What turns you on most about the thought of your wife or GF with another?
 

For me it is not a cuck thing in the traditional way - not a fan of humiliation and don't go for the cum eating after she has been fucked.

For me it is the thought of how turned on she is, her getting wet and horny and aroused by the guy, him enjoying her body, her skilled hands and mouth on his cock. But it's something I want to explore more: why does it turn me on so very much when she tells me about guys she has fucked before we met, especially if they were a good fuck?

Me
 

I like her to be happy and enjoy OUR swing lifestyle.. I like making her happy as she does me.....

As far as knowing her w/ another only?....::::::>

--I like seeing her w/ her high heel waving around in the air missionary.

--I like seeing her perform w/ other guys, sucking/fucking/etc.

--I like seeing her taking several guys @ once, ,, or seeing her used .

--I like sticking my cock in her sloppy seconds pussy knowing someone elses big cock was there.

--I like when I stick my cock in her sloppy seconds pussy that she cuck-talks me about it all.

We are swingers from day one...

-----To add to this her prespective-- She likes the same seeing me w/ other women.. example: she will get behind me and push my ass into whoever Im fucking missionary.... or face sit them looking at me to see if I'm enjoying myself......

For me, I get off on my wife getting off.
The way she lets go and does things differently with each person.
The way she makes another man come.
The way we both share the experience and talk about it later.
The look in her eyes.
The way she lies back and lets someone use her or how she uses them.

It just seems a natural thing for us to do sometimes, to involve others and explore.

I am the same way, I love the fact that my wife has a high libido and she loves to get that itch scratched. Also, the "reclaiming" sex is the hottest sex there is. I don't mean the sloppy second thing, just getting my cock in her after she has been fucked by anther guy, just drives me crazy, I can't wait.

That's hot
 

Never done the sharing thing and she is not up for it other than in fantasy, so I get this feeling from her accounts of exes and one night stands. It drives me crazy too. Try to picture it in my mind, to imagine how turned on she was. I wonder if guys still jerk to the memory of fucking her. Two guys who were at our wedding had done her and she disappeared for ages with one to smoke a spliff on the day. Still fantasise about that sometimes too!

I'm slowly working her into it, VERY VERY slowly, heck a snail is leading the pace!

Yeah I'm not into the humiliation and cream pies I just want to see her be taken and sexually pleased, her being happy and glowing from a good fucking.

I love seeing a woman surrounded by multiple men. Just think of the photos with women with 2 or 3 dicks in their mouths. Then seeing a woman coated in globs of multiple men's cum is something most women need to do at least once in their lives. I think it just the pure nastiness of it all ;-). You see these women who seem so proper doing things that are just bad & I mean BAD in the best of ways.

wife with another
 

For me it's not cream pie or cuckold or anything like that. I have been her only cock and I want her to experience another cock. I can take pics or we can be watched. She's slowly getting there bit it may not happen in my life time. Too bad. I wonder if any guys would want to fuck her?

For me if we/she ever did it, the pride that she is attractive enough for a other man, and the fact he can do her only once, while i can do her when ever i want :D

The thought of fucking her ass while she rides a big dick is what turns me on.

i love the thought of watching her in a night club getting chatted up by other guys and dancing and being groped by other men :) she claims in our 7 years together that know one ever tries to chat her up i dont belive her as i have seen it happen when we have been out with friends. Anyone got any tips on how i can get her to open up about other guys trying it on with her... has anyone elses partner being very reluctant to talk about it or is it just mine?

When my ex and I were married, it never even crossed my mind. For 15 years, I loved fucking her. We had a bunch of times we could have 3's with other girls or a swap with couples but didn't do it. But she gained some weight and I just didn't want her at all. I cheated a lot (not proud of it), and finally left my ex. She lost all the weight. Only a few weeks after I left, I walked into to my old house and saw her getting her brains fucked out by a young guy. Just completely pounded and she was going crazy. I saw her cum and knew what that convulsing pussy felt like, and then heard him blast her. It was late night a few days later that I was a little drunk and sent her a text that I saw it. I was shocked that she wrote back right away. She asked what I liked. We sexted late almost every night about fucking our new ones.

After about a year, we both left them and kept the late night sexts going, but never acted on it. Finally one day she came to my place when kids were at school, and we talked about the ex's while we fucked for hours. She told me everything. She knows that I think about her fucking all the time, and she begged me to tell her about my ex's pussy and body. We show each other crazy pictures we took.

When I don't see her for a few days, she texts to ask me if I have been thinking about Jason fucking her and cumming in her. I can't lie. I do.

Spreading
 

For me the Thing that turns me on the most would be to see my wife naked laying in front of other men, spreading her legs wide open. I believe I would come only from seeing a stranger entering her pussy for the first time.

Wife with another...
 

It's like having another sex toy that brings her to multiple orgasms. I mean... really... who doesn't like seeing their wife or girlfriend cum? In our relationship, bringing in another guy to fuck her is like me being able to watch her with a "human sex toy". And, because he may do things differently, she orgasms in different ways. Awesome!!
People are paying thousands of dollars for "almost human" sex dolls. Why NOT have a real, live, sex doll for her to get off on? ...and, for free!! LOL

Tonight she will get massaged and fucked by her massage therapist. What sex toy can do all that?

Exactly my sentiments

My ex got fucked by a massage guy at a totally legitimate spa before we met. She said he was gorgeous. She told me that while she was on her stomach, the dude went down and touched her pussy and she immediately rolled over and grabbed his dick. Dianna loves porn and I guess she had one of those massage room fantasies. I guess he was one of the 3 or 4 guys she'd ever fucked that was uncut (he was German). She doesn't like it apparently, but said he was amazing at going down on her, but didn't know at all how to fuck.

But I think about her fucking the young Spanish guy after we met all the time. Also uncut, but she didn't care because he could cum buckets and fuck her 10 times a day. She sexts me about it many times a week. Hot

We've been talking about this during sex...
 

We've never had a third person, so recently I have been trying to push her limits...things like a cock in her pussy while a dildo is in her ass. I successfully double dicked her pussy, so she is much more open to at least fantasizing about strange cock. So I guess I would like to see her in the throes of passion, sex drunk and cum crazed. I told her that the only requirement is that she receive all of the cum on her beautiful face.

The early stages of the love making. The making out, the undressing of one another and the man learning of my wife' intimacies as they move from first to second base.

i can't stop thinking of my ex fucking the german massage guy after he fingered her. She loves porn and definitely wanted to have that happen. She always wanted to do that. A friend of hers fucked a massage guy in Mexico at a womens escape camp. She said he was huge and fucked her brains out after she turned over. He ate her pussy for more than an hour. She tells me about it all the time. Dianna loves big dicks, and couldn't say no. Dianna cums in a minute when she talks about it.

Incredible

her favorite porn is the massage guy fucking the girl because she actually did it. she loves being all oiled up and seeing a big dick. she told me that was the hottest thing she ever did. she said that the guy made her cum and can't get it out of her head.

Most amazing thing I have ever seen was seeing her fucking that guy. She's gone from prude to showoff

for me it is knowing that my wife had a great time in bed with her ex boyfriends and that she had fun pleasing them and them enjoying her body....i like thinking that when it was their turn they had fun together and i get the benefit now of the things they taught her !

What turns me on.
 

For me it is imagining her body moving as he enters her and the sounds she makes in passion and as she cums. The pleasure she feels with another man’s cock in her pussy and mouth. Knowing she loved feeling him, and tasting him.

Knowing that at the time, she loved him and gave herself totally to him. And how much he was crazy about her body and did everything to please her sexually.

The idea of having a wife or girlfriend to see with someone else :(

I'm something of a voyeur. I like watching. So I while I love being the one who makes her cum, sometimes I'd like to be able to watch the show without having to be in the middle of it, so to speak.

After I cheated on her because I wasn't attracted to her anymore, she made sure to tell and show me everything. Since then, I have never loved fucking her more. All discrete. No friends know!

Why?
 

It turns me on to see or hear about her letting her freaky side out. From watching her flash, to seeing her laying, exhausted, with a freshly filled pussy

Having to admit that there is, since we were married, now another guy who knows what it is like to be inside of her. This hasn't happened since we've been married, but we did play MMFF and other things when we dated, and it turned me on to think about it during masturbating that another guy's penis completely was inside her vagina.

SpyStrip, what do you mean there was another guy inside of her?

wow that's me too
 

I've been trying to get to happen as well. To see other guys chatting flirting hitting on the wife as they are trying to pick her up. We be gone out with this intent a few times and I guess my wife just doesnt have it. Guys just don't try anything with her.

It totally sucks and not sure what do to.

Thank you. Since you have a lack of messages, I left a message on your profile page.

Hi Thebigg,

The question of the thread is:
What turns you on most about the thought of your wife or GF with another?

What turns me on about my wife being with another man, when we did MMFF before we were married, was the notion that the intimacy I had exclusively with my wife was lost, and another man knows what it's like for his hard cock to be inside of my wife and completely have enjoyed her vagina as I have. He can forever smirk and say to himself, "I've fucked that b*tch and know everything there is to know about her." To me, that's very HOT.

Hey Spy,

A bunch of things. 1. Less than a week after I moved out (18 months ago), I walked in on her fucking the young Spanish dude in our old house right when he was cumming in her. Her legs were behind her head and she was shaking. I slipped out before she saw me. 2. That same night she was sexting me at about 1:30am for a couple hours. Among a whole lot of other stuff, D told me that even though he wasn't as big as me, he had that upward curved cock and that she must have cum 10 times. 3. The next day I went back to the house while she was out to pick up some clothes. Out of complete erotic curiosity, I went over to the bed and pulled back the sheets. It was at least 1/3 full of cum stains. Insane. 4. She texted me later that night and asked if I was happy fucking Jenna (I had left D for her). After a bit I wrote that I had picked up some clothes and saw the bed. And then I said, "congratulations. I saw the sheets". She wrote back immediately and said he's 28 and gets hard when the wind blows. We stopped the late night sexts for a while, and then.... 5. About 3 months ago when the kids were going back to school, I had to go to her place to sign some papers. I had just split with Jenna and apparently the Spanish dude left town. She looked incredible and was wearing short shorts and a white top. Her nipples were pointed out and up (they are remarkable as you may have seen from pics I posted). I couldn't take it and kissed her. She buckled and we spent the whole morning fucking like we hadn't in years. I asked her to tell me all about Sebastian (the Spanish guy). It was a side I never saw in her. Over the last few weeks, she asked me if I masturbated thinking about her fucking him as much as she did thinking about me with Jenna. She asked me why I didn't do the 3-way with her and her friend Anna that she said she "completely set up for me". I said I wasn't sure if she wanted me to or if she was testing me. She said, "no, I wanted you to fuck her in front of me". I asked her what she liked about sex with Seb. She told me, well other than that his cock hit my clit from every position, he could cum at least 10 times a night. When I told her how hot that was, she said, I kinda wondered if you were turned on by the idea of him cumming in me. Duh. Last night, she asked me again. I replied "for sure". So she wrote, "well you did. The week before you left, I came home full of his cum. And you licked me out and fucked me. I have another young man and we could do it again. And maybe you could bring someone...."

So that's why!

Just remembered one other thing. D said that sometimes after he came, he would tell her "balls are not drained! Balls are not drained!" I love fucking while we are talking about how this guy couldn't get enough of her pussy. Same for her. She asks me to tell her everything.

Mine is the same way, and unfortunately have no suggestions. She never has told stories from her past nor what has happened since we were married many a moon ago. Have seen guys try to pick her up and she loves the attention but it has never gone further when I have been around. After a wedding years ago I was talking with friends at the reception and when it was time to sit at the tables for dinner I found some guy had his arm around her waist rubbing her side and trying for more and she did nothing to stop him. Who knows what would have happened if I had not led her away. After another wedding a few years after we were married we stopped at a bar for a nightcap and when I got back from the gents a guy was sitting next to her rubbing her thigh. Was not into the idea of others with her then and told the guy to take off. There have to be many other times but she keeps them in the vault... :(

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Hey Spy, one other incredible thing to add, but can't send more messages for a few hours. You there?

I've given this whole thing a lot of thought (it's what I do!). The whole cuckolding angle - humiliation factor, etc - really doesn't hold any appeal for me and yet I've always found the idea of the woman I love being with someone else an incredible turn-on. The closest I can figure is that it's about stepping back and seeing her as a purely sexual being, completely independent of me, which makes me want her even more. This is why I love the idea of her having sex with another man or even just exposing herself, but the idea of her actually developing emotions for anyone else is the last thing I want. I remember hearing some porn actor (can't remember who) talking about his relationship with his wife or girlfriend, who was also in porn. He said something to the effect of "She can suck a dozen other men's cocks and I'm fine with it but if I caught her having a romantic dinner with anyone else I'd totally lose it."

I have been sharing my wife with other men for the past few years without being a cuckold. The humiliation, denial, etc. does nothing for me. I prefer to watch, and join in. She likes to be watched, and shared, and have two or more men dedicated to pleasing her. Sexual definitions are helpful in that they convey a general idea of sexual preference, etc. But they are often limiting. My wife and I are closer to the "Hotwife" definition, which sounds like what you are interested in. But we are not a typical "hot wife" couple because she does not play alone. She does "date" men, meaning she will meet them for lunch, cocktails, etc. But if I am not there, the date ends with a kiss and nothing more.