Jacking off in relationships
 

This may be a very biased audience, but I don't know anyone else to ask who might be as honest as the group here appears to be. It's not life shatteringly important, but it's something I've thought about ever since I started having sex with ladies, as opposed to just 'five fingered Mary' when I was young.

If you are in a relationship, where you are getting honest to goodness sex from a real woman; how often do you still 'play with yourself'. Is it related to how often you are cumming with her? I guess you could ask the same question of gay guys, but I think (based on long observation) that most of the people on this board are more likely to be straight.

I'm pretty old now, and have been in 4 serious long term relationships, and a certain number of shorter term adventures. And, even when the sex was very good (which is was in 2 of the 4), I still found myself 'taking care of business' on my own, with nearly daily frequency. Am I abnormal?

Back in the old days, it was skin mags, then videos you could get in the back of the video store. For the last 25 years or so, it's been the internet.....I was an early Redclouds fan, and still fully appreciate the concept of Waiting for Igor......and I've been on this site for some years, as it's comparatively low cost and provides forums like this, all sorts of entertaining pictures and even some video clips.

Now my gf is out of town, so I only see her on the weekend, so most evenings, I'm pulling the pud (it certainly beats most of what is on TV these days).

I'd estimate that until I turned 60, my average rate of ejaculations was more than 1 per day (say 10 per week), and didn't seem decrease if I was doing it with a nice lady a few times per week. And, I learned a long time ago the joy of 'edgeing', so my time of playing was a lot longer than just the time it took to cum.

What is the experience on the board? If you are with a hot lady frequently, do you stop "self servicing"? Or does your time with a nice lady just add to your personal pleasure?

When i was in a bad marriage i jacked off constantly ( she had totally cut me off) we seperated and i got a fantastic girlfriend who i am allowed to do with as i please, i still stroke the occasional one out. But alot less frequently, and some times while she watches...... To he honest i dont think people should ever stop self pleasuring themselves.

I'm twice divorced. First wife was a hottie (I've posted her pics here already) and all I wanted to do was be balls-deep in her. We weren't married long enough for me to get back into the habit of taking care of myself before she announced out of the blue that she was leaving me.

Second wife wasn't anywhere close to as good looking as the first, plus she was emotionally abusive. We dabbled in swinging for a while, but due to the emotional abuse & my just not finding her attractive (nor being attracted to her), the "computer room/office" doubled as my "fap den."

Got to be where I jacked off so much, anytime I had sex with her, I felt like I was cheatin' on myself.

My wife has no real problems about my jacking off by myself, though she teased me about it. I'm the first man she's been with who's libido outstrips her's. When I was single, my habit was usually twice a day. That's been reduced to once a day, usually at the end, when it's far too late to have sex.

Explanation: After she orgasms, she becomes so wired that she can't get to sleep. So there's a cut-off time that we can have sex if she wants a full-night's rest. Add in that we own our own business and our windows for intercourse get smaller and smaller depending on the day of the week, the week of the month, the price of tea in China....

It bothered her a little when we were first married, but realize it was 'me' time, as opposed to 'our' time.

On the other hand, she kinda encourages it. My dad had prostate cancer, which nearly doubles my chances of getting it. But regular ejaculation has been shown to reduce your likelihood of cancer.

I pretty much fit this description, although younger - been in a relationship for years, still love a wank prob 10-15 a week.

So why did you marry someone you didn’t find attractive, was emotionally abusive and someone you were not attracted to?

In my experience, women don't like men to jack off when they are in a relationship (and probably not ever). I think the base reason is that it undermines their position of power over the man. Same goes for looking at porn.

my story
 

one girlfriend who I was living with was smoking hot. so hot I would fun too quick. so I started jerking off so I would last longer. she didn't appreciate me jerking .

my current wife well I need to jerk off everyday. she doesn't do anything for me sexually anymore so I need to jerk off. I spend most of my time jerking off thinking about women I see at work and at the nude beach. my wife is so naive she has no idea I jerk everyday.

Daily
 

I jerk off or cum daily.

I had a gf who loved watching me jerk off and I enjoyed doing it for her - one the stories here...

https://forum.oneclickchicks.com/show...37#post2207037

Current gf has kinda lost her sex drive, so we only get intimate once every month or so - she still goes to the gym and has a pretty nice body - so that just makes it worse.

On the occasion we do get intimate an normally finish by jerking on her pussy or tits.

She has caught me once or twice having a quiet wank, just ignored me and went about her business.

I have jerked off sitting in bed while she was getting dressed without her knowing.

I want to get to a point I can do it with her knowing and not really reacting one way or the other.

Thanks guys. I thought I was weird or something. My best ever gf was a very multi orgasmic screamer, wanted it every day, sometimes twice daily. I was 25 then, so I could handle her pretty well, with the good news being that I was (and am) a slow cummer, so she really seemed to enjoy herself. I'll guess I'll never know if it was real, although to this day I think it was, but we once got a little scoreboard and counted what appeared be to 60 orgasms over a 2 hour period, before I finally blew my load. She had a certain rhythm to building up, cumming, and recovering.....but it was pretty predictable. Interestingly, she would only cum from fucking, I tried eating her, and she just thought it was pleasant, but when I put my dick in her, it lit the fuse. But, even with her, I would wank 2-3x weekly, and she was seemingly not aware of it My other relationships have been less spectacular, but whatever the frequency/quality of the sex, it seem like up until I hit 60, my "rhythm" was to need to cum 10-15x weekly. It's noticeably slower now, but there is still the same pattern, to at least play with it daily, even if the current, out of town gf, has been active.

When I was still dating and she was still my GF, NO
After we mariied and she became my wife, hell YES, every single day lol:D

Been married 15 years and still masturbate daily - even on the days we have sex.

She's never really commented on it. When we first started dating, if i pulled out and shot a lot on her back she would purr something like "oh, you saved up for me, huh?"

Once she came home and I was jerking on the computer and she just asked if I need to "go on one of my walks" since she knows I love to walk naked around the neighborhood.

As a girl ill put my input here and say I don't mind if the guy jacks off, rather he do it on his own when Im busy than he go find another woman.
And it depends on the guy as well, if he can do the deed and then have sex and last then all the better, if hes a one time guy then theres an issue

Are there any women on here who likes to jack her man off?

Like it! My wife and I have always been open about masturbation although she's strangely more coy about it in recent years. She knows when, where and how I do it. Sometimes she was watches, other times she helps out. It's no big thing as she knows my sex drive is higher than hers since we had kids

Pretty sure I have a higher sex need than wife. So if I'm horny in bed, and its clear she's not, then I just tell her I'm going to have a wank. She's completely fine about it. We normally have a chat on whether I can just do the deed there next to her, or whether I should go into the next room. Sometimes we agree it's fine to stay (and a lot of those times she helps out), sometimes we agree it's a bit weird to stay so I go out (but I do usually grab a pair of her used panties on route).

I have told her to be as open if she ever fancies masturbating while I'm there and I'm not in the mood. That has only happened once; we'd been having sex all weekend and had just finished again 10 minutes earlier, and I just couldn't manage any more when she said she needed to cum again. So we chatted about it she, agreed she should go ahead and enjoy herself, so she sat with her back to me and I kissed her hair and cupped her breasts while she pleasured herself.

One thing about some of the posts above; whatever your girl says, 100% they masturbate when you aren't there whether they admit it to you or not. So don't feel bad that you guys do aswell. In my experience people tend to masturbate the same time, or times, of day. I know my wife is normally a 3 in the morning girl. If she wakes up and can't back to sleep, she usually has a play. I'm 100% fine with this and it's great she can enjoy her own body, as I do. And she thinks the same about me wanking, it's just she tends to get told about all attempts as they are going off as it tends to be when she's around and awake and we see no reason (and would feel a bit weird) for secrecy about it.

Post Cancer Surgery
 

Since cancer surgery I cannot achieve a firm enough erection to penetrate. I will often do my wife orally. But, I am also more than happy for her to masturbate, and she sometimes does. She often has me hug her while she brings herself to a climax. I think it's great and enjoy her doing it.

Being wanked.
 

I love it when a partner masturbates me, and several have. My wife and I have known each other 10 years. I have lost count of the number of times we have digitally pleasured each other. Unfortunately since cancer surgery it is VERY difficult for her to get me off. It isn't easy for me to get me off. But, I gladly finger her any time she wants.

I am 60 years old now. I have been single pretty much all my life. I have been in many, many relationships. Over the years I have masturbated almost daily even when in a relationship. In all of the relationships the subject came up and we discussed it. I remember the girls that didn’t like the fact that I jacked off; those relationships didn’t last long at all. Not because of that but because of that but because of other hang ups those women had that was an extension of their mental capacity. Those relationships lasted A month at the most with those women. I am talking about 5 or 6 women over the years. Some of the women didn’t care at all. Then there were the women that liked to hear about it and encouraged it. Now those women I had very long relationships with. Very long relationships for me was 2 or more years. Lol

There was one particular girl that liked to masturbate daily herself and would send me a text saying she just did. I would text back telling her what a good girl she was. There would be times I would text her and say I need to jack off and she would send me pics of her pussy or tits. But here is the best part. We both loved to masturbate together. I have had many women that liked that also but with her we took it to another level.

We would talk dirty to each other and would tell each other stories about our sex life or fantasies as we masturbated together. I loved to here about her sexual past or for her to tell me about how she wanted to bring another woman into bed with us and what she would do to her. That just made the whole experience more enjoyable.

The woman I am with now will send me pictures of herself masturbating when I am at work just to fuck with me. I love it. I still masturbate at 60 years old daily and still have sex with my much younger girlfriend. Her and I will masturbate together sometimes. We like to watch Porn together sometimes and masturbate while watching together. It is a lot of fun to do that.

Seems normal to me
 

I mean sometimes you want to dine it and sometimes your just happy with a take-away?:D

Can’t see it slowing down
 

Mid-50’s, married for over 30 years. Before marriage I jerked off at least once a day, and since marriage I’m still good for 4-5 a week. I’m just more in the mood than my wife, even though we have sex 3+ times a week still.

Now that the kids are gone we are thinking of experimenting some.

We did just go to a nude beach this past summer which was really hot. I’ll have to post that experience some time.

cant wait to hear about it

Clearly since I'm here, I still jack off.

There was one episode though that I'm dying to repeat (even if it's with another gf).

Years ago was sitting on the couch with the then gf just casually watching tv. She started to snuggle closer which I took as a signal of things to come. She was tired so not overly responsive, and really just rubbed my hardening cock over my jeans then stopping. Just enough to make me strained. I got it in my head to undo my jeans hoping it would move things along, it didn't but as I did she did moan a little and whisper how hard I was already. I started rubbing myself as she watched and whispered. I eventually pulled my cock fully out and started to stroke like I was alone and jacking. She never joined in but assisted with subtle movements of her hips and more whispering/dirty talk in my ear. It wasn't long until I was building to cum and she upped the dirty talk. I exploded all over my hand and jeans.

It was our own little JOI session and it was amazing.

We both do it
 

I tend to find although my wife and i have a good sex life and also like to wank together we also both have full knowledge we wank on our own as well , sometimes when you have a family its hard to get the timing right to do stuff together so will sometimes allow each other some alone time to blow off some steam while the other holds down the fort !!

My wife loves to watch me jack off. She always swallows it up.

always nice !!

Been married 15 years. Last few years we tend to sleep apart so I jerk it every morning. Wife knows this, I often send her a picture or a video. Occasionally she'll come and watch or finish me off herself

Just tried to persuade wife to have sex. She said she wasnt really feeling it, on her period, etc etc. So I said I was really horny and needed to jack off. So she said I shouldn't be shy and crack on. I said only if she stopped doom scolling, put her phone down, and flashed me her tits. She did and I beat off with her watching and fired jiz all over her. She didn't seem to mind. Not sure this is normal behaviour though :)

Married for 20 years
 

Been wed for 20 years but still love to wank myself off several times a week.
Wife not so keen on sex now so it’s my best relief. Use porn to get really horny and love a nice slow cum.
She has seen me do it a few times and says she doesn’t mind.

jacking off in relationships
 

I loved jacking off voyuering my wife at night when she showered. I arranged the blinds open just enough to see her young perfect body totally unaware. She almost caught me once, maybe she knew I was watching her. We did some role playing several times with her exposed in the window for my pleasure.

We were away this weekend without the kids. A boozy lunch was followed up by a boozy afternoon and falling into bed early and making good use of the alone time by having sex a couple of times. Next morning I woke with a raging boner and when I made it known to my wife, she declined more sex and suggested I jerk it myself. Not needing to be told twice I started to jerk as she sat in the bed next to me fixing her make up and giving me the odd sideways glance. She even passed me the tissues when I was done.
I've jerked in front of her before, but it's usually as part of sex or her finishing me off. This was the first time I've jerked as if no one was there and it's the best step towards just doing it without permission should we be lying in bed together at night/in the morning. Quite like the idea of her waking up to find me wanking or me just starting up as she's flipping through Facebook before we go to sleep....

My wife knows that I masturbate regularly, she encourages it.

Her favourite foreplay is to ask me about my most recent sessions. She likes it best when I've masturbated to her pictures, to fantasies of her friends, or hetero-flexible porn. The more detail the better. Occasionally I'll video myself to include the porn I am watching and she loves that.

"Have you jerked off lately?"

"Yes, last night, i made a video"

"show me!"

Excuse to take nude pics
 

I had a conversation with my wife about the fact that I have a higher sex drive than she does and it leads me to struggle to focus.

Her response: "Why not just masturbate"?

Music to my ears because she has basically given me carte blanche to masturbate whenever I want.

I decided to push my luck a little bit and respond a little later with:

"If I'm going to masturbate, I'd rather it be to pictures of you"

Cue photo session :D

Pretty similar
 

This isn't dissimilar to my experience. We always had wildly different sex drives, mine being higher. I've always masturbated, whereas she rarely did, even when younger. As the decades have gone on, her interest has declined further.
She has always known that I masturbate. In years gone by, I'd often do it even at the end of a fucking session, as I felt the need for a second orgasm. Jealous of the wife having multiples? Despite her low sex drive she has always had a lot of orgasms, which seems a bit odd to me.

Because of her lack of interest, sex with the wife, is far less frequent than it used to be. Therefore, masturbation takes up the slack. She is OK with this. Recently, we have been far more open, talking about it.

I’ve had relationships where the sex had dried up nearly entirely. So I would jack off every day. I had one girlfriend who didn’t like that I did it but also only would have sex with me once a week at most. When we had sex she would analyze how much I came and if there wasn’t much sperm she would ask if I had been jerking off and get mad about it. Crazy behavior. Once I realized how nutty she was I broke it off with her.

This is the way to do it according to the "experts"
 

Mutual masturbation is key to a happy sex life, experts claim

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/a...rts-claim.html