need some advice.
 

So my husband has a small penis. The problem is exaggerated by him being over weight (about 6ft and around 330 lbs.)

I have no issue with his size, I think he's a great lover... but he's a very bashful when it comes to being nude around other people (gym showers, etc.)

We are going on vacation very soon, and I REALLY want to visit this nudist resort while we are in the area... How can I talk him into going?

Just have to convince him penises come in all shapes and sizes... just like tits. Good luck!

It's not easy to get someone to overcome something when they are insecure. Perhaps you can offer him some incentives. Maybe something you can do for him in return. It might just be enough to get him to give it a shot at least once.

Most penises are small when not aroused. No one will have any idea, or care, about his penis size,

Exactly. He's a definitely a grower and not a shower. Honestly, his penis isn't really small, it's just he has a large fat pad.. he gains about an extra 2" when he pushes down on the fat pad.

So while he looks like he has a 1 - 1.5" flaccid penis, it's really more like 3 - 3.5" penis.

Erect, he's right at 5", but I've measure when pressing down on his pad and it was right at 7"... When I'm on top and my weight is on top of him, I get the 7"... And since he's so thick it really feels me up...

He has a cock ring and after we fuck he goes limp, but stays 3-4" long until he takes the cock ring off... I thought about suggesting we do that...

Funny thing is, when he's hard and pressing down, he has a bigger than average cock, especially the girth....

I wish I could convince him flaccid size means nothing.

Most resorts now are clothing-optional; with nudity expected only in the pool area. Which means he has the option of keeping on shorts or a wrap around his mid-section after checking in. That should reassure him.

Beyond that, it's just a matter of him getting acclimated. After you get naked, just lead him away from the crowd so you can have some privacy. Seeing you being comfortable and having fun naked will probably be the only motivation he needs. I don't think it will take him very long to join you.

No pressure
 

It's usually the other way round, male-female couple-wise. Here are some thoughts transposed from shy self-conscious women and naturism.

He is probably happy when you are happy and that might be enough for him to agree to your going to this resort or beach. The only safe "reward" or "incentive" is some other place/event nearby which he might enjoy. Unrelated Incentives/rewards/punishments might put pressure on him and cause a counter-reaction.

If he feels that his nudity is completely his choice then he is more likely to play ball. If you are natural, relaxed and matter-of-fact when you are there, it will help him.

After you get onto the public beach or resort he (while clothed) will see plenty of men with a smaller penis/bigger belly/smaller muscles than him who are completely unselfconscious and unaroused.

Once he experiences that most men are not built like Greek gods or porn stars, he might start to reframe what is normal and acceptable for men. Then to think he is OK as he is. No doubt you have been affirming and appreciating his body (especially the parts he is anxious about) at other times!

Genuine naturists/nudists (I don't know about swingers) are much more body-accepting and less judgemental about appearance than the general population. They don't see social nudity as a beauty contest or an opportunity for exhibitionism or showing off.

After about 10-15 minutes when he has got over the initial shock of nudity he might feel comfortable with experimenting with feeling the sun all over his body of the freedom of swimming naturally. But he must make that decision himself.

It's about confidence in general, not about penis size. I am wondering why the OP brought up penis immediately. Most people, especially men, know that penises are generally tiny when soft. I am way, way above normal when I am hard, but I am a major grower, so I look just as "small" or even smaller than most men when I am soft. (In fact, the reason my wife hates when people see me naked is because she is afraid people will think I am small; she is a size queen obsessed with size, so for HER it's an issue.) :rolleyes:

Going back to confidence, here is a shocking perspective: I have been extremely large since I was VERY young. I hated it so very much. I never wanted anyone to see me naked in case I got even a slight chubby because I hated how much bigger I was than everyone else. A few people saw me half hard when I was young and they teased me so much about it. Even my gf in college teased me about it.

So, it goes both ways. His penis size has nothing to do with it. Plus, once he sees all the other naked people there, his body type will fit right in. Very, very few people are fit, college-age women co-eds. You just see those in videos and photos because that is what people expect to like, and for every one photo or video you see, there are 1001 who aren't like that AT ALL.

Plus, true must-be-naked places are extremely rare. As someone said, the pools require nudity because of the amazing filters and chemicals they get to use when there isn't fabric in the pool, but you don't need to be naked anywhere else. In fact, more and more you have to wear clothing now in the restaurants, stores, and even some events. (I think that's weird: nudist campground/resort, but you have to be closed for the dance at the club house.)

There will be other people who look just like what you described.

My cock is same length hard or soft!
It gets wider but same length. Probably disappointing for some as they see me soft and think I have a pretty big cock that would be 9” hard but it’s still the same 6” !

There might be a different way to attack this issue. It will take some time, but the pay off will be tremendous.

I know you mentioned you don't have an problem with his weight, but if he lost 60lbs (to start), I think you'd find his confidence would dramatically improve. Eating healthy food and regular exercise doesn't just make you lose weight, it also changes the chemical reactions in the body and makes you far more positive.

Yes but they don’t have time for that for this trip. In the long run this is a great goal for couples to do together as they will both feel better, be more positive, and usually get a performance boost (for both partners) in the bedroom.

I say for this trip take things slow, he can strip down while sitting and then he’ll soon see that everyone else doesn’t care and there are a variety of people around. But depending on how much time before the trip you two could start on Duran’s advice.

Get him to lose weight so he is less bashful. Do you cook for him? Pack his lunches? It's up to you as much as it's up to him.

Obese with nothing showing
 

I am obese and can relate to this issue but my wife and I really enjoy the nudist clubs we have visited across the country. She is beautiful and enjoys men looking at her secrets.
I have always been anxious about the appearance of my cock but my wife knows the truth. At our favorite nudist club we woke up with a loud fuck. One of our neighbors said we woke up half the club.
That afternoon, a lady sneered and told my wife we sounded like she was getting it from John Holmes. My wife looked around to make sure no young people could see then she dropped to her knees and began licking my balls followed by taking my growing and appreciative penis into her mouth. When she pulled back her head her hand was pumping a not quite 6 inch cock but it was really thick and that is what she loves.
We cannot walk around family nudist clubs with hard-one, but we know the truth.

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has it occurred to you that he is small against the background of a large body? If a man is skinny and narrow in the pelvis and hips, his penis seems big. But in fact, no more than a large man with a broad bone.