What is the bigger turn on?
 

What is the bigger turn on for you?
I love being in sexual situations with my wife. Threesomes, moresomes, whatever happens at the time.
But, I love to hear her adventures more sometimes. Listening to her telling me her experiences, or her side of something we have done. Sexual talk can sometimes turn me on more than when we have been playing around.

What are your preferences? Which or what does it for you?

Both
 

You covered alot... I like both, moresomes, and hearing about her adventures when I'm not at home... read about her on "sharing the wife" to understand what i'm talking about.:)

Great idea artfuldogger. I never asked my wife about the details of her side of our adventures (together or not)... other than to make sure that she's okay, had a good time - since she is rather new to kink.

Her helping out with a glory hole - which I suggested as a joke earlier. I didn't know until a friend of mine told me, so I got in line... :)

First posting
 

Okay... I've been here for a while. I took a few pictures while having fun with friends (3 guys, 2 women).

My petite wife had a great time, getting mardi-gras beads and our drunk night ends it her have sex with another man, only a few feet from me while I and another guy have sex with another woman - where she was cumming loudly. I thought this was a cute and sexy photo of her bent over - telling the other couple good night. Her butt in the air.

Her butt was one of her selling points when we first fucked each others brains out.

Nice!
 

Awesome photo of an awesome lady! She looks yummy in that position!

In my case it's hearing her stories. I've writing about this before so I'm sorry if you've already heard this. My wife was very sexually active in her teens and early 20's before we got married. She figures she had 20-something sex partners back then. I would love to watch her getting fucked by others but that's in her past. She came very close one time while I was there but it didn't happen. She knows my fantasy and enjoys playing up to it by telling me detailed stories about her past, especially during foreplay. It gets me hard and horny every time.

Why not have her read the stories from the men and women here... who go beyond the fantasy? :)

Thanks for your suggestion. She's familiar with the swinging lifestyle and sometimes gets turned on reading or watching stories about it. One time, while on vacation, she came very close to having sex with another guy while I was there. She went as far as having his hand inside her bikini bottom. However, she backed out and couldn't go through with it. I'm not going to complain. She is a fantastic, enthusiastic, and adventurous lover who I'm lucky to have as my wife.

By all means... same here, lucky to be with the one I have.
I would like to ask thou... have you actually talked to her about doing it for real, rather than "well - someday we'll get sooooo drunk and horny, it'll happen"?

Reason being: someone could be upset or feel guilty. After a recent swinging/etc. My wife wants us to talk even more - make sure everyone is happy. She thought I was upset (for some reason - drinking), so I told her when drunk didn't sink in until later, when sober. I was good. But you see, she had a bit of feeling "guilty" because she came with having sex with someone else - I didn't (whisky dick and other factors). So after all these years of being together - I had to be honest and reaffirm that I don't need to cum, to have fun (while preferred) as we all have fingers, mouths and toys to play with.

I've been in the kinky/swing life style 10 years ahead of her... sure I'll always want to play around with cutie/hottie - and better yet, share her with my wife. But in the end, my wife is the one I trust and look out first.

Would I dump my wife for a super hottie 20yr old... no. Only thing that would make me want to break up with her, is cheating or if she got into drugs (crack / meth / etc) or assaulted me. I really do want to grow old and die with my wife... and likely she'll outlive me by 20+ years anyway since I'm 15yrs older and women usually live longer.

So, with your wife (and anyone else here) in which both of you are getting turned on by the thought of having sex with others; to swing or poly requires Communication of your feelings and concerns, honesty, communication, trust, love, safety and finally... communication. Even watch the stupid movie "50 shades of grey" which is mommy porn. And put it in writing "I will not be mad if/when you suck and/or fuck another penis or vagina."

There's a reason why many older folks DO start swinging... you only having sex with ONE person... for decades?! First, we didn't used to live so long and second, its in our nature in general to fuck around a lot.

I was recently talking with a 19yr old and her 25yr old friend (they were friends of a friend) and I was giving the 19yr advice in which her older friend was agreeing. I said things like: don't fall in love easy... date around, get laid on your terms. Look out for creepers and those who date-**** drug (I showed her how to hold her drink cups at parties and clubs) and to dump control freaks. She's pretty smart for her age and appreciated the suggestions.

Tales of her past
 

I find that at this point in my life, stories of her past is a huge turn for me. Not that she's shared much detail so far. More me asking, begging, grovelling and guessing and letting my imagination take what it can from her replies.

I've learned to show no visible negative reaction to anything she gives me. It was suggested that I would not be so thrilled as I might think to hear what I thought I wanted to hear. I might have shook my head and muttered something in reaction to one of her recollections. Not a good thing to do if one wants to hear any more tales.

At any rate, trying to get her to open up is much more fun than golf.

Dollie here
 

Dollie--------------There are some great answers here. It actually worked for me! The stories and pictures turned my life around. I overdid it at first. But don't regret anything and still have my own lovers when I need them. True to his word, my husband watches, helps, and enjoys it. If I could do it at my age, any woman can.

Sharing the wife with others does it for me. I like it even more when she takes on several of us at the same time.

Its been a while...
 

Its been a busy month for me, work related. But me and the wife (the nice ass above) have gone out to a club and a party... and had sex with other men and women.

This is something that is still new to her, but also NEW to me in that this is the ONLY and the MOST serious relationship I have had in my life. Dating 2-3 women at a time and/or ONS types is light weight compared to having a constant lover in your bed every night.

Recently, I was having sex with a woman about 27yr old. My naked wife comes in and starts eating her out... while I was sucking and playing with her tits and pussy. I enjoyed the view of her mouth on another woman's lips (lol) since she was enjoying her self so much. Later when we got home, we fucked each others brains out... and more so throughout the week.

For those who don't know me, I believe in equality for my relationship and those of others (same sex marriage). So while I know a few who LIKE doing threesome's with their girlfriend - that is ONLY with another woman. No other guy's allowed - for whatever reason.

Since we first started dating, I told her I'm into open/poly relationship. She did ask about fucking other men... and I did agree, that it wouldn't be fair if I didn't. It still took almost a year for us to let others into our sex lives. But the more we do this, the more I know she is enjoying it. Her jealousy and insecurities from early in our relationship are gone - WHICH I find attractive about her.

One of my friends, an older man in his late 60's - who is a DOM in the BDSM scene gets to play with her publicly in certain clubs. Even full nudity, while tied and handcuffed to various devices while getting flogged and spanked. I love watching others (men and women) enjoying the view of my lovely wife being in such positions.

Recently, we went out with an old friend of hers (before I meet her). He hasn't been laid in years, bad breakup with an ex-wife. He was nervous about touching her, but we both made it clear that we're here to help him... she helped him get out of his clothes (She is already nude) and sucked him off. We both had are way with her at the same time. She's sucking him, while I'm fucking her and switching...

She loved it... and loves me more for allowing her this freedom...

I have pictures... I need to review... :)

Any and all
 

It's all a huge turn on for me!

That my wife will indulge me in all kinds of sexual adventuring from mild to wild is my biggest turn-on and it all works on each its own level.

Even though I love to watch her take on multiple men, I still love it when she simply shows off or does some other wild act that doesn't even involve touching...

and I absolutely love when she tells me her feelings about any of the playful times!