How to convince my Cousin to Skinny Dip
 

I'm pretty close with my younger cousin, and we've been trying to plan a hiking trip into a lake where I can fish. She loves to hike and I live to fish. I've taken her to a clothing optional hot spring earlier this year, but she wouldn't even consider going without her swimsuit. I've been trying to get her to go again with no luck.

But, while discussing our planned hike, she made a joke about skinny dipping. I'll post our chat so far - any ideas how I can ease her into the idea without being pushing too hard?

Thanks!

Here is the chat: I didn't realize the image failed initially.

Youre already lushing too hard…your best bet would have been to just strip off and jump in..couldve said something like…”i dont want wet clothes all day”

Yeah, I would just say something like, "I never knew you were so timid... your loss". If she follows up with anything trying to defend herself, I'd say that Amazon has the perfect swimsuit on sale for her ;)

Well, you can hardly say "I never knew" if you kept discussing it ;) I agree that OP has been pushing to hard. If you want something like this to happen, it has to feel spontaneaous and thus innocent - when you keep bringing it up in advance even the most oblivious girl will smell something from a mile away, will be fully aware that you're trying to set something up and will guard herself against it. Better luck next time I'm afraid ;)

That's legit my friends, solid advice. Thanks!

girls will do things spontaneously that they wouldn't plan on doing. I don't think you've blown it yet. But..don't talk about it, just go for it once you see the opportunity. What's the worst that could happen?

just say, sorry I have to do this, and whip your clothes off and jump in. :eek: you'll be kicking yourself later if you don't.:D

if she goes hiking with you, she's halfway there.

I think Big Mac is right
 

Besides, she brought it up in the first place. Just go on the trip, pretending that the conversation never happened, and do it.

I think talking about it any more beforehand will only make it weird. She probably brought it up because she does, deep down, want to see you naked and/or you see her.

I would assume that much on her behalf, but I would not assume she actually wants to act on it.

That's just what I think

I had a cousin I was always close with, she was an athlete, a college level champion tennis player. She was in town and I invited her to go to a party with me and my GF, they knew each other and got along well. The party was at the house of one of my wilder buddies, he was also still living at home and the house had a nice swimming pool. We had several swim parties there in the past, but this time his parents were out of town.

Some of the guys are trying to talk GF's into skinny dipping, the compromise is yes, if all the lights are out. My GF had no problem, but I sense my cousin is uncomfortable, she has never met these people, so I tell her we can leave, she say "no way". I've never seen her nude and even with the lights out, it's not that dark. No only is she ones out of her tank suit, she does a perfect jackknife off the swimming board.

She told me later the she's been in so many locker rooms and been around nude people all of her tennis career, it's not big thing.

I agree. Women act on impulse and feeling competitive.

Don't plan it (that takes away the impulse).

Just do it (that makes it spontaneous).

Tell her "your loss" (that makes it competitive) only after you have done it.

My wife went skinny dipping with a group because it was unplanned and she felt competitive, not wanting to be the only person not doing it. If it had been planned, she would have stayed home.

Her sister changed her top in front of me (though I only saw sideboob) because my wife changed her top first, and her sister didn't want to be shown up by my wife (they are very competitive).

You get the idea.

If she feels threatened, pressured or manipulated she will probably recoil
 

Step back a bit for a moment.

-Why do you want her to skinny dip?
-Do you just enjoy innocent skinny dipping with friends in a non-sexual naturist/nudist manner?
-Is the swimming an "excuse" to see her naked? Why? simple curiosity? a frisson? or more?
-Do you want to have a sexual encounter with her?
-Do you think/hope that she wants one with you?
-If so, for how long? once? cousins with benefits? marriage?

She hasn't taken the baits you gave her. She clearly refused to join in at the clothing optional place and resisted a return visit. Were YOU naked there?

Was her skinny dip reference just a completely unserious random passing thought which she did not want you to progress? I know that my wishful thinking regarding someone I fancied, who was only being friendly or flirtatious, has led me to develop elaborate, imaginative and completely fantastical impossible scenarios based on hope and lust!

A lower risk way might be to go hiking (so SHE has a nice day) and then you get into the water without her seeing you naked eg "I'm going to skinny dip now, close your eyes if you must". But at all times she must feel free to do as she chooses and not feel threatened or pressured or manipulated in any way - otherwise she will probably recoil. If she joins in - great. If she does not, they you can both laugh it off, but you will have tried and will probably still have a cousin you can continue meeting at family events for the rest of your life.

You're touching on a real fact. Although it was at a resort where nudity is expected, my wife accompanied me on our first trip with no intention of getting naked herself. But when we got to the pool area she quickly realized that all the other women were naked and she'd be the only one covered up. Not wanting to "stand out", and feeling that "if other women were comfortable being seen naked, she was good enough to be naked too" (competitiveness), she quickly and spontaneously ditched the towel and proceeded naked as we joined the poolside crowd.

But in order to have that "herd effect" (aka "when in Rome..." effect), well you need a "herd." A "one-on-one" situation makes it more difficult because then it's just about the hang-up of "my cousin seeing me naked." Other nude women being around changes the focus from "self-conscious about getting naked" to "self-conscious about staying covered."

OP has already pushed way too hard. So if anything happens, even him saying, "I'm gonna do it, close your eyes" etc. then she's gonna realised that was your plan all along. Id go totally opposite and do nothing unless she initiates the skinny dip. I wouldn't even bring it up. That will make her think you were just joking and then it allows her to think you don't want to see her, which in turn may make her want to do it even though she seems to have set out pretty clear boundaries. Then the next time you go hiking with her, so may be open to a spontaneous dip.

But doing this with a cousin? Mmm... ain't the best idea. Why not take a woman you like who will go skinny dipping and that way the cousin may join in as you won't look like a predator.

cousin
 

Honestly, trying to shag your cousin is a bit out there,
Am going to guess your either southern american or a british royal,

Naaa..
 

I had a "kissin' cousin" when I was a kid. We're both 62 now and she lives on the other side of the country from me but having seen her at a recent get-together, I can tell you I'd still bang the hell out of her! :D

No big deal
 

A cousin of mine and I used to spend summertime at the family lake retreat. Us and others with cabins there hung around together hiking through the woods, swimming, fishing etc. She was one of two gals and about five guys in the group. We used to swim all the time for fun and to cool off from the heat and exercise.

We had always swam with suits on as most of us wore them all the time. One day we had taken this long hike in the middle of summer. On the way back we were passing one of our "swimming holes" at a deserted spot on the shore. One guy exclaimed that it was time for a dip to cool off. Well, for some odd reason there were also like two of the group who

had been wearing their trunks. At first we were wondering "Why did I not wear trunks.", then thought maybe in underwear, no maybe even skinny dip. The two guys with suits went right in. The rest of us were jealous. I said well I'm at least going in undies. Another guy said nothing, but stripped down and waded in.

That is all it took and immediately the rest of us stripped down and got in. My cousin stripped as if it was something she did every day. We all hollered for the two guys to take their trunks off. When we got out we all stood around drip-drying, Off to the side I chatted with my cousin. I told her I didn't realize she liberated like this.

She said she had never done this before, but felt comfortable with right away. She said if the situation had gotten sexual she would have "freaked". Any way after that day it was very common for us to skinny dip sometimes.

Fast forward 25 years.....

I was in my cousins town one night passing through on business. I called ahead and told her I was coming. She insisted I stay at her place. Having been recently divorced, she was living alone. Upon arrival she gave me a tour of the place including the patio with hot tub. We went out for dinner and to meet old friends of mine.

We got back to her place, just the two of us. She suggested a dip in the hot tub. I never considered going out there nude. She was out on the patio right behind me -NUDE. The first thing she said was, "I thought you and I past the modesty stage?". I immediately dropped my trunks and in the hot tub we went.

We had a great time talking old times including the days at the family retreat. Of course we had to rehash the first skinny dipping as described. We had a great iime. We talked sex, but there was never any sex between us.

Getting Someone To Skinny-Dip With You
 

This is WAY easier than you may think. IMO, you are going about it the wrong way if you're simply proposing to your cousin the idea that you want to see her in the nude. Because we go to burning man regional events we are surrounded by people we've met over the past few years who are all comfortable with nudity, as long as it isn't per se sexualized for THE purpose of seeing what someone or someones look like in the nude. Now that Covid is in the past, at least enough to return to partying, my burning man group is once again having pool parties and have had, so far, two parties so far, one in May and one this Saturday on June 19. Everyone who goes to the party knows everyone will be nude. It's a very freeing experience and reminds one of "children at play" and not a lifestyle party. Our parties are in fact on Facebook and all you need to get invited is to know someone or have someone vouch for you. Then you can see the pages on Facebook for the "group".

To solve YOUR specific issue of wanting to skinny dip with one particular person, you should instead find someone you know who has a pool and ask them if you can have a pool party their that is swim suit optional. More people than you can imagine will come out to do this, especially if you remind people this is a safe environment that sets limits, does not include nor allow for gawking, and is ONLY a skinny dip event. Make it like ours, a BBQ event with B.Y.O.B, and everyone contributing some food and a $10 gift per person to the host. Then once your FB group is created and your event is up on the calendar, along with the "rules" re a calm and joyful naked event, invite your friends and your cousin and even co-workers to the event. It will in fact expand. No joke. Getting naked at a party where nearly everyone participates is a normal thing to do, and more would participate if it was understood that cameras and photos from phones are strictly prohibited. In fact, if you include in the description of the event 5 expectations of how the event goes down, that can really help. Also, make sure it's understood that it's swim suit optional. There will be varying degrees of nudity, and the next party you have a few weeks later will be more successful, and include more relaxed people.

Now I'm not going to pretend that your guests will not occasionally check out one another. I, like everyone I suppose, surreptitiously check out everyone else's body and I suppose they do the same thing and, like me, think to themselves, "Oh - so that's what Cheryl's vagina looks like. Nice trimmed bush. Her boyfriend's a lucky guy." But all of this is done without being a jerk-weed.

I hope this helps. PM me with any questions you may have. Think of it as fun, and you can't go wrong. Also, make it clear that it is 18 years and older, and no pets. Not that nudity around young people is a bad thing - it isn't. But most will feel more comfortable knowing only adults will be there.