Sex in front of others but not swinging - advice needed
 

So, started talking about the possibility of having sex in front of the audience with my cute girlfriend. Over time we tried things like nude beach, mixed spas and even published a few vids.

It makes both of us horny, doing this things all of which seem scary at first.

Now, both or us are a bit kinky but also not into sharing or swinging. Does anyone know if there are kind of lifestyle places and clubs where you could go and have sexy time while watching and being watched?

Are swingers clubs for that, even though we do not exchange partners? Would we be pressured to do so? Anyone with any experience welcome to chime in.

Thanks

You must tell where you are located, somebody telling you about a club in Europe won't help if you're in Utah.

Discussion about such places worldwide would be interesting. Let's say US and Europe

Ok, you don't really want to do it, just read and wank a bit.
Here you go for Europe. In the Vondelpark in Amsterdam and in Copenhagen‘s Ørstedsparken, you can legally have sex in public.
https://travelnoire.com/4-places-public-sex-is-legal

It’s not specifically legal to have sex in Ørstedsparken, and the sign mentioned in the article was fake, it was put up by a group of artists making a commentary on the widespread practice of sexual activities in the park, as a reminder to tidy up after yourselves. Ørstedsparken is renowned for being a spot for gay cruising, rarely used by heterosexuals. It’s been like that since the 1800s.

Sex in public isn’t strictly prohibited in Denmark though, the law only specifies behaving decently with regards to others. This means that any activity is legal as long as it doesn’t aim to offend other people. In practice, this means that it’s up to the discretion of the law to decide. For instance, it’s generally not legal to walk naked in the streets, unless it’s as part of certain events like WNBR or Pride, where there is more leniency.
Nakedness as part of sunbathing in parks is allowed, as is nakedness on any public beach, but it’s common to seek out secluded areas or designated nude beaches.

Regarding sex, if you’re doing it where you wouldn’t normally expect to be seen, it’s generally legal. In that case anyone stumbling upon you should leave if offended. Regarding Ørstedsparken specifically, the police won’t patrol there looking for people having sex after nightfall, making it de facto legal, but the park is also known for mugging and violent attacks from time to time due to this.

Eviltwin, thanks for clarifying. Then I guess it is only Vondelpark.
Strangely enough, sex in Cap d'Agde isn't legal, but nobody cares 😁

Thank you for your replies, all of you. Sex in public places is hot enough, but comes it with troubles and I do not want to use unsuspecting bystanders as a means to achieve or kinky goals. Seems like asking for trouble.

I'd rather like to know if there are places and clubs, much like swing clubs, where you can have sex - yes others may watch but no touching or swinging. I get it, the niche is specific but I'd bet it is not very uncommon.

And to the reply above, yes, we are planning to do it. We just do not know where and when will we work up the courage.

We travel quite a bit, that's why I am vague with the location. But Amsterdam sounds compelling :)

Swinging clubs
 

If you go to a swingers club there is no pressure to have sex with others. So you can fuck and if anyone approaches just say no!
I have been to one where there are private rooms. You can go in and lock the door or leave it unlocked as a sign you want others to join you.
Anyone can look into the room through the windows and you will have an audience outside wanking away

yes
 

Of course, that is why I am asking. I would not get aroused by involving unsuspecting people. Dedicated clubs is what I am curious about. Some of the posts above have already been enlightening in that sense.

So jealous. :)

My fantasy is to have sex with my wife in front of other people but not swinging, and pretty much everyone I know has done it, even the people you wouldn't expect!

Several of my good friends have done it while sharing hotel rooms on expensive vacations. They share a room to cut down the cost, and after a night or two of not having sex, they can't help themselves and they just go for it, lights off at first, then lights on and looking at each other soon after. Even my wife's friend who I thought was a total prude has done this! (We only know about it because the less-prude husband told us once.)

When I found out my super hot sister in law did this with their best friends of 20 years in a shared hotel room on an island, I about lost my mind!

I have another friend who's bf wanted them to have sex while his best friend and wife had sex, so they did it in the friend's living room, and my friend enjoyed it so much that they have done it several times now. No swinging or touching, but she loves when she's about to cum and the other couple looks at her.

Regarding places to go like beaches or clubs...who knows. But the people I know who have done it like I described above is way hotter anyway. :)

This is why Craigslist getting rid of personals is a bummer for so many. You could just place an ad stating exactly what you want to set up. You could vet the people interested, then meet them and have sex in front of them. I’m sure there are other sites with personals but can’t imagine any reach the audience Craigslist did back in the day.

My wife and I were once talking about fantasies with a couple of friends. We told them that one of ours was to have people watch us having sex.

The lady said that they’d be more than happy to make it a reality for us.

The guy didn’t say anything. I took that to mean that he didn’t approve so I didn’t pursue it. Afterwards, I realised that he was probably just shy about admitting that he’d like to see my wife naked.

I’ll just chalk it up as another missed opportunity from the days when my wife still young and adventurous.

Watch and be watched
 

Girlfriend and I used to do this quite frequently. Craigslist Personals used to be the best source but it is no longer a thing. I had also used Adultfriendfinder.com for possibilities. You may also find contacts at nudist resorts and nude or clothing optional beaches. You just need to make sure that the other parties know exactly that you are not looking to swap but just to have sex in the presence of others or while others are doing the same, but not exchanging partners at this time. Girlfriend and I used to do it all of the time with couples also having sex, or a single male watching us; she loved to watch guys masturbate; she would get soaking wet and climax harder.

There's a secluded parking lot on a nearby mountain overlooking my city. At night, losts of couples go there to have sex in their cars with some intimacy and an outstanding landscape

I have been there since I was a teenager, with all my boyfriends and quite a few other boys. I still go there nowadays, from time to time

The parking lot is pretty big, and cars use to be far away.

All too often, a car stops behind you, with its lights facing you: that's not a couple, that's a lonely voyeur

At first, I used to cover my tits and intimacy, and take a break, that goes without saying

However, one day (in 2005 or 2006) I just felt like I had nothing to hide: we gave the voyeur more than an hour of rough and animal sex. At the end, I just waved him

That night, something new was born in me.

Since then, I don't just only let every voyeur enjoy as much as he he wants, but we also use to park our car very close to any other one, and then we sitch on the lights inside and start having sex.

Sometimes, the couple on the other car has put on their lights, too

Nowadays, with smartphones everywhere, we use to conceal our faces with sunglasess and baseball caps, but I daren't think how many times they have filmed us fucking inside our car

Watched
 

Many years ago we used Fabswingers and adultfriendfinder. There's always lots of men women and couples wanting to watch people shag.