Keeping the missus happy
 

Conversations on here have got me puzzled...

Some wives are happy and confident
Some are insecure or even frigid
What do guys do to build their wife's confidence and self image so they are comfortable sexual partners?

One thing my husband does is framed pics of me on our bedroom wall. It feels good knowing that I'm his poster girl. C.

I persuaded her to have a photoshoot. After that she didn’t need much persuading to have two more. Sadly I can’t persuade her to display the photos on the walls. The best I can do is paint pictures from the photos and display them in my den wall.

Can you post a pic of your painting? That sounds like a romantic gesture!

I did it more for myself than for her! I’m really not a good painter but I enjoy it and sometimes I like what I have painted.

The first picture is on my wall. The seam in the middle is because it’s painted on two 20”x16” boards. I thought it was going to be a study but I like it so much I hung it up.

Please don’t feel the need to say nice things, I know how limited my painting ability is.

I was going to say that your paintings are such a romantic gesture and most wives would be flattered by their husbands expressing admiration like that. But if that's just going to make you feel awkward I'll bite my tongue... ;

I do it in many, many ways. I have a very large framed picture with a special light that shines on it of my wife in my office that is open to the public. I also do it in ways that are unspoken, like the way I hold her hand in pubic when there are other females around or the way I look at her with fire in my eyes in certain situations. In spoken ways, I always try to talk good about her and brag on her in front of friends and business associates when she is or not present. When we go out I will compliment her several times an how beautiful she is. When we go places like the Lake and when she wears a thong bikini I always tell her how much it turns me on.i do it in many other ways also.

Very good work. I wish you could do that for my wife and I.

Poster girl.... hmmm i like that. I might need to borrow that idea.

I think i mostly keep my wife happy cooking for her. I cook 90% of the time and try to always make what she likes even if i have to make something special for her, plate it, garnish it and serve it to here like we're at a restaurant. I know thats not what we are talking about here but I know thats what makes her happy everyday.

But to make her happy and confident in other ways, she likes when she catches me staring at her. She'll give me a wink or a " like what you see?" She laughs that im so obvious with my stares, she just thinks I cant be discreet little does she know im obvious on purpose.

But the framed picture idea is awesome. I might need to up my game with that. So what kind of pictures. I need to see examples... for research purposes of course ;)

But the framed picture idea is awesome. I might need to up my game with that. So what kind of pictures. I need to see examples... for research purposes of course ;)[/QUOTE]

I can give you a sample, since you ask so nicely ;
Sorry about the glare...

I can give you a sample, since you ask so nicely ;
Sorry about the glare...[/QUOTE]

Wow!!! These are amazing! How many pictures does he have up?

I take it the bedroom door stays closed when you have company over

Wow!!! These are amazing! How many pictures does he have up?

I take it the bedroom door stays closed when you have company over[/QUOTE]

I don't have company upstairs typically.
The young electricians took a while installing a plug in my bedroom, but they came downstairs smiling.
There are a few pictures, mostly of me at the beach. C.

I don't have company upstairs typically.
The young electricians took a while installing a plug in my bedroom, but they came downstairs smiling.
There are a few pictures, mostly of me at the beach. C.[/QUOTE]

Looks like you two have lots of fun at the beach.

Lucky electricians. Would love to see all of what the those electricians got to see ;)

Girlfriend
 

I’m sure it sounds like nothing, but I always call her a good girl when we fuck.

I also like to send her texts, telling her what I want to do the next time we fuck, and I always end by praising and thanking her.

For example, today’s message ended with, “Thank you for being such a wonderful fuck toy. You are a pleasure to own, and I look forward to enjoying you this morning.”

When I’m planning something new or challenging, I really pile on the praise. It’s always sincere, and I’m sure she picks up on that. I am extremely grateful for her complete submission, her open mindedness, and for complete access to her body and mind, and I make sure she knows it.

I also regularly remind her of how many people have downloaded her pictures and videos, and thanked me, and commented, etc. I also share any tributes or messages with her. I always tell her when someone enjoys her.

My wife and I are nudists; and I just consistently tell her how good she looks naked.

I also encourage her to sunbathe open-legged at the resort and how good her pussy looks when she's shaven bald. She'll often scoff at me but I can tell her she finds that comment arousing.
Other people appreciating seeing her completely naked at nudist venues helps her too.

We've taken nude pics at some of the nudist venues, and even though she won't let me frame them and put them on a wall, they're on my laptop and every time I open my laptop in front of her, she sees that her naked body still something I look at every day. And that makes her feel sexy.

Similar situation here. When we are nude at our local resort I tell her how great she looks. Our computer at our site at the resort is mounted to the wall behind the bar and we use our 4K tv as the monitor. The wallpaper is a changing set of us or her nude on various vacations (marble staircase on a cruise ship, nude beaches in the Caribbean, walking trails at a nudist resort, etc.)

Frequent yet genuine compliments. It’s really that simple.

My wife has always been super confident in her career and social life. Yet when I first met her, she was not quite so sure about herself as a woman. Men had pursued her and she'd been in one long term relationship, but no one had quite been able to draw out her sexy side.

She certainly wasn't frigid being a lover of nude beaches and naked sleeper. I am nothing special, but for some reason she started to change with me. Maybe having children helped. The first sign was our wedding photographer getting her to relax in front of a camera for the first time in her life. Nonetheless, she didn't pick up on his subtle hints of the possibility of her doing something more risque.

In the run up to the wedding, I spent time with a Chinese friend. He told me how wonderful my bride to be was. Then quite out of the blue, he said "I really want see her naked." Not sure if this was some sort of weird Chinese compliment or a serious request, I was lost for words.

The possibly of her stripping for him turned me on, but I didn't think there was a cat in hell's chance of her obliging him. Knowing her better now, I think she might have done it to please me if I'd really wanted her to. I wish I'd been braver, as it would have been an amazingly sexy thing for her to do to celebrate getting married. Much better than the threesome with a bi female workmate that she offered me on the actual day. I didn't take that up either.

to be continued later