice resort in Cabo San Lucas, but no nudity there. I remember her complaining about having to wear a bathing suit. She had put weight but was comfortable heavier and nude also.

We went one more time to a total nude resort with her extra weight and older she stripped down and loved the whole week being nude.

She found that even as a bigger woman she was still appreciated. I think she enjoyed how big her tits got and sharing them.
I miss those days for I enjoyed her sharing her nudity.

I got us into nudism, but our first time was together at Club Orient in St. Martin. Mrs. NoShoCo will wear a sheer half sarong walking around during the day at our resort. It is completely see-through, but lets her feel covered. At the pool where nudity is mandatory she has no problem getting up and talking to others while nude. Then it’s back to a full sarong (still sheer) for the night’s dance. So inconsistent here as well.

Early in our relationship I revealed to my gf (now wife) that I’m a nudist and wanted to go to Blacks Beach. She was intrigued and asked a lot of questions and was really excited to go. She went full nude and loved the experience. We’ve gone back a few times.

We have a place in a clothing optional campground. It's interesting talking to newbies of how they got there. It's fascinating when he suggests they try it, and she ends up enjoying the experience and he ends up being jealous. More often than not, they break up and she continues coming to the campground.

I was a closest nudest when my wife and I met. We became vacation nudists, and eventually transitioned to living as nudists. A co-worker, his wife would only get nude on vacation, never at the house, never anywhere within 1,000 miles of their house.

When we first met, after I told her I'd previously been to a few nudist beaches she told me she'd done the same, so it was settled--we'd go to one together, which became a regular thing, and I noticed right away that she had no qualms about talking with others or about how much she was showing or who was seeing her naked, whether friends or strangers, or whether they are nude or clothed, as there have been some instances where she was the only one naked and she was fine with it.

Nudist wife
 

My wife and I have been going to nudist resorts for many many years. I had gone a few times before we married, but she agreed and we go and have a great time. But she always says she only goes because I want to go. She tries to claim it isn't her preference, but every time we go,she tells me she has a great time. This last time went to the Cove for 10 nights, and when it was time to leave she asked if we could go for two weeks or more, next year. She always is modest in the way she sits, never sitting with her legs spread apart, but she walks around the resort completely naked and we stop and talk to others we encounter. I wish she would expose her vagina, and tease the men who walk by, but that is where she draws the line. I know she loves going nude, but her upbringing prevents her from admitting the truth.

That sounds familiar.

Even though my wife and I have been going to our resort for years - and she will spend the entire day completely naked there, tanning, hiking, paddle-boarding and socializing - she will still not refer to herself as a "nudist." When asked, she will say stuff like "Oh...I'm just here because my husband is a nudist." Plausible deniability. Other nudists have been perplexed by her statement; because she'll literally be standing naked in front of them, with no apparent discomfort, as she says it.

It has a lot to do with her conservative upbringing. To her, admitting she's a nudist would be akin to admitting she has a kink. It goes against the values instilled in her from childhood; and her self-image. So she'll probably go on saying: "I'm only naked here because that's what YOU want to do!" while clearly enjoying being completely naked. Oh well...

As identified above, most women have a complicated body image and have received lots of instruction from family members, media, etc beginning at an early age regarding proper lady like behavior. My wife loves being a vacation nudist but years of mental programming and muscle memory take a long time to undo. I enjoy looking at her and figure she should be just as exposed as I am. When we are lounging around the pool or on the beach, I prefer her to relax and open her legs enough that the entire length of her slit is visible, vs having her thighs pressed together. From time to time I’ll give her a whisper that she she spread her legs just a bit so I can have a better view. She’ll smile or roll her eyes and then shift slightly to comply with my request. I think she likes to know she is attractive and desired, reminded that it’s socially acceptable to be exposed in this situation, and also have the plausible deniability that it was my idea and not hers. But either way, when we return home, she immediately starts talking about planning another trip to go back.

Still attractive
 

I feel all women wish to know they are attractive even as they age. My wife and I are Seniors and she can still attract attention as she is in good shape and has a beautiful smile. I am very lucky. The one thing that bothers me is the way she sits. She always sits with her legs tight together and it appears she is still uncomfortable being nude. I tell her it's ok if someone sees in between her legs. Her upbringing tells her that is wrong, even considering she is nude and people can see everything else.

A few years back, my wife and I were at a nudist BnB; and we were at the far end of the property by ourselves. The topic of tanning open-legged came up; and with no one around, I suggested she at least give it a shot. She gave me the old "oh stop it..." at first; but then to my surprise reclined on her lounge chair and went full spread-eagle. It was so relaxing that she actually fell asleep. When she woke up she realized she was still wide open; and asked me how long she'd been asleep "like this." I lied (lol!) and told her "just a few minutes" and "no one saw you" (another couple actually did). I then asked her how it'd felt, and she candidly replied "extremely relaxing" and "very much sensual." In other words: "thoroughly enjoyable."

So for her - as I'm sure it is for many other nudist women - there is this constant ambivalence between being fully relaxed and maintaining some modesty around other people. My current and ex-wife both used plausible deniability to navigate "exposure" ("Oh I didn't realize...", "I wasn't paying attention", etc...) The last time my wife did this she was standing at the edge of the pool area, feet quite apart, while chatting with some acquaintances in the pool. Looking up at her, they could clearly see her shaven vulva. There's no way she wouldn't have been aware of the view. She had told me earlier that day that she wasn't in the mood to be "exposed"; so I asked her what happened. And she pulled the plausible deniability card (I'm not always paying attention to how I stand!) It would have been more honest if she'd said: "Eh...at that moment I was comfortable with them seeing me completely exposed, who cares?"; but her "built-in" modesty prevented her from being candid, even though it doesn't make much sense.

I might suggest looking for somewhere private where no one can see her. I know that it might not work; but it's worth a try?

Those are both great stories. My wife has an Innie and while she’s gotten pretty comfortable with her fully bald pussy on display at the resort, she does keep her lips closed so as not to give the internal view. If we are completely alone she sometimes will open up in an attempt to get a physical reaction out of me which she thinks is funny. I suppose as time goes on she might become more comfortable with others seeing her insides but I’m not going to push it. I do like the idea though of getting her to open up a bit when no one else is around, and seeing how long she’d hold that position on a dare.