Wife Cheated
 

Through a chance comment I found out my wife cheated on me 5 years ago. It really hurt at first but it now turns me on.

The guy she cheated with was a friend of hers ex boyfriend. We had hung out a few times with them and comments were made that they couldn’t have sex because he would hurt her, so she would just give him head. Looking back I guess my wife wanted “that Big cock”.

When it all came out I asked direct questions and wanted the details which overtime she gave me. This went on for 2 months and they were fucking 4 times a week. At first he wore a condom but after a couple times he went bareback. She would suck his dick in his truck, he was fucking her anal. Through this whole time I had no clue. My wife is very attractive and at this time she was into fitness.

Now I haven’t brought it up in a few months but it’s on my mind. I think about him fucking her and cunmming inside of her everyday. Is this normal to be turned on from this?

well its not abnormal...what turns you on about it?

Normal?
 

Which part do you ask is normal?

The thoughts of your wife enjoying another man, with a big dick and cumming in her is quite normal. Many men fantasize about it. As well, I am sure many women do too. Personally, I love the thought of my wife getting fucked hard by some guy with a large cock and filling her up with cum. We have actually filled this fantasy more than once.
BUT... The part where she cheated on you is horrible and definitely NOT normal. ...or at least, should NOT be. There is a strong difference between cheating vs. sharing. Cheating should NEVER be tolerated by either party. It cannot exist in a good relationship.

With that being said, if you have totally forgiven her cheating and are confident she would never do it again, you might consider talking with her about actually sharing her with someone else. ...Possibly even the same friend with the big cock. Then, the two of you can share the sexual experience without being in a cheating relationship.

Cheating and trusting cannot survive together in a relationship. Sharing and trusting can.
JMHO

I don't think any of us really know what normal is. I had a better grasp on what I thought was normal before I started reading this forum. But this forum has been trending toward being a gathering ground for sharing, cuckolding, and lifestyle kinks for years, so if you want to be told it's normal, you've come to the right place. :)

Cheating
 

Yes we have worked the issues and it was not easy to make right but we’ve moved past this. It’s been an additional year and time heals most things. I just want to see it happen again.

Interesting...only a psychologist can answer if its normal

During that time she was with him did you or do you give her anal too?

My biggest thing here with the question is it normal is not the cheating part... that’s fucked up honestly. It’s more is it normal to be turned on by thinking of your wife being fucked.

Yes anal all the time big part of our sexlife.

I have been unfaithful in the past but it was way before this insistence. Also to add at the beginning of our relationship she used to enjoy me having sex with girls infront of her but got jealous once and that was that.

Normal?
 

In short, yes.

As others have said, people react differently to your situation and there is no "normal."

Sounds like you need to have further honest conversations with each other [and maybe first with yourself!] as to what you really want from your relationship and how you would like it to develop. Many men are arosed at the thought of their wife with another, whether just in fantasy or in reality, but the "cheating" aspect adds another layer as it was not something you both agreed to and shared but something she did without you. Not to be too psychological, but your mind could be trying to reduce the internal dissonence you feel at being betrayed and turning it into arousal as a way to deal with it, but maybe not.

Ok, so there is nothing that turns me on more than thinking about, or hearing from my ex-wife being fucked. When I found out about it, and then she late night texted me, alone made me want her back. I was the cheater, but once she had a new guy, I couldn't stop thinking about her. I felt like she was "cheating" even though I had left her. But within a few weeks, we were sexting and right after we both left those people, it became a crazy attraction. Around a month after we split, we had to go to a fundraiser for the kids' school and our friends had a hot tub in their back porch. She ripped her clothes off and jumped in when everyone else left, and we had the hottest sex ever.

She fucked a neighbor guy and had a pretty wild night with a mom from school during that time. We always talk about it!

You cheating..fucking others in front of her...things were not monogamous from the start..

I always wondered that myself ..if its the brains way of coping..instead of dealing with it head on out of fear of woman leaving us

Arousal and jealousy happen same time but yet cuckolds choose the arousal part instead of confronting the other part.

..plus could it be because you know her and would also be turned on seeing a friends wife...a female friend..avfriends mom..any female we knew fucking in front of us/telling us about it?

Just last night
 

So by posting this it has opened the door for me to be more honest about how I feel with her. So last night I asked how this all happened and she showed me this photo attached. That is what she sent him and in turn he sent a dick pic.

Of course he sent a dick pic, shes smoking hot. Do you think this was the only time she cheated? Sounds like lots of questions remain. Guess what you should be asking yourself is what do you ultimately want?

Was it a guy she met at gym?..how big/muscular is he compared to you..in case it ever came to a physical confrontation over this ?

No didn’t meet him at the gym. It was a friend of hers ex boyfriend. Not worried at all about confortation. She stoped working out and her ass and tits got way bigger since that picture. She lost muscle and only gained 15 lbs of weight.

Yeah Leopard,

It is more normal than you would think. Actually if I were you I would open it up and see if she was open to doing it again and letting you know about it and be a part of it. It could turn into a whole new hobby for you guys. That could lead to swinging for the both of you. Or it could let out your cuckold side a little bit. Who knows, but yes the idea of a big cock guy stretching out my demure sexless wife is a total turn on. Early on when we were dating I found out that she had a white guy with over 12" of cock swinging that she dated and only could only take 7" of so she wound up giving a lot of head and hand jobs. She said she didn't enjoy it. And after my wife he actually went totally for guys and turned gay.

It was just a real shocker to me that for one it happened (I wasn’t a pure saint) I didn’t think she had it in her. The second part is that I actually now fantasize about it. I told her I would even be cool with her doing it again but she said he would just bother the fuck out of her and she would just to appesise me but not worth it. She isn’t open to swinging currently.

It doesn’t have to be swinging. Approach the subject of her being a hotwife together. It doesn’t have to be degrading and can be very rewarding. Keep your options open and think about it. She’s gorgeous! I hope you’re able to get through all of this and possibly use it to open doors for the both of you.

Leopard hit my situation exactly. I was cheating and then found out my now ex-wife was fucking this young guy during the day 3 or 4 times a week. I walked in on it once and was turned on beyond description. We eventually got back together for sex and I asked her about it all the time and she finally started telling me. He would go 4 or 5 rounds in a couple hours, and she loved it. I guess he could cum buckets, and it drove her wild. He moved out of town, but I had been suggesting that I would like to watch it again. She pushed back until a couple weekends ago when we had an MMFF with two people she knows. Whoa.....

It was pretty surprising the first time it happened. But I think it's so hot now and makes me want her more than ever