How important is tightness?
 

I’ve been a lurker on this forum for quiet sometime and finally decided to make a profile to raise this topic. My ex husband was really into fisting/inserting/gaping and everything that comes with it. For my part I also enjoyed it too and went along with a lot of what he wanted to do. We have one child together and I had him late in my twenties and everything more or less snapped back into place fairly soon after. Around my mid thirties I was noticing the impact that our play was starting to have on my vagina. But we persisted and my husband would always express how much he loved how it looked when he was done with it and how he wanted me to be permanently gaped. I’m not heading the blame on him, it excites me too and I went along willingly at every stage.

I’m now on my lte fourties’ and I feel like I have the vagina of a much older woman. I still enjoy sex but it can be difficult to find a partner who doesn’t seem concerned about the size. That being said I have only been with a couple of different men since splitting from my husband.

I also enjoy visiting nude beaches but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t notice every woman in my age bracket and compare my vagina to hers. I’ve had a few occasions of catching younger men staring and I couldn’t say if it’s in admiration or shock.

My question is, how much does vagina size really matter to men? And for those that have a preference for looser or large vaginas, what is it specifically that you enjoy about it?

For context I’ve included a photo of myself standing and sitting to see the difference that it presents.

impotent
 

Just wonder IF, after childbirth, a wife seeks "confidential" sexual satisfaction outside marriage because of the miniscule size of her Husbands penis, and her "well-rigged regular boyfriend" then very purposely "opens her up further" to render her Hubby utterly impotent, and her constant need for HIM then becomes vital....??

I say, find a man you like to be with... there are accessories that can solve any pleasure problem. A toy for every occasion.

tightness
 

I think it all depends on personal preference. Before I met my wife I had been with girls that were tight to vault tight and patience was a must just trying to get inside them. There was definitely no second time that night or the next day because of soreness for them and positions were limited. My wife was the complete opposite from day one. She was super wet and loose, wanted to be pounded and would come back for more the next day. I can definitely say I prefer loose but her ex did not. Too bad for him though; she may have given him her anal virginity instead of me if he had stuck around.

Thank you for posting that question, BethAu, and for posting your lovely photos! My wife was really tight and couldn't tolerate any penetration for years. It was simply too painful for her. I must confess that she was so tight, it was uncomfortable for me as well. Certainly nothing "soft" about it. After surgery and lots of physical therapy, she's looser now and and finally tolerates penetration on occasion. One of the differences I noticed was how much softer her vag felt after surgery compared to before.

I’ve heard many things about tightness being a myth but I’ve experienced it first hand. The myth is that an individual vagina will stay stretched out with just normal regular sex. Obviously OP’s activities are the extreme. The third girl I slept with was petite. She was maybe 5’2” with a very small thin frame. She was a virgin and would only suck my dick. When we’d fool around I would stick a finger up her and even just my index finger felt gripped. When I’d slide it out it would come out so easily as if it was being forced out like toothpaste from a tube. We eventually got frisky one night and had sex. I’m not a huge guy. On the larger side of average but still average. It took a lot of saliva to get inside her and once I was my dick felt so gripped that I lasted maybe a minute we had sex a dozen or so times and it was like that every time. Never got any looser. It felt fantastic but it was disappointing to not have various stages of sex. Didn’t help that she never seemed into it.

We didn’t click any other way either so we called it off. She has been with the same guy since. About 15 years I’d say. Wonder if he’s got a tiny dick or if they just do other stuff.

So to answer the question, if it’s so loose that your partners won’t feel much that may be a problem. But it can also be too tight.

Tight
 

I met my wife in our late twenties. She had a noticeably bigger pussy than the other women I’d been with. She’d been with a lot of guys in her younger days but she thought it had always been big and loose. So we’re guessing it’s genetic, she’s nearly 6’ tall. I like it loose, in my mind it makes me think a woman with a big pussy is really in to sex and I’m very turned on by such women.

I went on a blind date when I was younger - I have an average sized cock, but the date was so wet I could only touch one side!

I'm no doctor, but...
 

...I'm still opinionated on this matter!

My observations and ultimate opinion is that 'looseness' is the result of genetics and vaginal trauma.

I look at a vagina as being sort of a negatively-arrayed muscular frame. The frame itself being the original layout of the muscles and ligaments, within the pelvic girdle.

There is no correlation between hip size and vagina size.

I think vagina size is best determined by the muscle tone and vascular flow within the tissue - both of which can be 'trained.'

Obviously childbirth and other deliberate, prolonged extreme stretching can/will affect the basic frame; but on the cartilaginous (maybe ligament?) level.

I think there is a very strong correlation between state of mind and genital function in women. Just as in men.

I've had a couple girlfriends who I've massaged to balloon out, and then massage in to contract around one finger.

Obviously childbirth represents a more permanent change to the underlying shape, but there is an arousal feedback loop for women (just like men.)

I don't personally believe that multiple partners makes a woman looser. I'm more likely to think that multiple partners makes a women have a more difficult time achieving an arousal feedback loop.

Just as it might also be the case with experiencing the same predictable sex with the same person repeatedly.

On purpose
 

Like you, I'm no "expert". Just visualising the situation where a "paramour" deliberately "opens-up" a married Partner with "prolonged Magic Wand insertion" and so render her "tiny-rigged" Hubby "redundant", causing her to regularly seek him for "confidential sexual satisfaction".

Gorgeous
 

What a sexy lady you are and what a gorgeous pussy you have and display. I for one would love to be able to enter you and enjoy your hot wetness.

I am by no means the largest, but I am sure we could have a lot of fun together.

Satisfaction.
 

Perhaps, just perhaps there is a Married, Perverted Person of Status, whose "normal" but equally Status Wife does NOT want "the extra" ? Perhaps, just perhaps there is a "lesser Business Client", whose wife can provide the "extra" to compensate for HER lack of "satisfaction", in return for "favours" ? So, for "sexual solace", their needs become "mutual" .

Nice
 

Beth, I think you are within the normal range. I wouldn't worry about it, there is always a guy who will be turned by what you have. And I can guarantee the guys on the nude beach are intrigued.

Vaginal tightness is somewhat irrelevant in my opinion.

Women are equipped with vaginas, but also hands, mouths, asses, and cleavage. If a male partner wants different pleasures on his dick, its up to him to explore the options.

Any port in a storm.

Hot Wife
 

I danced naked in my 20s and my husband has always liked watching me with other men. I got religion and settled down in my 30s and 40s but I had learned to love big huge dicks. My husbands dick is tiny and when I turned 50 or so I went through menopause. After that my sex drive went through the roof. I went out to a bar, dressed like a tramp, (I'm good at that now), found and fucked a well hung man. I came and came like I never had with my husband. My husband has a really talented tongue and makes me come hard when he eats me. Well I've caught him masturbating too much. One thing led to another and now his tiny dick is locked in a secure chastity cage. I've let myself free to go out and find big dicks to fuck me. It isn't too hard to get them if you dress like a tramp, no bra, or panties etc.... I now have Hubby trained to even help me find big dicked men. He still loves to see me take on a huge dick and now after about 10 years of fucking huge dicks my pussy is so loose my husband couldn't feel me if I let him, which of course I don't. Hubby gets his monthly slow hand job tied to the bed. Sometimes now he even goes over and picks up the guy that's going to fuck me. He always thanks them when they finish with me, then he licks my pussy clean. And yes, Hubby can get his hand up inside me now. I like big dicks, my husband can't give me what I need, and he likes to watch. If my pussy is now permanently stretched then that's fine with me too. Here are some pictures of me when I was young and dancing at clubs naked. This was the first big black dick I fucked when I was young in the first picture. I remember really liking it. The other picture is me at 60 years old and one of my present black lovers huge dick. Bigger is better.

I have been pretty much single all of my life. I am 60+ years old now. I started my sexual life at the age of 15. I have had a few long-term relationships over the years but for the most part, I was single. In some of those relationships, we were swingers. So, with that said I have had many, many sexual partners. I lost count but I can estimate around 1000 different women. Tightness was never an issue. In fact, some of the girls that were too tight were not good sexual partners. Because of the fear of hurting them. I am not a big guy. Not too long but it does have some girth. I would consider myself average though.

Many years ago, I was dating one girl that was into fisting. She loved it when I could put my whole hand into her vagina. We practiced it often. So, it is suffice to say she was not tight. Sex with her was very much enjoyable. With that said, she practiced kegel exercises. So, when she wanted to, she could squeeze my cock while it was inside her and make it very tight. With her being able to take both of my whole hands in her vagina and her anus at the same time she was one of the tightest women I have ever been with because of her strong pelvic muscles because of the exercises she had done.

26 and loose
 

My wife is 26 and naturally above average loose pussy. I’ve noticed this since the first few times we had sex when she was 19-20. I was able to almost get my hand inside her without lube, only her natural wetnesss. I’m not sure if having several big dick guys in her college years contributed to it but I enjoy it. She also pushed out her first baby(9lbs) at 23 with ease. Further proof she is naturally open. I actually hope one day her pussy is big and open like yours.

Beth that is the most beautiful thing I have seen in ages. I could happily Neal down and worship that sexy pussy of yours every night. You are simply perfect. I would love to hear more about you and definitely want to see more of your crazy hot body. Wow.

Fascinating notion! I wish I'd thought of that. I was under the impression that it's up to her to decide if he may explore the options.

I agree with you. It's up to her, not up to him.

Giving my 2 cents on this topic:
Tightness is not super important in my opinion. I haven't been with many women but some women feel tigher or less tight than the other. And pretty much all women I've been with have given vaginal birth and in general they all felt good/hot/tight. And their pussies sure made me cum pretty easily.

My wife is by far the most experienced one, has been with many men. She is able to "receive" larger toys and gets fisting every now and then. But her pussy recovers from that easily and feels tight tight tight from the inside while having sex.

Learning how to use what you have
 

When I compare the three major women in my life and tightness all are different.

My first wife felt normal when we started having sex comparisons to the prior woman I was with.

But after my first wife gave birth, wow what a difference and later found out she was a little unique.

Her pussy hole never closed back up after having a baby, she lay down spread her legs and her perfectly round hole was visible about an inch and half in diameter. My cock would slide right in no effort at all.

She loved to be fisted something we never could do before. We made adjustments to make things work.

She really enjoyed being on top and pressing forward with her clit against my cock working up and down worked.

She was also more inclined to finish me off with a blow job. She said she loved tasting her pussy juice on my cock.

After we were divorced, a story I posted about working a go go bar and sucking cock for money.

She shared with me also how much she loved large diameter cocks, not super long but cocks with massive girth.

One of her blow job events when working , she said a guy was so large in diameter she could barely get her mouth around it. She said it turned her on so much she offered to fuck him for free because she enjoyed being fisted so much.

She said it was wonderful and got off like a rocket sitting on him.

Now my second wife had a very small pussy and to have sex it needs to be prepped orally or gel to penetrate her.

She was the first to cum one after another and another each time dumping and soaking me. It was great, she had two kids but both were born cesarean so the pussy stayed very tight her whole life.

She is the one in all my early photos 80s girl and other posts along with many stories of her exhibition desires.

Now my girl of today, she is the perfect fit also again never having any kids. She admitted her past she had been with some guys that were just to big and it hurt to have sex.

I found that out when I purchased a life like dildo for her I measured my self and went one size larger, she got it and said no it’s too big and not comfortable. That is when she admitted some guys are not for her.

Now that’s my take on size , you can adjust is most cases.

Would be courious as to other guys and girls experience with this

You can always PM me with down and dirty.

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