Asking advice for erection trouble
 

I know you guys enjoy bragging about your conquests and reminiscing about debauchery, but I would like some suggestions for a real problem:
How do you treat erectile dysfunction?
My husband is mid 50s, reasonably fit, and has had ED for a few years now. He doesn't respond to anyone else either. I try to be accommodating and am happy to get him hard with fellatio, but I miss him being spontaneous and taking charge.
He isn't liking the idea of Viagra, but if anyone cares to share their experience with Viagra, herbal supplements, acupuncture, etc, I'd be grateful.
My neighbour said he'd be happy to fuck my brains out in front of my husband and suggested the shock treatment would cure the erection trouble. I'm suspicious of his motives... he never offered to help with anything else. Has anyone else heard of shock treatment except as a joke?

Testosterone
 

The key is Testosterone weekly shots can make him feel like he in his 20s again along with low dose Cialis daily.
He will be rock hard and ready every day. You will love it just like my wife does.

mallynb
 

Thanks so much; I'll look into this.
Apparently lingerie isn't solving the problem.

Get his testosterone levels checked.

I am sorry your husband is having these health problems. You are a very attractive woman. I do not understand why he does not like the idea of Viagra. You asked for another herbal supplement; he can take L-Arginine daily. In about a month, he should see a difference, and it can be used in conjunction with Viagra. Not all people will respond to the shock treatment you mentioned. But seeing you naked would work for me. lol

kajuk
 

Maybe it's a misconception, but he thinks it's $10 a pill and a 3 hour hard on. Neither convenient nor spontaneous.
You think I'd be able to start your engine without meds, or you're trying to make me feel better?

Try Maca. You can buy them at GNC. I'm at my mid 30s and many of my friends had taken it.

Also not every man gets hard by lingerie Lol For example, I get hard almost instantly by kissing. I also like ladies in skirts, for me it's more better than lingeries.

EyefunJo
 

So maybe the entire time the problem is my clothes?
This pic of me using a hockey stick to adjust the garland on the Christmas tree is the closest to a skirt pic I've got on this device.
Thanks for the advice, I'll check it out when I go skirt shopping.

I mean you gotta check with him first Lol
Skirt is my thing, and you have to find out what he's into.

Oh buddy, he has certainly been into my skirt. Trust me.

Loss of erection capability is the canary in the coal mine indicating metabolic dysfunction. It's one of the first things to go as the body tips off into insulin resistance, pre-diabetes, and finally diabetes. It kills testosterone levels as well as causing a host of other well-known diabetes symptoms. Also, abdominal fat eventually chokes off the blood supply to the dick, reducing blood flow and eventually killing nerves too.

Testosterone replacement will work for a while but it eventually doesn't. Plus, it just feels weird. You can mostly get a hard-on but may never be able really get horny. That's what happened to me anyway.

The solution, and this will be controversial, is simple, but certainly not easy. It is to permanently cut off all sugar from the diet. All processed food crap (cookies, Twinkies), bread, pizza, beer, AND vegetables. Anything that is a carbohydrate, whatever its form, turns to sugar in the bloodstream.

Which leaves . . . meat. Nothing but meat. Any kind of meat. But only meat. It may take a year or three, but your metabolism will eventually heal; you'll lose weight, diabetes will go into remission, and hard-ons will return. But it may take a while depending on how far down the metabolic dysfunction road you've traveled.

I full well understand that this sounds like crazy talk, but for anybody who is genuinely curious about restoring their health, I'm happy to talk to you via private message.

P.S. Carrie, you look great. I'd be happy to drill you with my restored cock function. Took me a couple of years to get it back, but it works just as good now as it did before.

Nudism
 

Honestly try just becoming a nudist around the house. Just do everything naked and don’t mention it to him let him just notice it.

COMMUNICATION!!! What was his trigger before, amp it up. Go out in public in shear tops. Why the resistance to Viagra or Calais? There are pumps that people use. Injections and implants, but it doesn't sound like he's there yet. Did I mention communication??? Work on this together!!!

Cialis works longer than Viagra. And T shots help with more than just ED.
A visit with his urologist/GP is indicated.

DR

P.S. Carrie, you look great. I'd be happy to drill you with my restored cock function. Took me a couple of years to get it back, but it works just as good now as it did before.[/QUOTE]

Thanks for your thoughts. There maybe some underlying health concerns, although a recent medical gave him a clean bill of health. He weighs like 180lb so excess weight isn't THE issue. Lots to sort out.
I've tried to add a pic to my responses that is connected to the conversation to avoid blocks of text that are irrelevant to everyone else. I don't have any pics of you drilling me with your revitalized cock (I checked). Hope this pic suits.

I'm sure he'd notice, but he'd be nervous about what the kids were thinking. Lingerie is the farthest I can go strolling through this stage of life.

I am 73 years old and suffered from ED for about 20 years. About 3 years ago I went to a urologist to see if he could help me. We tried several things that did work for me but were not totally satisfactory. Due to other medications I take Viagra was not an option. The one thing that worked was to inject a drug into my penis. It gave me a decent erection for an hour or two but just seemed to be too barbaric. After trying the injections for a month or so I decided to get a penile implant. This is major surgery and it was extremely painful for about 6 weeks, but I cannot be any happier. I am now able to get an erection at any time I wish and I can maintain that erection for as long as I want, lasting weeks if I so desired. The surgery is expensive but because of my age Medicare paid for almost all of it. My final bill for the urologist was less than $100. There are options out there, and my suggestion for any man suffering from ED is to consult with a urologist and explore what is available. Some options are very inexpensive, some are very costly, but the doctor will work with your husband to find a solution.

Steve443
 

Thanks for sharing very personal information like this. It is humbling for me that you share such intimate struggles.

ED problems can by physical or psychological.

If he gets hard by anything, be it you blowing him, others having sex with him, masturbating, or even (OMG) flashing, his body is working fine, his mind has problems. No medicine will help.

If he doesn't get hard with you, then you need some honest talk with him. No accusations, no insults, no marriage problem problem talks. He simply needs to find out what gets him hard. Then you two can figure out how that could happen in your marriage. Many men are ashamed all life long to simply tell their wife what really turns them on. Read here about all the fuss those married guye go to hiding their flashing fun from their wives. Tell him to be honest, and DO NOT do any accusations, if you like staying married happily.

Kick him in the balls. Or tie him to a tree naked in your neighborhood and call the cops. He wants to fuck you, humiliatite your husband and ruin your marriage. And then laugh his ass off. What a wonderful neighbor.

rudolfm
 

I expect you are right, the erection trouble could be psychological. I also think that if his equipment trouble was not a source of frustration for him he would lose many of the stresses that are presenting as erection failure. It seems (to me) like a loop that could evaporate if the erection issue could be resolved.

Feel good about erection performance = less frustration = better erectile function

The erection trouble predated the 'helpful neighbour', but yeah...
I don't have any pics of neighbours tied to trees. Closest I have is me pruning a tree. Not very graceful, but I don't like heights. Maybe I needed the rope so I wouldn't be afraid of falling?

Google each of his meds to see if any list ED as a potential side effect. If that an issue, he needs to talk to his doctor to find an alternative. If your husband has an enlarged prostate, or an elevated PSA, his doctor will explain why supplemental testosterone is not an option.

Seek qualified medical advice - online forums are not a substitute
 

I'm assuming that this is a genuine post.

Don't blame yourself or feel rejected.

If there is a physiological problem then YOU are NOT the problem.

If he is watching too much porn then this can densitize a man eg training himself only to get off on extreme stimulation eg DP, fisting ...

ED can cause a loss of confidence and solo can feel "safer" without risking disappointing you.

ED is normal as men age, are ill, stressed, on certain meds etc.. As previously stated - look it up. But only look at stuff written by qualified people you would trust to cut you open in surgery etc. not random people.

One of the best online health sources in English is from the UK NHS and UK NICE (National Institute for Clinical Excellence). NHS Doctors don't get paid more for treating you when you don't need it. Big Pharma hates the NHS because of the huge bulk discounts it negotiates. The NHS tends not to overtreat/overmedicate because of cost - so if the NHS advice is eg get vaccinated, see a doctor - then that is what you should do as a minimum.

www.nhs.uk/conditions/erection-problems-erectile-dysfunction/

anonjohn & buddy i con
 

Yes, this is a serious question.
I understand that not every response is a legitimate solution to the problem. I'm actually incredibly impressed by the candid conversations sharing personal experiences. I am encouraged by the insights and goodwill communicated.
I know my husband appreciates a pretty girl as much as the next man does, but wouldn't say he's desensitized; loss of confidence describes him pretty well though. I do intentionally try to accommodate him with lingerie, bikinis, blowjobs, whatever, to communicate that I'm invested & willing. I say accommodate him, but I enjoy it too... I don't mean to sound like it's an imposition or inconvenience.
He isn't on any prescriptions or do recreational drugs, so it isn't a side effect that is wrecking him.
I don't know what to attach as a pic related to the content here; perhaps you have a suggestion?

I think you may have already answered your own question. :D

buddy I con
 

Whatever

I said it before, I'll say it again, communication, Communication, COMMUNICATION. Have the honest and HARD conversation. Honest and completely open conversation.