Does your wife gives blowjobs regularly?
 

I have been dating a girl long distance and we are finally planning to meet. The girl is hot and if everything goes well one day I am planning to marry her. Since we have been talking for a long time we have now been started to get comfortable each other and have been discussing sex.

She told me that there was a guy before me her ex-boyfriend who she used to fuck once a week. The guys was cheating on her with several other girls and she was in rotation on one of the week days. Somehow one girl came to know about this and as she found out details of all the other girls and notified her. He had promised marriage to all of them and was mass dumped by all of the them lol. I am ok with her sexual past with a playboy but when we were discussing and I was asking her sexual preferences, she told me that she doesn't likes oral sex and even to her ex-boyfriend she seldomly gave oral sex mostly it was boring vanilla missionary sex. I don't believe her and know she is lying.

Issue is she is in a way setting up grounds for our future sexual relationship that I should not be expecting any oral sex from her and it is not her thing, she sees me as a future husband. Now in your experiences what have you guys seen, is she just shit testing me? Have anyone able to convince his wife/girlfriend to change her opinion on this? I might need to spend $$$ just to meet her and find out. No BJs are a deal breaker for me as it is the same for me as foreplay is for women. As there are a lot of experienced folks would be nice to know, what you guys think and how many of you get regular BJs?

I think she is being serious about not wanting to do BJ's. I wouldn't go with her on that principle, unless she is willing to do it with a condom which i would accept, anything less and you're settling for disappointment.

In answer to the question at the start of your post: yes!

However, I can shed a bit more light on it. My wife has a group of four very close friends and a few years ago, while away in a hotel for the night, they actually had a drunken chat about blowjobs. She reported back to me, of course. :-)

Of the five of them: my wife was the only one who admitted she loved giving BJs. One of them said she "didn't mind" doing it (my wife thinks this lady actually does like giving them, but was afraid to say it for some reason), two of them said they were meh on BJs, but viewed them as part of foreplay. A "duty" almost. Finally, the fifth wrinkled her nose up and said she hated giving them and her husband was lucky if he got sucked once a year, maybe for their anniversary or his birthday. Poor guy.

Anyway, I don't think these numbers are in any way significant. I'm def not saying "1 in 5 women...." or anything like that. I just find it interesting that these five, who are all the same age and grew up in the same (British) culture, have within their number pretty much every opinion on this issue.

Congratulations, you've lured a long time lurker into being a poster with this question.

My wife does, my best friend's wife gives none at all, but that's not what you really want to know. What you want to know is "will she give me regular blowjobs?" and the bad news is that no one on this board or any other can answer that question for sure, only she can and that still leaves the question as to whether she will.

From your story, it sounds like it might be a "shit test" especially if as you say she's "hot" and has been used for sex before, but that's only a guess based on your take (which is understandably biased towards that interpretation already). I also wouldn't gamble on "convincing her" to change her opinion; for every story about a guy who successfully convinced his wife to do something, there are at least a thousand who failed because we generally don't tell those stories.

Best advice I can give is to ask. Personally I'd lay it all out for her. Tell her that blowjobs are a must have for you, that you get the impression they're not something she will do but you're not sure if that's accurate, that since you've only been long distance until now you hope that's evidence enough that it's clearly not just about sex at this point, and that you don't want either of you to be unhappy going forward so some straight answers benefit you both: How does she feel about blowjobs? If she's willing to give them how often does she think is reasonable?

Use your own judgement and adapt to your style/circumstances as necessary of course but if it truly is a deal breaker for you, do your future self a favor and treat it like one instead of like a "nice to have." :)

Anyway, that's my take do with it as you will. Going back to lurking now.

Best of luck!

My wife
 

My wife is another one that loves to give blow jobs and her enthusiasm shows in the awesome job she does BUT...she does not swallow. I am wondering if that might be the issue for your lady.

My wife says my loads are too big for her to handle (they are huge) and that I'll drown her! I know that any time she tries, she ends up gagging, choking and coughing in a most unsexy way, lol, so I'll easily trade off the swallow for the intense pleasure of her BJ and last second hand job! As far as I know, she has never swallowed for her "boyfriend" either but I think that's because she won't do for him what she won't do for me.

Have you asked her if it's sucking a cock in general that she doesn't like or is it just the end result? How about her previous experiences? If former lovers were too rough or just jammed it down her throat, then of course she's going to be turned off to it. You definitely need to have a serious talk with her so that both of you understand the other's feelings.

Coming back in for one more post, to agree with SyFoster here on point 2. What might surprise is that my wife, who has loved giving BJs for about 20 years, didn't when we first hooked up. It wasn't any great mind game from me that converted her to liking them. It turned out that her previous BF (only guy she'd fucked before me) was what she called a "leaker". What she meant by that was that he produced (and leaked) a lot of pre-cum, while she was trying to blow him and she didn't like that. By the end of their relationship she had decided she didn't like blowjobs and made him wear a condom whenever she did give him one.

Luckily for me, I don't produce much pre-cum at all, and she gradually changed her mind over the first few months of our relationship. Turned out she liked being able to give pleasure this way, when she wasn't dealing with a steady stream of something she didn't like the taste of.

So, if the reason this lady doesn't like giving BJs is Sy's point 2, then the good news is that it is possible she might change.

What she told me so far is that she just doesn't likes it, doesn't enjoys giving it. She tried it with her ex. But she does like getting oral sex. I asked if she will be ok with 69 where we can mutually pleasure each other but she said no. She will receive oral sex and enjoy but is not willing to give it back, which I think is selfish.

I also asked if she enjoys me cumming on her various body parts. She was ok with all other places except face, which she said, she finds very disrespectful. I have a feeling somehow she feels that sucking cock is something only sl*ts do. I am not sure if there is a way out of it. Sexually to me it is like what foreplay is to women, makes me hard real quick, like women get wet with foreplay.

My last girlfriend was very good at it and that is what I miss a lot about her sexually. I am also not sure if this is something I should be dumping this girl for if everything else looks good with her and she still refuses to suck at all. Leaves me with a lot of sexual frustration for the entire relationship.

I will try and talk to her as you guys suggested. But what I have understand from conversations so far is that most of the girls don't do it in marriage and only some like doing it out of which mostly are just doing it to please their partners and don't actually like it themselves, so a very few women are out there who actually love it.

I went out with a girl who, while we were in the flirting phase in a bar with a load of my and her mates around, she proudly declared she didn't like beetroot, never had, and ever since one of her friends had told her it tasted a bit like cum she would never even try it. She thought the idea of tasting cum was disgusting and she would never give blow jobs.

A week later we are in bed together for the first time and during some amazing 'vanilla' sex it pulled out my cock and flipped round into a 69 position with me on top, and she calmly took it all in her mouth and sucked me off till I shot my load down her throat. I felt a bit guilty but when I looked at her she was smiling a big smile as she swallowed it all.

Those first few months (tones of relationship honeymoon sex) I probably spent more time with my cock in her mouth than in her pussy. So you never know how it will play out. But, if a girl you have met turns you on, she likes you, and you only ever have a load of "vanilla" sex with that girl because that's what she likes, then life still sounds very very good to me.

1: tell her u really like BJd
2: fly to meet her, give her the time of her life, test her in bed, ask if shell suck it. She might, in this setting. Make sure you've eaten 'yes foods' so your cum tastes good, and that your dick is clean, and make it a good experience for her.
3: run the relationship and see if you get BJs willingly. If not, and its a must-have, dump her.

1: tell her u really like BJd
2: fly to meet her, give her the time of her life, test her in bed, ask if shell suck it. She might, in this setting. Make sure you've eaten 'yes foods' so your cum tastes good, and that your dick is clean, and make it a good experience for her.
3: run the relationship and see if you get BJs willingly. If not, and its a must-have, dump her.

BJ's
 

I'm a wife and I can't imagine NOT giving my hubby BJ's. He loves them and I love giving them even more than shagging him. I would be disappointed if he didn't fill my mouth with his cum, I love every drop of it and always swallow all of it. I love the taste!

As the sole act, meaning she sucks me to finish and that’s all we do, it’s maybe once a week. I think sometimes she knows I’m horny but we don’t have time or she doesn’t want to go through the whole charade of sex. But she still enjoys it and enjoys knowing it’s getting me off. As part of sex it’s nearly always part of the foreplay. I eat her out and make her cum and she sucks my dick a while before we fuck.

I have been doubly blessed. Both my first wife (deceased) and second wife love sucking cock. I never have to ask for it. They just do it.

Exactly
 

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Well said, Sy! :)

My wife is at a cross-roads bj-wise. Before me, she blew a guy almost every day; bfs, friends, whoever wanted one. She loved it.

Then she met me and got "serious", and decided that bjs reminded her of her skanky past (although I told her she was a grown woman and it's awesome no matter what she did). Nothing I said could help her shake that feeling.

She wouldn't give me bjs for a long time. My first wife and other women I had dated never, ever did it, so I was used to the disappointment.

Then my wife suddenly got into bjs for a while. She was absolutely terrible at it, and they only lasted 30-45 seconds, so it more of a tease than anything, which made me wish she didn't do it.

Then, recently, she has started doing them again. Still rare, but they last about 2 minutes each time, which is improvement.

Hopefully she starts doing them again regularly and have them last longer.

It never used to bother me until her best friend, who is generally very reserved and conservative, once told my wife that she wakes up her husband with bjs every single morning and she loves doing it so much. (That is quite the alarm clock!!) Yet my wife, who wants sex every single day even after 20 years, and she wants it anywhere and everywhere, hates bjs.

(On the flip side, she also hates when I go down on her for the same reasons stated above. The other day, though, I went down there and she had some of the best orgasms she has ever had, so there's a plot twist.)

Thanks! I think I get your point. To answer your question yes, we dated for a few months but didn't go all the way that was before covid. Then she got stuck in other part of the world during covid and now I met her again last year once travel restrictions were off but briefly.

I understand that it is very shallow of me to dump her only for that reason. I thought I was just looking for a way to convert her from not liking BJs to liking BJs. Also, somehow I had this misunderstanding that if she loves me enough she will do it for me, I never had a problem with getting BJs in any of my relationships before.

But you put it right way it should not be the reason break the relationship. I will try some of the suggestions that other members in the posted, but if it still doesn't happens then I guess all I can tell myself if that some guys are just lucky!!

Marianne Blowjob
 

As Marianne got older, her interest in sex as decreased. She would actually rather give me a blow job...quicker for her. lol As an aside, she said in high school she thought blow jobs were only reserved for guys she loved. She did a lot of one nighters in high school...it was the 70's lol. She thought girls who gave blow jobs at will were sl*ts. Coming from the girl who had one nighters with around 25 guys lol.

My partner likes to give them, but it more foreplay for us. When we first started, she was enthusiastic, but not exceptional... sort of middle of the road skill-wise. If I say so myself, she is outstanding now :D

She likes to swallow but doesn't most of the time. If we are on the road or she is just in the mood to make me cum quickly, she will do it. Otherwise, in her words, she thinks it is a waste to finish me off with a blowjob.

Gnome posted that his did in the past but changed her opinion and thought it was dirty/sl*tty. My partner is younger, and I honestly think she puts a blowjob and handjob on about the same level. I resist the urge to argue differently!

Not a wife, but my partner.

She'll drag a pair of shorts off me within minutes of coming into the house and blow me (and swallow) without prompting. It has been this way since we got together.

my wife does it every day
 

She likes to do BJ and swallows every drop. With special couples she does it also.

Ya, I think age has a lot to do with it, but generation, too. My wife and I are solid GenX, whereas Millennials (and now older GenZ being about 25yo) have a very much more laxxed opinion about its "dirtiness".

I'll ask.

Interesting topic: the Mrs. does without me ever asking for it. Blowjobs are involved every time we have sex. Usually it starts as foreplay and then she wants to get fucked. But other times it will be a blowjob all the way.

And I can relate to the topic starter. Before I was with the Mrs. I was dating another lady and I would eat her pussy really really good all the time and after 3 months in I began to wonder why she would never "return the favor" (although she was goooood at handjobs!) her answer was "I never tried and I don't think I want to, but you can give me oral sex".

Ooookkaaaayyy.... yeah, that didn't work out well.
But now I'm blessed witht he Mrs, who's a total blowjob queen!

Nope
 

Nope

Same here.

Nothing's planned, but foreplay will involve oral with both of us giving and receiving which sometimes ends up in her finishing me off (and swallowing every time) or me finishing her off...a couple of times! :)


God bless woman's capacity for multiple orgasms.

Often is the time I lick and nibble her fanny (UK version of it, not the US one) until she comes, then we continue to vaginal penetrative sex, and then I've started on her orally again :) and she'll come a third time. Sometimes we progress to anal, but that means no more oral for the evening.

Of course, by this stage she's not actually exhausted, but hornier than when we began. By the time she's cumming a third time if often involves Amrita fluid (female ejaculate) where she's squirting...and I get laid down to drink that stuff down. The nectar of the Gods, it gets called, the fountain of youth. :)

I learned this trick early... giving her your full attention and guaranteeing her 2-3 orgasms every time is guaranteed to ensure (a) she ain't ever leaving you as you're giving her all she needs and more and (b) she's also doing everything to satisfy you, i.e. blowjobs regularly, anal, whatever you want.

Exhausted by the time we collapse onto the bed, she'll moan about her 'pulverised pussy' and then laugh that laugh she has and head for the shower from where she'll shout that I 'destroyed her clit' to the point she can't find it and her fanny (UK version) is 'bent out of shape' :)

I aim to please. :D

Of course, loving her and with her happiness my primary concern, sometimes I need to check that clit and fanny the following morning, just to make sure she's fully functional again! :D

And while I can't cum again a second time the way she does in a single session, the following morning I'm good to go again and she's ready for more. It's a very regular Saturday night into Sunday morning routine. If it has resulted in vaginal sex on a Saturday night, Sunday morning is guaranteed anal because early morning sex has me harder than night time sex and all the bits fit together for that very easily :) If we do end up doing anal on a Saturday night, Sunday morning is guaranteed vaginal sex.

Of course, there's days when I'm home from work before her, I've showered and changed and have some dinner cooking. She'll come in, ask how long the rice, potatoes, pasta, whatever has to cook. 'About 10 minutes'.

In an instant, she can be on her knees, my shorts pulled down and my cock in her mouth. Sometimes I'll manage to last the full 10 minutes, sometimes I don't, sometimes the pasta is well overcooked :o

But in our house, it's blowjobs on demand and often blowjobs for the fun of them, at unexpected moments and not something I've asked for (but willingly accept) :)

My wife is Regular if needed?
 

With everybody in out house being NUDE most of the time and having our playful moments, we can take care of each other or share the pleasure with others!
Being on the computer and sharing pics along with chatting to many of our friends & neighbors, its easy to have a bobbing boner that I might want finished off or have it last longer~
The main idea to be Nude in the house was suppose to be just for being on the computer together, this way we both can see WHO is getting excited as well as Who is doing it to them!
Then when were both horny and turned on, my wife gets down to start doing oral on me so that I'll pay more attention to her as the same time.
But having some of my buddy's stopping over the house got to be a regular thing, I'm not sure if they wanted to visit with me mostly or after knowing just how playful my wife can get they maybe could get a little "Lucky" with her? As for anything it all comes down to fun as far we're all concerned here, if my wife goes too overboard in being frisky I might end up seeing them doing the same to her~
I find it even thrilling to watch then my wife exposes that she got a buddy of mine in a erection, so if I don't mention to her are you just going to leave him hanging? She'll take care of his erection on her own, then it get more exciting when I'm watching and I can talk with him or her? But I find it more of a turn on talking to her just so she has to take a break from doing oral and respond back to me~ lol
Another thing that I found real interesting early was going out with a girlfriend that was kind of Higher up in the Medical field, she did oral on me the 1st night that I got to meet her in a BAR!
Doing a make out session in my car, while talking to her in a sexual nature was started out by her and not me!
She told me about her job and the many women that works with her and all the Naughty things they talk about at work! She told me by hearing them talking about doing oral on a guys cock got her so interested that she had to give it a try~ She said that many of the women told her about having the guy CUM in their mouths, then some would swallow it while others spit it out!
She told me that she was thinking about giving that a try too, but at the time it was too late for me cause I was just done with shooting my load on her huge tits~
I'm glad we had much more interactions and I got to do and enjoy plenty with her during the time we went out~
Having a good time with my wife and many other women friends too, never made for a problem with having oral done on me! But during the years I talked to a few guys and their wife's only did handy work on them and nothing else! Having that done is exciting and if your wife doesn't perform it, your missing out~
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No Beej... No Date #2
 

I'm of the opinion that every car must be test driven. I'm also of the opinion that if she doesn't reciprocate with oral sex, there will not be another date.

I'm 65, my wife is 60. She gave me an awesome beej the first time we fell into the bed, and it's never stopped. I've never heard her say she "loves" swallowing, but she does it without theatrics and seems to enjoy giving the pleasure.

Just as I enjoy (I actually LOVE) giving her oral pleasure.

And therein lies the problem with meeting online and communicating long distance. People fall in love prior to taking the proverbial test drive. And then they're stuck.

Most of my guy friends still have mutual oral with their wives. Those whose wives don't give oral - in every case, their husbands find the oral magic elsewhere.

NEVER settle. There's plenty of fish in that giant ocean...

Completely agree with every word

My wife still loves to suck and loves to swallow when she takes me to orgasm. We are both 55. Like above, blowjobs are usually part of foreplay. I’ll usually want to finish in her pussy so it is me that ends it because I’d rather be in her. The other thing is I’ll get so turned on and feel somewhat “guilty” so I will pull her legs around and over my face so we can 69. Finishing that way is pure heaven too.

Regardless of if she takes my orgasm in her mouth or we end up having intercourse I consider myself lucky that she loves to suck. Especially when I talk to friends, most who say their wives have stopped with that.

My wife still loves to suck and loves to swallow when she takes me to orgasm. We are both 55. Like above, blowjobs are usually part of foreplay. I’ll usually want to finish in her pussy so it is me that ends it because I’d rather be in her. The other thing is I’ll get so turned on and feel somewhat “guilty” so I will pull her legs around and over my face so we can 69. Finishing that way is pure heaven too.

Regardless of if she takes my orgasm in her mouth or we end up having intercourse I consider myself lucky that she loves to suck. Especially when I talk to friends, most who say their wives have stopped with that.

Number of bonings!
 

I was pretty active in my younger days, then I realized how much I enjoyed giving BJ's and just about stopped boning guys and started sucking their cocks instead. I would estimate my times boned by different guys at around 25 or so and my BJ's in the triple digits. I lost count of my BJ number years ago! I can get off whilst sucking cock and that makes it a no-brainer for me. A good BJ is a lot easier, no undressing, you can do it almost anywhere, and no mess usually (I swallow!!) And as a big bonus, guys love it as much as I do!!

My wife is 66 years young and for the past 15 years or so she just can't get enough of sucking my cock. The wife prefers sucking cock over fucking. She sucks me off 2 to 3 times a week! And will take my load in her mouth but only rarely swallows it. That's ok by me as I love getting a blowjob as much as she loves doing it.

Here is a quick pic of her in action.

wife
 

YES, don't all?

No, I'm cut so bjs aren't great. I'd rather unload in hairy pussy.

I haven't had very many partners who didn't suck cock. At least for very long. I think that oral is a basic skill, like fucking and fingering/ hand jobs, and can't imagine being with a woman very often who didn't have the basic skills and want to appy them frequently. To me, anal is sort of a special case, some women really love it, some will do it, some hate it. It's not a deal beaker, but the basic skills are a must for any regular partner.

A little
Late to the party WilmaJean but I do like your thinkin… ;)

My experience is similar. Other than a one night stand, I don’t recall any partners in the past who didn’t suck my cock as part of what we did in bed. Of course it’s been a long time. I’ve been married 35 years. I don’t know if girls dating today suck cock regularly.

Based on conversations with friends, many of their wives do not suck. About half say their wives do not suck cock anymore, or “only on my birthday if lucky”. Some of them say it’s not important, they just get to fucking once she’s wet enough.

I seem to be in the minority of my group that has a wife that sucks cock quite regularly. My wife really enjoys sucking me to completion, and swallows which I love. Two of the “wife never sucks” friends have joked that I should share my wife. I’ve replied that if she agreed I would. I have to say the thought turns me on.

I am very fortunate mine still sucks.

Yeah, beyond a basic skill, my experience is that most women get turned on (get really wet) while sucking. I"ve even had partners who came just from sucking.
If she won't or isn't interested, move on.

Yes she does
 

I also have many friends that their wives sucking cock days are over.

Must be one of the lucky ones , my girl also gets soaking wet while sucking, it’s great she climbs on and slides right in.

Just a couple of strokes will cum from the excitement and soaks me.

Does anyone else share the same experience?

My wife doesn't seem to have any problems!
 

My wife always enjoyed doing oral on cocks and that was my main reason for me trying to get introduced to her, so she'll suck on my cock and let me CUM in her mouth!
Right now my wife is on vacation at our other house and I'm sure she is still keeping up with her Oral tradition!
I have a cousin that is Divorced from his beautiful wife and they lived a few miles away from our vacation house!
So now being Divorced my cousin stays at out place and watches it for Us, along with paying the utility bills and association fee for area work and other stuff!
So with that being said, my wife will go to the Local Strip BAR's and dance some to keep friends and family thrilled!
But I know she won't leave any RED marks on my cousins cock or some other Lucky guy!
The one advantage to letting my wife enjoy herself is my cousins Ex-wife still loves to come over and visit when she knows we're at the house!
Then finding all of Us NUDE in the Hot tub, made her go along with the program and join in which I never expected!
As things progressed to the next sexual level with my wife doing handy work and oral on her Ex-Hubby!
She felt that she could do one up and took control of my cock by hand and mouth!
So when it CUM's to oral, our women are still Ok with it and enjoy doing it as much as possible!
Now I just have to wait till my wife gets home for my share of that pleasure too!
But I'm glad we have wonderful neighbors wife's to enjoy here! lol
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