Ever Been Embarrassed Coming Too Fast?
 

I have just had one of those awful moments I am sure all men dread.

I have slowly been building up to asking one of my work colleagues out. She is just over thirty, brunette, perky breasts but a little large around the hips; I am forty two, divorced and a little out of shape. Tonight after work I asked Tina if she wanted to stop for a drink on the way home, and to my great pleasure she said yes. Not to make this story too long we had a couple of drinks and then a curry before we took a taxi, the idea was I would drop her off before going on to my place. When we got to her house she suggested coffee and in we went. She had a small semi detached house where she lived alone since her divorce three years earlier.

Once inside Tina started making the coffee and I sat on the sofa - it was clear that we both knew that "sex was on the menu" tonight. After a little while we were kissing and I had my hand on her breasts outside her shirt, she had her hand at the back of my head holding me tenderly as our tongues met in her mouth. We kissed and I continued feeling her, slowly sliding my hand inside her shirt and over her bra. I thumbed back the material and I could feel her nipple, hard against my thumb, gently I rubbed it. In a few minutes I had her shirt undone and I could see her small breasts and nipples through the lacy cups of her bra. As we kissed she slowly moved her hand down across my chest to my belt, I felt her fumbling with it and then unzipping my trousers. her hand was inside feeling my modest (just over 5 inch) cock through my boxers. I lifted my hips and helped her slide my trousers down, finally kicking them off as they got to my ankles.

At this point Tina suggested we go upstairs to her bedroom, I followed as she held my hand walking up the stairs. Into her room she walked to the bed, shrugged off her shirt and quickly unzipped her skirt before letting it fall to the floor. I was mesmerized as she stood before me in her white bra and bikini pants (Marks and Spencer I think). I was still in my shirt and boxers as she walked up to me, her dark bush visible through the front of her panties, and nipples still erect. She stood in front of me, grasped my boxers by the waist band and tugged them down a bit, exposing my penis to her for the first time. As I am not well endowed I always find this first exposure a little unnerving, but she didn't seem to mind slowly sinking to her knees before pulling my boxers down further and completely releasing my penis. I should say at this time I have not had sex for about six months, although I do masturbate regularly. As my penis popped free of my boxers it kind of "sprung up" towards her face, and just at that moment with no warning I shot my load - several spurts of semen all over her nose, forehead and into her hair.

For a second I don't think she knew what had happened, then it dawned on her "What the f**K" was all she said, it was clear from the tone that there would be no further action tonight. I stammered an apology and left, my dick shrinking along with my self esteem.

I am just wondering if anybody else has had any similar experiences?

Too Soon
 

I've only shot my load before entry once, and it was totally unexpected. I usually eat my wife until she cums before we start fucking, and this time started out the same. Normally she pulls me up to her after she cums and we get down to business. What was different this time was that after she came she just told me to lighten up. I did, and she got really excited again. I increased speed and pressure, and she REALLY went off in no time. We repeated the sequence twice more, with her orgasms becoming more intense and vocal each time. The fourth time she made noises I had never heard from her before, and I just spewed my seed on the bed before I even knew I was close. I guess I was so focused on watching and listening to her that I didn't even notice that "funny feeling". She was too tired for more sex of any kind after that. It has become one of our favorite memories. We have tried to repeat it, but haven't yet gotten to that same place.

Haven't we all?
 

Haven't we all encountered that "Oops!" monent at one time or another? Maybe not to that extreme...but still. It had been 6 months so that doesn't surprise me at all. What does surprise me is her reaction! She ruined what still could have been a wonderfully erotic evening and I don't blame you for getting dressed and walking out. She didn't deserve your attention.

Had she reacted in an understanding or even humorous way, you could have reassured her that it was the circumstances and her sexiness that caused your extreme state of arousal and that she should take it as a compliment. Then, you could have showed her how a real man can please a woman in ways that don't involve a stiff cock (at least not right away!)

Of course, if you are anything like me, giving her a full body massage while you explore her body's most intimate areas, followed by oral and digital ministrations to those same areas, would keep her happy and soon would have had your cock standing at full attention and had you ready to redeem yourself and your pride! (Not to mention the fact that most of us can go on a long, long time the second time around!)

Seems to me that she blew it, not you! :mad:

Yes!
 

When I first had sex with my then second wife who was a real bible thumper,I got her on the bed and I was hard as steel and hadnt had sex in a while,I went down on her and licked her a long time trying to get her horny as hell which did work,but when I shoved my cock into her I got way to excited and within 30 seconds was gushing my load. Even when I pulled out I was still cumming,I got it all over her and the bed. I felt really bad about it and told her I was sorry she just told me it was alright she understood. But still I felt bad about the whole thing.

nope nothing to be ashamed about,there is always round 2 to make up with :)
i consider it a compliment to my bed partner for being freaking hott and horny :D

nectcouple got it right. It does happen, and she should not have reacted that way. You could have had a great night together.

LOL. My first time with a girl. I was 16. She was 17. I was a sophomore. She was a junior. An older woman. She was definitely in charge. She invited me to the beach. We laid there on towels a few hundred yards away form anyone else. We started kissing with her on her back and me on top. I got up the nerve to touch her boobs and pop one out of her bikini top. She reached down into my bathing suit and put her hand on the shaft of my already hard cock. And bam. I started spurting. It landed all over her abdomen. It took her about 30 seconds to notice my cock was shrinking. Then she touched the tip and I guess felt the wetness. Then she touched her stomach and put her hand into a gooey mess. It startled her a little and she said "Oh!" I rolled off her and we went back to sun bathing, pretending none of it ever happened.

Anytime my wife is hot for anal, I come even before full penetration. I guess I get too excited to see my cock going in ass.

You got that exactly right!

I actually take it as a compliment, and more then once have told a partner to not hold back and just let it go. It can be a real rush knowing that a guy finds you so sexy that he can not hold himself back.

I never judge a guy on his "first pop", but on his last one. If his first is also his last, then it is somebody I am not going to be interested in being with ever again because I know they are only interested in their own pleasure. If the second or third (or fourth) finally leaves me with a "oh god that was good!" feeling, then I completely forgive them for being fast on the trigger the first time.

With my last BF, I would sometimes beg him for a quickie and try to get him off as fast as I could. I think the fastest was 2 minutes of penetration doggie style with my jeans around my knees when he let loose (near the dumpsters behind where I work). Pulling them back up and slipping in a pad before returning to work knowing I was freshly fucked left me feeling amazing for the rest of the shift.

And he treated me to some of his "long time specials" when I got home that night.

Some great explainations here. Nice to see a woman's side of it. I really can't think of one time to write home about. But I know it happened a lot. Especially when first dating my first-----and only wife. After all, it's a compliment from the way I look at it.
But just because a guy shoots early does not mean he can't shoot again....and again.

Now for a funny story. We have a few kinky friends who love to fondle and finger my wife when we visit each. That's all she's into with others. Both Dale and BP have many times drained or shot a full load at times, even before she touches them.
The last visit with BP he was having personal money problems so Dollie's games never happened. However she did pull BP's hard cock from his jogging pants to masturbate him. She was hoping this would get him hot enough to finger her. Yes she loves that.
Well in seconds poor ole BP grabbed his cock. wrapped his hands around it, and ran to the bathroom, appologizing for his ejaculatory accident. When he took a long time cleaning up, Dollie kept saying she was coming in there to help. Poor guy, he finally came out appologizing repeatedly. Sadly we haven't had time to go back again.

never that fast but I came once with a girl on a night stand in about 30 seconds... was my first one night stand and hse was really hot haha. she left lol

I came when she asked me if I wanted to come up for a nightcap.

First time DATY
 

I had never given oral pleasure until my first year a college. I was always fascinated about it, but never encountered a gal that was amenable to it. I had gotten together with this gal a 3-4 times and we had screwed twice, I think.

We were in bed naked hot into foreplay when I made a move toward mounting her. She stopped me and a asked if I had ever thought about pleasuring a girl with my mouth. I explained to her that I had fantasized about it many times, but hadn't found a gal that I felt comfortable to approach her as it seemed like most people thought of it as extreme where I had grown up.

She said why don't I try it on her and maybe I'd like it. Wow, I thought, my fantasy is about to happen. I moved my head down there and started t slowly lick and kiss. Obviously I wasn't quick enough for her as she reached down and spread her lips and pushed my mouth down on her clit. What a great feeling having her clit in my mouth and tasting her juices. I really got into it for probably about fifteen minutes. She was writhing and moaning finally cumming holding my head to her pussy. I could feel my cock hard as ever between me and the sheets. As she came I was dry humping the sheets and came myself shortly after she did.

I moved back up to face her and we kissed heavily and I could tell she was enjoying licking her juices off my face. She said now I'm going to return the favor. By this time junior was flaccid and covered with his own cum. I embarrassingly said, "I came already while doing you!" She reached down and began to feel him and said not to worry I'll take care of that. True to her words she had junior at attention in no time with her mouth and a little later I filled her mouth with my cum.

We became "oral buddies" trading oral pleasantries regularly. Evidently she was a good teacher as one day some time later she brought a girlfriend over who had never had it done to her and asked me to show her what it was like. And that became my first threesome.

Ahhh! to be nineteen and full of spunk again.

First time
 

As Dave Chappell used to say, "when I come, it's TIME!", so in that sense, there is no "too early" I suppose. But I do remember the first time I came with a naked female present, and it qualifies.

I had finger fucked her once while we were sitting in the from seat of the car, but that was it. She had let me see her pussy, but that was all we did. The next time we were together, we wound up back at my folks house, in the basement. I was actually a fairly shy kids, so we spent some time teasing around the subject, She noticed the obvious: I was hard, and said she'd never seen one before. I was quick to strip my jeans off -a thrill in itself that I hoped would lead to more. She wouldn't touch my cock, but she didn't resist when I took her jeans down.

I was honestly afraid I wouldn't find her hole as I got out the condom I had on hand for the occasion. As I got it on and we laid down, I asked her to guide me in. As she grabbed my cock, I erupted. Over before it began.

too often
 

I get very hard thinking about my wife being dirty and nasty in bed. when she strips down and caresses her curvy body, those big hips, hot tits and thick thighs, then starts to use her BBC dildo I cum very quickly. Often on her pussy and thighs before I even get my cock into her. She giggles some and fucks herself harder with those dildos. She needs a long lasting hung bull to get her off right.

Haha. Same here. On the rare occasion she doesn't say no, it's like "omg. She's actually going to let me. Ah. Ah. Sh!t! Hope she let's me try that again". Of course it doesn't help when she fidget so much I'm usually sliding around a cracked full of lube for a couple minutes before the tip enters.

I know what you mean. I tried for 12 years to talk my first wife into anal but it was always a no go. I finally talked her into trying a small vibrator and she loved it. We kept moving up in size with toys until she felt she could handle my average sized cock. After a night of lots of foreplay, both vaginal and anal, she actually told me she wanted me to f*ck her *ss.
After 12 years of waiting to hear her say that, I was so excited I took one full stroke and filled her up. Luckily I was able to quickly recover and enjoy her back door for a long time after that.

































her a##.

Ive came too fast but not as fast as you. I lasted in my about 30 seconds in the woman who would become my 2nd & current wife some 20yrs later :)

My first time.
 

After prolonged mutual masturbation which was leading up to both of us losing our virginities I ended up cumming in the condom as I put it on.

Fortunately she was patient and 5 or 10 minutes later I managed to slip it in.. Probably lasted another 20 seconds tops.

Well I've never come before penetration, but did get close to it on one occasion.

My girlfriend and I had spent the afternoon together and had been making out in the car for hours. By the time we found a secluded spot, and got round to actually having sex, I was so excited that I came after about three thrusts! Fortunately the girl was very mature about it - we just had a good laugh and enjoyed the rest of the day.

I remembered thinking, thank god it wasn't my previous girlfriend ... she'd have gone into an instant sulk and not spoken to me for the rest of the day.

Funny
 

I think this is the funniest thread on this site! Probably because its happened to all of us at one time (if you're lucky!) or another.

Like so many others on here, anal sex was my downfall as well. I have an ex who used to say "OK" occasionally and I never lasted more than a few strokes. I don't know if it was because it was so tight, or the lengthy struggle rubbing myself along her lubed up crack and false starts to finally get myself inserted, or the sheer novelty of it, but once buried to the balls, I would be like, "OMG. this feels great!" followed by an "Agh!" and "OMG, not again! :p

HA! I read this post all over again. It's really funny.:D Okay I know, this is some serious true information. What's great about it is we are all man and woman enough to tell the truth. Keep them cumming...litterally!

Dear god yes. Thats all i'll say about the topic.

I find the stories of people cummins before they even get started very erotic for some reason I cant explain.

It has not happened to me but it happens to my wife all the time.
I have to be careful because she she gets super sleepy after an orgasm. If I want to have good sex I have to do take it really easy and try not to take to long to cum.

I was 19 and she was 18, we had been dating for about a month when I finally got the courage to take her back to my mobile mansion. We started fooling around in the recliner and I took her top and bra off, I stood up and got undressed then Straddled between her legs in the recliner and started sucking on her nipple, my cock was rock hard and throbbing she reached down and touched my member I erupted all over her hand and on the recliner, not a word was said we stood up and went back to the bedroom, where we made out for a little while until I got hard again, I slipped a condom on and I vividly remember her pussy being so tight I could barely get my cock in, but once I did wow that what a amazing feeling, I think I lasted about 5 minutes that time.

Are you sure your name is not Pinocchio?

My first post-pubescent sexual encounter was with the sister of my mate's girlfriend. It was an all-round embarrassing experience for me. She came from a very enlightened family and she and her sister had appeared in a sex-education film that was made at the time. Anyway I was legal and she was barely-legal and we were messing around on her bed while my buddy and the older sister were fucking on the sister's bed on the other side of the room. Eventually I got my hand down her pants and panties to cop my first ever feel of a pussy. What I didn't know and no-one had told me is that an aroused pussy is self-lubricating and the wetness was totally unexpected. I think I might have mumbled something about had she pissed herself. As if that was not bad enough, she then went on her own fishing expedition and hauled my ragingly erect dick out of my Levis. No sooner was it exposed than it erupted and covered the two of us with a coating of man juice. I was then given a lecture by the older sister on how to treat a girl and how I had done everything wrong. Room for improvement and I did.

I think it never happened to me because all my first girlfriends were catholic girls who did everything else but not full on sex. So by the time I actually had sex It was actually really good.

But I do have one trick I have used more than a few times. If I feel like I am going to be over exited with a new girl I start with kissing all over her body and oral sex until the wave passes. Changing positions is also usefull.

I know everyone is different but for me trying to be really into what you are doing and how she is reacting is way better than trying to think about baseball or some other external thing.

I am sure I could cum early if I wanted to, but I would be worried that the girl would tell her friends about it.

It came out in a hurry.....
 

I would have to say that I suffered from blowing the wad too soon on a few occasions as a youngster until I learned to control it a bit... I think that over excitement was the culprit to the problem.

I was still quite inexperienced in the art of making love, when one day I ran into a lovely cougar. I won't give my age, but she was easily double mine. She was pleasant to talk to and easy on the eyes.
To make a long story short, she wanted young cock and we ended up at her place and was soon naked... of course,
ol one eyed Herm was all excited and when she grabbed him to slide him into her, he erupted all over the place. She quickly put him into her slit and pulled me in close. She then proceeded to continue making out with me and let me fondle her.
Well, an amazing thing happened and I stayed hard and soon we were going at it like old pros.. (she was one).
This time, I lasted at least 20 minutes before letting loose all in her warm sn*tch....

After this experience, I didn't have any problems getting to heart of the matter.....

catholic girls?????????????????? WTF? has that got to do with anything? My younger brother's first girl friend was Catholic and she fucked everyone like a Mink. I had several Catholic girls too. Some I shot prematurely on or in!

Ditto. My wife of nearly 40 years is Catholic, and we've had an active sex life all that time. On the other hand, my college girlfriend was a Protestant, but never went to church and never said no to anyone for sex.

F

I'm pretty sure that some religeous people have sex. :D

About the only sect I know that's completely died out was the Shakers, who believed in total abstinence....

F

Quick Follow-up
 

I started this thread, just thought I would give an up-date. After being embarrassed with Tina I was reluctant to risk another failure. I am pretty sure she told her friends at work so it was abit awkward for a while. For my job I travel a lot and frequently spend time in Singapore. One visit I was walking around Chinatown and saw a massage spa, it was in Mosque street and from the outside looked quite harmless. I went inside to ask for a massage.

Inside an older lady asked me if I wanted one hour, I thought that sounded good and she took me to a small room at the back. On the floor was a low bed with towels on it "undress, girl come soon" she said. As instructed I stripped down and lay on the bed face down with a towel across my backside. After a few minutes the door opened and I heard a voice "how you?". I replied I was fine and then the massage started. It was really good, the girl did my legs, right up under the towel but not touching my privates and then she did shoulders, back and arm. When she had finished there she folded the towel down and did my butt cheeks and right into the crack of my buttocks, just gently rubbing around my puckered anus. It was heaven and I could feel an erection stirring when she said "turn over now". As I turned over she held the towel over me and modestly looked away. Once I was on my back I saw her look down and smile at the bulge in the towel.

Once on my back the routine was the same, legs right up to my groin under the towel but not touching the penis and then my upper chest and top of the head. After that she came back to my waist and started slipping her fingers under the towel to the level of my pubic hair. Casually she reached down and just touched me through the the towel "massage here?" she said. I just nodded. Carefully she folded down the towel exposing my now half erect member, she smiled and said "nice cock" in a delightful Chinese accent. She put more oil on her hands and took hold of me, expertly rubbing and teasing me to fully erect, I was terrified I would orgasm too soon but she definitely knew what she was doing. She continued to gently caress my penis, at the same time massaging my testicles and gently around my anus. I was in heaven. Every time she sensed I was close she would change the motion until I subsided again. After a while she said "cock very strong" and indicating her breasts asked 'like to see?" Again I nodded and watched as she lifted her t-shirt and bra to reveal a lovely small pair of breasts with dark nipples. I lifted my arm and touched one nipple, pinching it gently between thumb and forefinger, she smiled and I let my hand roam across her upper body, cupping each beast alternately before letting my hand slide down to the front of her sweat pants. I slowly inserted a couple of fingers under the elastic but she shook her head "top only" she said. As I resumed fondling her small firm breasts she started to stroke me faster and harder, a big grin crossing her face. I knew there was no turning back and started lifting my hips as my orgasm built. She said "cum for me darling", again in that lovely accent, and almost on cue I shot several loads into the air and onto my stomach. She kept pumping me until there was no more and then in the most gentle way possible she cleaned me up and lightly kissed my forehead before telling me that I should come to see her more often.

She left the room while I dressed, returning with a cup of water. I gave her $150 tip and left very happy. My demons had been laid to rest. I had spent time with a beautiful young lady, we were very intimate and I did not finish prematurely. For sure I will visit her again and, more importantly,next time I am home I am going to see Tina and this time she will beg me to stop as I wear out her tired old pussy.

Yep.

Embarrassed until...
 

When I was 18 I was very inexperienced though not a virgin. There was a girl, Kathi, whom I'd started seeing on a friendly basis, she was seriously cute, sexy as shit, and 24. On the night before my 19th birthday she took me to the beach where we sat on a blanket and drank a bottle of wine.

We started making out which had my head spinning and my other head hard. We went back to her apartment (I still lived at home) and went straight to her bedroom. We laid on the bed making out and awkwardly got our clothes off, her body was incredible, skin perfectly smooth, I suddenly got nervous because I knew I would cum really quick so I tried to do something about it.

I moved down and started licking her pussy, laying on my stomach and pressing down on my cock to try to stop the rush of blood. Her pussy was hairy but, like the rest of her, everything about it was perfect. Unfortunately after about a minute of going down on her (probably not doing a very good job) she says "just fuck me" and pulls me by my arm up toward her.

On top of her I grab my cock to press it between her lips and push it in. She was incredibly wet and I slipped in easily and began slowly pumping her. I was so close. I literally started thinking about baseball and Eleanor Roosevelt (LOL). With her legs she started pulling against my ass making me go faster and harder and after about five thrusts I explode inside her.

At that point I was fucking her hard and I just kept fucking her convinced she knew I'd cum. I thought if I just kept fucking her she'd maybe not be disappointed. So I kept fucking her at the same speed and intensity and I realized that my cock was still hard. I was so turned on and excited about her that I stayed hard so I just kept going.

Even though I was young and in great shape the intensity and speed she'd been pulling me in at was a bit strenuous to keep up and it was a workout. It wasn't easy but I was really worried about disappointing her, plus I still couldn't believe I was inside her.

Not sure how long after I came that I kept fucking her but at some point she says my name and asks "when are you going to cum?" Dumbass me I say, "I already did." She says, "no you didn't" and I roll off of her. We spent the next hour making out and talking and then I fucked her again but this time I came after about a full minute (LOL). This time she realized I came.

So, I was really embarassed the first time until I realized she either didn't want to embarrass me or just didn't know. I have to believe that after I pulled out the first time and she got up to piss she figured it out. I had to have filled her up.

with hindsight
 

Maybe not embarrassed at the time but I can think of a couple of occasions in my younger days when I probably could have hung on for longer and the girls were too polite to say anything.

I think it's probably a symptom of being young and not getting regular sex that makes it all too much at the time.
If only 'There's something about Mary' had been released many years ago, we'd all know to whack off earlier in the evening.

A cure for what ailed me
 

I went through a time period when I was rarely getting any pussy. This went on for about a year or more and my moving to new states a couple times probably contributed to it. I met this gal and we hit it off pretty good. The relationship moved slow but steady.

Finally after a fancy date one night we were making out quite intensely in my car. She stopped and said she thought it was time to move on to my place and move this relationship "to a higher level". She didn't have to say that twice and we were off to my place.

Once there the clothes started coming off fast. I kept thinking in the back of my mind that I had cum prematurely the last 3 - 4 times I'd been intimate and I did not want that to happen with her. We made it to the bed and had a long period of foreplay. When I finally penetrated her it was three thrusts and I came. Rather than keep thrusting I stopped and apologized.

She tried to console me, "Don't worry" sort of thing "we are are going to do it again and it will be better". We went back to foreplay including more oral each way. The next attempt ended up with me lasting the better part of a minute, not long enough as far as I was concerned. We fell off to sleep.

The next morning we awoke and began some touchy-feely. I told her I was disappointed in my performance, but this had been happening lately. I told her I thought it was because I had been going so long between getting any. I told her I had even tried masturbating before my previous dates. I hadn't the day before because I never thought I was going to score with her.

She looked in my eyes and said, "We are going to solve this problem together. I am going to fuck you as often and as many times that it takes until you are comfortable with your performance." And it came to pass that we fucked many times over the next couple of months and I got over cumming early. I mentioned that I did not know how it was going to work with another gal the first time as I had only been with her since this all started.

Not to worry she set me up with one of her girlfriends who had shown an interest in me. That encounter went just fine. My problem was solved by a very nice gal friend. I could have stayed and dated her steadily, but unfortunately she had to move away.

I'm still a virgin and situations like the one described in the opening post is one of my greatest fear.

You have to start somewhere........dont put too much pressure on yourself as nothing is perfect first time

I'll amke sure to remember that when the time comes.