How do I persuade my wife to pose and share photos online?
 

I am new to this forum and I’m happily married. We’ve been married a number of years and earlier in our relationship my wife allowed us to photograph her naked in predominantly arty pictures which was a wonderful experience. Unfortunately it was a one off and it hasn’t happened for a number of years now as other interests have got in the way. However, looking at some of the content on this site and the positive attitudes expressed by many of the posters it is something I would like to re-awaken. I’ve also realised that it’s been a long held fantasy of mine to publish photos of wife online for others to see and comment on.

As a first step I would like to get my wife comfortable again with having her photo taken in a sexual but beautiful manner. The pictures that we took previously are quite tame in comparison to some of what’s on this site and don’t really do her justice I think.

Secondly I would like to share some of our outcomes so that others can see, and hopefully let us know what they think. With her permission of course.

I would greatly value any advice or suggestions on how I might go about this. My wife’s no longer confident enough with her body to pose and so if I were to ask her straight out then she would probably refuse straight away and my fear is that any opportunity would be lost for ever. She recently asked me to delete a set of photos on my phone of her which had her top only partially open and chest slightly revealed.

So my dilemma is how to get to a stage where she is comfortable enough to reveal her body for the camera without fear and also to enjoy the experience so it becomes a regular occurrence. I’m happy to be patient and take the time to build this up slowly as my wife’s feelings are of upmost importance and I would never post anything without her knowledge and approval.

I would really appreciate it if someone is able to offer some advice on how we might go about this. I would be happy to share how this develops (if it does develop of course) on an ongoing basis if it allows the situation to develop.

Apologies if this has been asked elsewhere, and if it should be moved into another thread then please feel free to do so. I am hoping that someone has been in a similar position to us and will be able to offer advice by replying to this post or messaging me.

Many thanks

S

My thought is forget it ,

Your wife has asked for you to delete photos , she has answered your question for you .

I would delete the photos show her that you are doing it .

Maybe a bit down the line ask if she will pose if she does delete the pictures if she asks .

I have taken nude pics but always deleted them when asked .
It has always been when I have been taking pictures of some thing else, fancy your picture being taken some times a yes more often no .
A happy wife is better than a photo, you cant put up with a unhappy wife they turn your life into a headache .

Ladies do like their pictures taken provided they like the results - if you make her look fantastic she'll want more. Basically let her know how amazing you thought she looked, and when she looks good dressed let her know that you just have to take a picture because she's so amazing!

Too many people take awful wife pics that frankly should be destroyed along with the camera! If you can make her look fantastic - and get rid of all the bad ones you will find she probably will want to show the odd one off - suggest a false name and a site that's predominantly from another continent because you want to see what the feed back is...

Think 'boudoir' photography to start...

Don't be put off - and if you like the ones you have taken so far too much to delete then maybe hint that you still need to get rid of them but don't have the heart because she looks so amazing..if you had a Ferrari you'd be driving it up and down wanting people to see what you've got and I think a wife looking good is the same thing!

I reckon you've got 2 different issues at play.

1st: Persuading wife to pose for nude photos
2nd: Posting such photos online

The 1st should be too much trouble. Another poster mentions the building up of confidence. I think that's important. I also think that your wife needs to be happy in other areas. She's more likely to do this for you if you're not doing all the little things in the relationship that annoy her. I've posted about this previously and I hold firm to it. A happy wife outside the bedroom makes a sexy wife in the bedroom.

The 2nd is a whole different game.
You can't just throw the frog into the boiling water, you gotta cook it slowly. But if she is partaking in a bit of exhibitionist fun on any level and you build that up, then I think there is far more chance of being able to see what she thinks about it.


Some women will never do it either, but I think more will do it than us men believe given the right circumstances and situation.

It was easy for me. When wife and I broke up, her new guy posted unbelievably explicit pics.

Thanks for all the replies so far. I understand that she may say NO outright and it could leave to negative feelings but the potential long-term fun means it is worth going for. I hope most people agree and would enjoy looking at images of my wife if we get that far.



I think this sums it up. As without the first, the second will not happen. I'd like to think I am doing all the other things in our relationship. Confidence is an issue. My wife recently told me she doesn't like wearing shorts anymore. To put it into context she has an attractive physique and is curvy in a sexy way so more than able to be seen in shorts. She has a great chest and she’s happy to wear tight tops which show her breasts off. In our own privacy she’s comfortable with me seeing her naked body.

The conundrum is how I ask her to let me start taking photos and to do it in a way that leads onwards – so this doesn’t stop before it starts, or she works out (she is quite intuitive) what my long term plan might be early on and that puts her off before she is ready.

I see I have a couple of options: -

I I come right out with it and ask her to pose naked explaining how I find her body beautiful and feel it should be captured as she’s happy to walk around naked in the home. We can always delete what we don’t want. I’m not sure this approach will work as I have said above. The danger is it might put her off but I would certainly find out where the boundary is.

2. I ask if she’s ok with me photographing her in some of her more revealing underwear. Gradually we build it up either at the time if she shows interest or later on when she’s comfortable being photographed.

3. A very long-term game where I start taking more photos of her in all kinds of situations and then gradually ask to reveal more of herself eg unbuttoning a button etc, so it progesses gradually and she doesn’t feel like she’s being asked to post naked out of nowhere.

I am erring towards 2 although as I have said my wife may well work out my plan. In which case we may have to go back to the drawing board or with a version of 3. I intend to ask her in the next few days.

Any further help much appreciated.


Thanks for the replies so far.

S

Maybe try simple, candid pics of her in various situations; non-nude / partially [like when dressing] / full like taking a shower or coming out of the shower and drying off rather than a "big production" of staged photos. Many compliments along the way through everyday situations always make a big difference as well as it contributes to overall confidence. Things like "Wow, you look really great in that dress / top / skirt / whatever" will help when you later take a topless pic in that same skirt... Try making it all a fun game and not a big deal "photo session" Timing is everything; if she is stressed about something or just not in the mood trying to force it, no matter how frustrated you may be, will only make it less likely to happen...

Advice
 

It's a two step process. Omega's advice is spot on. It's important to compliment her constantly, whether she is nude or clothed, which I'm sure is not hard for you to do. Take a lot of photos of her clothed so she gets used to the camera being around. Some day when you two are out in the sun having a relaxing afternoon with a few drinks (which might help loosen her up), bring out the camera. Tell her how great she looks in her swimsuit, and then gently suggest she show a bit more. Don't demand and take your time. Also, if she is worried that the photos will escape out into the world, show her how you delete them off the camera and encrypt the folder they are stored in on your computer.

Would she ever go to a topless or nude beach while on vacation? Once there she could see that her body is at least as good as half the women there. Another thing to try would be to show her images of nudists online; this might help with her body image as well as create a peer effect.

As for posting, that comes much later and will involved cropping or pixelating her face so she can remain anonymous. Good luck! Patience!

Most wives don't mind posing for nude and sex photos, but they usually don't want them posted online. You might try promising not to post them online.

Another idea would be to use a hidden camera. They sell cameras that look like ordinary desktop objects or nicknacks. A lot of guys use them to get pics of wives who won't allow them to take pics.

i have gone through this. It takes years of persuasion. For me around 8 to 10 years of marriage after the kids were born (from conservative to sl..ty). Now she doesnt mind what i do with her pics. Sometimes i show her the comments you guys write on her pics and she just smiles at the use of B..ch n words like sl.t.

Also she has slept with 2 young men as of now and is always chatting with multiple guys on her social media. The best part is, she is very good in narrating what really happened in the night before the fuck. Once i was returning home early in the morning at 7am and her boyfriend left my place at around 6 or 6:30. Her body was fully covered in cum. later she confessed to me that she was fucked more than 5 times in the night.

Even now, whenever she gets a cock pic in her mobile, she gets wet.

It was a long transformation process and am so happy she has turned this way for me. we are really happy now with our marriage and keep experimenting.

It has been a while since I posted that I was looking for help in asking my wife to pose naked and eventually being comfortable appearing online. I had a few helpful replies and messages so here’s an update. So far I’ve followed the advice to take it carefully. Progress has been slow with just a few clothed shots that are slightly revealing when she was caught unaware.

This week this changed. My wife had mentioned that she’d been eyed up a couple of times recently, mainly by younger guys which seemed to give her a confidence boost.. She’d come to bed and feeling the timing was right I asked her if she would be ok with posing for some naked photos. She wasn’t expecting it but surprisingly said yes she was ok with that providing I didn’t use either of our phones. She lay naked on the bed. After a while, her legs opened without prompting and i was able to capture it. My heart was beating and I had become hard at this point so she took my cock in her hand and put it inside her. To my further surprise she was wet and I slid straight in.

Later we went through the photos and the unfortunate news is that my wife requested that I delete nearly all of the photos I had shot. I was allowed to keep the odd shot or so but nothing too risky.

My wife was clearly turned on at the time but then had a change of mind.

It would be helpful to understand how to move this forward and what is the next step? Should I ask her again soon or leave it a while? It’s about her feeling comfortable and not that she’s being pressured in any sense – ultimately I’d like her to enjoy the experience of showing off her body as much I do, so when the time is right she’s ok for me to share some of her here or elsewhere.

Any thoughts/advice appreciated.

A lot of the guys here have provided great advice. Ultimately, work and patience are the key. Work = compliments, compliments and more compliments. Patience = knowing when to back off if she feels pressured and waiting for the right opportunity to pull out the phone/camera.

I can tell you what worked for me. My fiancée and I went to St Martin on vacation, where she spent a good amount of time being topless and naked on the beach. She was really feeling good about herself, our sex was great and she was loving our time there together. I seized that opportunity to take a lot of pics; and alcohol also aiding, she agreed to have a bunch of nudes taken. She does not regret them; quite the contrary, they remind her of how much fun she'd had. She actually also took a bunch of naked, hard on included, pics of me as well; which is fair.


Well she also told me that she'd rain down her wrath upon me if I ever shared them. So that's a different issue, much more delicate. Sure you can do it secretly (I won't); but to do it the "right way" you'd need her explicit consent. And that's is going to take a lot more "effective persuasion."

My experience
 

I can only tell you how I got there. It turns my wife on to pose for photos for me so that was not a hurdle I had to cross. It sounds like you have crossed that hurdle yourself so I think you're 1/3 the way there.

We had already had a discussion about the fact that men are visual creatures (We love to look!) so the next step I took was to tell her that I wanted to keep some of the pics I took of her. She said "OK" once I convinced her that they were only for me and that it turned me on to look at them and I wanted to look at her sexy pics any time and anywhere. She reasoned that she'd rather me be looking at her photos rather than someone else's. I made sure that many of the photos I kept were ones where she could not be identified and that was key to my final step.

I told her about finding OCC. I told her truthfully that I liked to read the sexy, true stories that some guys post. I told her that I was going to write a few and see if there was any interest. I also mentioned the fact that some guys occasionally post photos of their wives/girlfriends to go along with the stories. I left it at that. I told her later that my stories were pretty well received and asked her if I could spice up the next one with a photo of her if I chose one that was unidentifiable. She said I could, as long as her face and tattoos couldn't be seen. Over the years since, she has become less and less concerned about what photos I post.

Good luck!

I'd say the next step is to make her happy for the few days leading up to the next time you plan on doing this.
That next time could be photos of her in something sexy. ALSO, don't just take photos of her nude. Start taking some shots when you go out etc. That way it doesn't feel like you're just interested in snapping her sans kit.

You can restore the deleted pics from the trash after she leave and keep them in a crypted folder in your computer.

Best is if she don't ask you to delete them.

As readed above, tell her you love to look at her pics and jack off to them when she had her period or days you don't make love or when she's not at home.
That's best to look hers than other girls and so you keep very attracted by her even more and more and want her more every day.
Women love to be attractive and even if they not recognize it easily it's a turn on for her too that their men go hard wood when thinking about their nude bodies.
She must feel you're attracted by her.
For the start keep her confident and after each photo session review pics with her and allow her to keep or delete any pic she want. Each time she delete a pic, leave a little comment about how beautiful she was on this one, which part of her body you like in the pic, her smile, her "little b*tch" eye looking 😉
Spice up your word a little. Put her on your knees while you doing this and kiss her and caress her.
She need to know, view, and be absolutely convince that you have her in the flesh and don't kidding when you say her nude pics turn you on a lot.
Soonly she will delete less and less pic and there is less pics to restore and move from trash to hidden crypted folder.
She need to be sure the only pics you keep are the ones she allowed. This way she will accept more shooting session. Made the shooting a fun moment, go nude too with your wood on 😉 and don't forget to kiss her, lick her and even fuck her shortly between each pose. Show her it turn you on.

Of course, for the pic she'll not delete, promise to keep every pic private and protected.
Set up a second official crypted disk for your nude pics, this way she can been sure no one fall on these by going on the computer.
And don't forget to backup everything as computers sometime crashes.
Keep us informed.
I hope you will do it both.
It's great pleasure to have a woman who pleasantly displayed her nude for you to shoot

And when she'll pose nude and let you keep all pics, you can get the deleted one back in light and tell her you manage to save these treasure as well.

Sometime, the "souvenir" arguments works well too. You'll be happy in your old days to look at your youth fun nude moments.

how we got it done
 

So we had been dating for a few years and the sex was great, We had done a lot of fun things, and she wasn't so innocent as she looked, we joined a nudest club and they had swinger party once a month, the Moblie phone generation was about to kick off as well as the forum sites etc.

We was at the monthly swingers party, it was same old people. There was a buzz about seeing a new club and website, after we got home I looked it up and we saw the forum, I joined us up and we chatted with people there was mention of a site called HELLO so we followed up on that. It was very much like this site and we was nervous at the start, it seemed different and weird.

We had done a few chats over webcam and she had played with me for others but not single guys. So I got a digital camera and didn’t ask straight away. We started to get in our mail pics from other couples and single males. She had said from the start that it was only couples she wanted to share with, which I was cool with, but I came home from work to see her on the bed using a toy and had the laptop on, she didn’t hear me so I stood watching threw the door crack, she came for the guy and said that was the best time she had on here so far, she sucked her toy and the guy asked for pics sas he was sending her loads of him. She said she would ask hubby , she closed the laptop and I went back down stairs and heard her get in the shower. I waited 5 mins and called up and she was in the shower, I went up and she poked her head round and said hi etc and said maybe we could take pics for the site.

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forgot to add pic of her first time

Sexy lady. It's always great when women wear nice lingerie. Not only looks great but makes them feel great too.

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