How open are wives/GFs about masturbation?
 

Early on in our relationship, my would-be wife and I used to have sex almost everyday. Neither of us could get enough. She had (and still does for that matter after almost 20 years) an absolutely smoking hot, tight body, with long black hair, and an ass to die for. She is also very adventurous in the bedroom and open to dirty talk, role play, and other fun and games. But, early on in our relationship one time when we were having sex I asked her about her masturbation habits, and she got all embarrassed. With a little smile, she claimed outright that she didn’t regularly masturbate. I suspected that she wasn’t being forthcoming but decided not to dwell on the subject.

Often when we would mess around I would encourage her to touch herself and bring herself to orgasm in front of me. After a couple drinks she would usually willingly oblige. I found it hot AF to listen to her moans and watch her get off. But, even though she was comfortable to play with herself in front of me, whenever I asked her how often she masturbates by herself she would always deny she ever did.

Fast forward several years to 2020. To help deal with the boredom resulting from COVID restrictions/shutdowns, I bought my wife a new sex toy, the satisfyer penguin. I definitely made the right choice. She absolutely loves the thing. She said that she’s never experienced that kind of pleasure before and laughed that it might become addictive. On one occasion when she was using it on herself at full power she squirted for the first time in her life, completely soaking the bed sheets. She was really embarrassed when that happened but I reassured her that it was completely natural, and that I actually found it super sexy. I told her that she should use it by herself anytime she wanted and not be embarrassed about it, but she basically laughed it off.

About a week ago, I was surfing the net trying to decide what kind of new toy to buy her. I happened to notice in a write up about the penguin that it is waterproof and can be used in the shower and bath. I had totally missed that when I first bought it. I mentioned this to my wife and told her that I would leave it in the shower so that she could use it whenever the urge arose. She laughed and said that it wasn’t necessary. But, I put it in the shower room anyway. I placed it in a corner on a shelf where it would not get wet while someone was taking a shower. After that, every time after my wife had a shower, I would check to see if it had been moved or was wet. For a few days, no luck. It never moved from where I had put it and was always totally dry.

Yesterday, as I was going out the door to run some errands, my wife had just completed her morning workout and was about to take a shower. I told her I would be back in about an hour. When I got back, as usual, I checked the penguin. To my surprise it was in the same corner but positioned at a different angle and all wet. I was pretty sure that she had finally used it by herself. I didn’t say anything to her right away though. I waited until later that night when we were relaxing and having a glass of wine. When I asked her, she gave me a big guilty smile. I said that she must have used it because it was moved and all wet. She said ‘yes, when I got into the shower I saw the penguin and I realized that you were out and I could relax and use it without you possibly barging in.” This was a huge step - it was really exciting to hear her finally admit her ‘dirty deed’! I told her that she should use it anytime she wants, even when I’m in the house. I said that we could even set a time period during which I absolutely would not come into the bedroom and she could have total privacy to play with her toy. Of course, I would love to watch or participate but there’s also something extremely arousing about the idea of my wife playing with herself alone without me. Anyway, unfortunately she has not yet come around to my idea of of a ‘masturbation break’ so to speak. I plan to keep encouraging her though!

Curious if others have similar experiences and how other wives/GFs react when the topic of their masturbation comes up?

By the way, sorry for the really rough description of everything. I realize I’m much more of a photographer (of my wife anyway) than a writer! ;)

Today no shame...
 

For a long time ago most girls and women masturbate, but they rarely admitted it because they were ashamed....

My first girlfriend (She was short before 16th birthday) first answered not if I ask her if and how often she masturbated... But one day we walk in the wood and came to a meadow. I kissed her, fiddled with her breasts, grabbed her under her panties until she was wet. Then I bet her to do it before me and she does it - with a red head... Until she got an orgasm.

My wife does it from first day before me and had no problem with it. She talk about masturbation to her sisters and brothers, to her girlfriends, to me and our friends. She masturbated since she was 8 yo very often. Her older siblings and cousins showed her to do.

She loves to masturbate until today and most time she masturbates more often than we have sex...

Before over 4 years we opened our relationship and she masturbates before other men and women without shame...

I love it when she does it before me and other people...

The day after I met my wife, I asked her if she masturbated, and she said of course and even pulled out all of her toys to show me.

She said she had done it twice a day since her 19th birthday (but not a single time before then). But she has only done it twice since we were married. She said it makes her feel really down because sex is so much better.

Two different views
 

First wife said masturbation had no place in a marriage, that if either of us needed relief the other was there to help. She always carried through, always ready to fuck or give a blow job.

Current wife was open to masturbation right from the start, did it often and regularly and encouraged me to participate. She brought with her an amazing array of battery-powered toys, but was quite skilled with just her hands, too. Fucked herself with various fruits and vegetables, liked peeled cucumbers the best.

My wife once told me of a masturbation trick that she used as a teen.

We have both been social nudists since we were kids. She has always greeted friends with hugs and kisses. And I still get a big thrill when we approach a group of nude people and she starts her greetings.

Most nudists do the A frame hug, avoiding accidental contact with any part of their bodies. Julie has always stood straight for hugs, providing ample opportunity for her breasts and other parts to make contact. She hugs that way with both women and men.

A few years after we were married I got a big thrill when she hugged 4 guys in a row and I knew that one of them had been a previous teen age boyfriend when she was 17. Before we married she had told me how she used let the head of his dick just go in to get wet then she would slide it up to rub it up and down on her clitoris until she came. Essentially, she would masturbate using his dick. Because she wanted to stay a virgin and feared getting pregnant she never let it go in all the way. I trusted her but that did seem awfully close to me.

My wife never masturbated before, ever, before we were married. But she will, on occasion, permit me to use a Hitachi Magic Wand on her. Occasionally, she'll use it while I watch. But she never uses alone for some reason. The Hitachi is the only way she can climax, and is the closest I can get her to actually 'rubbing one out'.

When we were teens dating, we were parked somewhere making out, this was even before we were doing anything sexual. She stopped me and asked if I masturbated, the question was so unexpected I kind of stumbled through a yes answer. Then she told me that the night before she was putting on her nightgown and her hand brushed against her pussy, she felt a good tingle and kept going until she had her 1st orgasm. Now she wanted me to do to her what she did to herself and she would do the same. That night we did exactly that.

So we've been open about masturbation for a long time.

The wife loves masturbating and she gets off on me watching her.
I will sometimes ask her what she is thinking about, but she always says nothing, just how good it feels. At this point she has always said the same thing, so I doubt it's going to change. She doesn't masturbate by herself. She did occasionally in the past, but she much rather does it with me as not only I enjoy it, but it makes her feel sexier. She also likes loooooong sessions. We're talking hours. A few times she's looked at me and said, "I can't stop..."
I have my triggers for revving her up while she is enjoying herself with varying degrees of success. In no particular order of sexiness some of them are...
Physical:
rubbing her nipples
taking her photo
videoing her with the front camera so she can see herself working away on her pussy
mild SM play like spanking, pulling her hair or grabbing her throat

Mental: Telling her...
how sexy each part of her body is
how hard her nipples are
all the saucy things she's done over the years
what I like to do to her
fantasy role play several people watching her etc.
making her tell me that she wants people to look at her or that she is tied up and vulnerable

These last two she needs to be revved up, but if she is, they will push her over the edge really quick.

Early in our relationship my now wife would tell me when she’d masturbated in her bedroom or at work, and I’ve always loved watching her masturbate during sex.

We have a massager - mainly for back, but sometimes during sex play. I left a phone cam running when she was home alone a while back, and discovered she usually massages herself when she’s alone - to two or three orgasms each time!

The wife from Menorca
 

Hello, I'm the wife from Menorca (Contribution # 2).

Yes, please, girls and women, do it with yourself, so much joy, and you learn what a boy / man must do with your body to have fun for both. There i no reason to shame, there is no reason to hide before your partner.

It was very hot and a littlebit crazy when I masturbated for the first time by our couple friends a good four years ago and that was the opener to have sex together soon after...

I have masturbated for all my boyfriends before Menorca, today I masturbate nearly every day for my or my husbands fun and since some time before other guys and ladies. I love it - he loves it, too!

Hope every mum tells their daughter(s) how to do it or to show the girls how it works...

My wife has no taboo about masturbation (although she has taboos about a lot of other things).
When/if she's in the "mood" or relieving some stress, she might just rub one out in bed before going to sleep.
It's a "solo party", and I'm not invited. I don't take offense, it's her "personal sex time." It's actually funny to me to hear her moaning and groaning before orgasming right next to me.
She'll also say that she's not thinking of anything other than her pussy; and I believe her (men usually do think of sex while masturbating.)

She's even done it once while sunbathing nude next to me, legs spread open (no one was around.) I thought she was asleep but she was actually quietly rubbing her clit when I looked over.

It's a bit of a double-standard too. If I was to start jerking off in bed, she would actually be a little offended that I'm not putting it in her lol! Maybe it's also because it's messier when it's guys masturbating. Or she'd assume I'm thinking about someone else's pussy as I'm stroking (which I might lol!).

But all in all, I think it's good for the marriage. She knows she can have her own pleasure without necessarily getting a dick or fingers jamming her.

Very. One time we were coming home from a road trip and she told me she rubbed one out in the back while she was "sleeping"

When my wife and I didn't want to go through with sex we would mutually masturbate. I have no illusions that she doesn't do it when I'm not around. I'm 100% sure she does. I did catch her once when she was on a break from work.
When she came inside the house(we live in FL and she was out by the pool) I kissed her hard, turned her around, pulled down the sweats she had on, bent her over the island and fucked her hard. We both enjoyed that.

Used to be shy.
 

My wife used to be quite shy about masturbation, would be embarrassed to do it in front of me.

Several times I've encouraged her to masturbate in front of some of our friends.

She said she was mortified, but was so hot and carried away that once she got started all she thought about was making herself cum.

Now, often while they are taking pictures of her, they encourage her to play with herself. She now tells me that knowing that they are watching her so closely, and can see her orgasm and totally lose control, it just adds to her excitement and enjoyment.

Here's some shot by our friends of her in action.

My wife does it, but claims to not do it all that often. She gets shy if I bring the subject up, but on other occasions she can be quite brazen about it. I've watched her many times (and she has watched me) and I've caught her a few times too. The day I bought her her first vibrator was a epic day - she mesaaged me at work to tell me how her first 2 or 3 orgasms felt, then demonstrated it for me that night.

A few years ago, met a lady via a video chat with another lady I was fucking. They also played together, and wanted a FMF. First time I met her, she was getting naked and kissing her friend.

Later, we got together by video 2x before we got together in person (lived in different cities). She showed me how she hot off with her fingers and various toys, I showed her how far I could shoot my cum.

Got together with her and her friend several times. The loved to 69 each other while I fucked one of them.

When we got together in person. She would jill off for me between rounds of fucking, girl could cum a lot. I would frequently wake up in the night, feeling her rubbing herself off. Sometimes I'd join in, others I'd just hold her while she jilled. The lady liked to cum.

She said she started early using her fingers, got her first toy from an older gf, and rarely missed a day of orgasiming a few times. Sometimes she call me, from the toilet stall at work, where she was jilling, saying she wished it was my cock instead of her fingers.

God, I miss her

I had to talk her into showing me how she masturbates in private. It was exciting to watch her start with her fingers first, then with her favorite vibrator.

I did learn a thing or two pleasuring her. Instead of pushing in-and-out with the vibrator, she likes it more on her clit and around the opening, where as I want to see her pussy stretched around a big dildo.

We compromised when she has the big dildo, there is a vibrator on her clit. Best of both worlds.

Agree, you learn a lot about pleasing a woman by watching her masturbate.

For many years, she didn’t let me see her masturbate. She didn’t deny it, but said it was a “private thing”. She started opening up little by little; reaching back and rubbing her clitoris while we fucked doggystyle, letting me use her hand while i rubbed her pussy, etc.

A real breakthrough was when i was using her vibe on her and asked her to just hold it while I moved to a different position. She did more than just hold it. She started using it on her clitoris, and then inserted in her vagina without me guiding it.

Like the previous poster, I noticed she tends to hold it on her clitoris instead of moving it around, and when she uses in her vagina it is only inserted 3 or 4 inches.

She realizes how much it turns me on to watch her, and she does let me watch more, even if most of her masturbating is still just her alone.

My girl same way
 

When I met my now girl and now wife. I found she loved sex and never got too much. Times prior to me and in between relationships I asked her what did you do when horny.
She made it clear she used one of her two vibrators, I asked her if she would let me watch sometime she said sure if I can watch you jack off also, of course no problem.

She showed me her two vibrators one looked like a small cock and vibrated the other was small metal one that vibrated with intensity. She made it clear she liked the metal one.
She showed how she used it around her pussy lips pressing lightly. She even let me video her, it was a hot moment.

I decided to buy her one and thought she would like a life like cock that vibrated. I measured my cock length and girth and ordered one size larger that looked like a real cock. It moved long and short and also vibrated.

I gave it to her and she looked amazed at how real it looked. She started to use it and I asked her to put it in her pussy and she started to but made it clear it was too large and would not be comfortable.

She said she liked the vibrator on the outside best for stimulation. She made it clear she was not using the one I got she and joked she may give it to her sister to use.
She did get out the other vibrator that somewhat looked like a cock an agreed to run it in and out of her pussy for me to satisfy my urge to see her do that.
There is something about us guys watching a women take one in the pussy thinking they like that as much as we do.

Officially my wife does not masturbate, although sometimes I see her teasing the clit under the sheets ...
On the other hand, she loves that I dot her clitoris while we fuck, one day I had the idea of catching her hand and putting it under mine, immediately she got into motion and masturbated with ardor, her moaning intensified and she enjoyed a sl*t.
Now I know what to do to get him to masturbate with me

As we have gotten older, things have become a bit more challenging. One the hardest things... was for her to openly masturbate in front of me. Now, it's an active part of pre sex. Sometimes I can get her off, but especially if life keeps us from sex for several days, or {shudder} weeks, it's a lot harder to get her off. She will grab her fav vibrator after I initiate things, and use it to amp things up. I have lots of other things to play with :). I thought it was difficult for her to accept masturbating in front of me... it was much much harder for me. Apparently one night, I had to rub one out, I thought she was asleep, but no... she was laying next to me just listening to my breathing. Open and honest communication is absolutely the key to a successful sex life.

my wife
 

My wife will sometimes masturbate for me during foreplay. I love it.