I F#ed up HELP!!!
 

hi guys i registered new here but ive been to this site many times...im in a dilema and need to serious advice...i want some clear honest advise...ok let me explain my situation

me and my wife are 25 years old...my ultimate fantasy is to see her get fucked by another guy..i have been telling her here and there, but i have always wanted her to fuck a black guy. she kept saying that she is not into black guys and after i kept insisting she got mad and stopped talking to me for the rest of the night.

last night i sent her a text message saying that if she wasnt into black guys, would she consider fucking a white guy...and the reply i got was "maybe i dont know" following that reply i called her and i explained to her in detail my fantasy and how i wasnt setting her up or "testing her"..she eventually came through and told me that yes it has also been a long time fantasy of hers.

we talked for almost 3 hours! she told me stories of how she was groped by one of her employees at her last job. and she told me she has had an eye on an older man at her new job. she told me that since day 1 he has been making sexual comments and advances on her, and she said she would flirt right back! i asked her if the old man talking dirty to her made her wet, and she said it did.

she even told me she has gone as far as too sending him a picture of her in her bra....and all of this has happened recently without my knowledge, and she only told me yesterday because i came out with my fantasy.now she wants to take the guy "up" on his advances and she wants to see if she can suck his dick on monday..

im worried now..i didint think this would have happened so quickly...part of me wants it to happen really badly, but another part of me is really worried...she told me she wouldnt get attached and that she only wants to do it for "fun"..

the guy is in his late 50's married and he isnt even attractive..i asked her why she chose him..and she basically told me up front..."because hes showed that he wants to fuck me"..

what do i do? i need a response ASAP because this is happening tomorrow at work.

i told her to atleast take some pics and maybe even a video..of course if she goes through with this i will post them.

thanks guys

well
 

It seem now that you got what you want your not sure ... and it seems your being reluctant because it seems wife has had some sorta sexual attraction to this man and you are unsure of her real feeling towwards this gentleman ..the old saying comes to mind be carefull what you wish for ...its a slipper slope my friend this is something that you need to tread lightly upon be sure of yours and your wife realationship and make sure you wont be jealous because from experia\ence a woman will make difrent noises and react diffrent to a diffrent man because it is just that diffrent so be prepared and also be prepaired for things to feel diffrent when you look at her and you might not be able to handle it she is ready now and your not ...you have to find out what you want and be honest with her but im affriad the thought is in her head now there may be no going back if you dont want to go threw with this ...they might take matters into their own hand and leave you out of the mix .....

I think you just might be approaching the point of no return if not already past it. I am a little uneasy with the whole subject coming up via text messages.

If it happens, lay some ground rules, and both of you stick to it. If the whole ordeal isn't what you fantasized it would be, or if it makes her too uncomfortable to continue, then you never approach the topic again, and you don't hold it over her head. Regardless, don't hold it over her head.

The fact that she wants to suck his dick before fully fucking him is good, and the rush to make it happen makes me think she just wants to get it over with. When changing the rules of your relationship, make the rules clear.

For example, wife and I were exploring playing with other men, and she wanted to stop because of the worry how someone other than us not playing safe and not telling us could affect us and our family. I agreed to stop, and we pulled all of our profiles and stopped looking, currently thinking of ways to explore the fantasy without bringing others into bed with us.

Regardless of what happens, good luck and please let us know what happens so if we gave you bad advice we can stop giving that same advice.

If that's what you've always wanted then here it is. Now that it appears that you're having second thoughts you need to slam on the brakes now. It still may be too late.
Let her do the deed and then decide if this is the avenue you want to travel down.

Wow thank u guys for the replies...really good and respectable advise...i spoke with her again and it seems that the seed i planted has grown roots..

I really am at the point of no return...however i will just let her get it out of her system and lets see how things go from there...she has no feelings for this guy..she says she wants to do something daring...

Also we both got married right out of highschool so she never really got to explore her needs to the fullest..

Well 24 hours and counting..i will keep u guys posted and im glad i have someone to talk to during this trip

Try visiting here: http://ourhotwives.org/forum/ and read the postings in the hotwife forum. There are many, many, many people who have gone through exactly what you are experiencing and you may find some good advice. Good luck!

Best of luck with it all, but remember that however you feel about it afterwards, you have to communicate it with her. You mind find you enjoy it as much as you initially thought you would. Most of all, don't hold it over her head.

Go for it
 

I am sure you and her will enjoy it.

Screw that! I called her and told her to talk to one of her friends for her opinion on the matter...she got pissed and said to mark today as the last time i mention this fantasy again..

So i told her to mark today as the last time that she flirts with that guy..im young and i please her in all ways imaginable..theres no reason for her to look for some 50 something old man with a failing mariage for pleasure...

I told her if i so much catch a wiff that she has done something..it wont be a good day for her.

Screw that i took my marriage Back!!! Thats what were lacking as men now a days... Balls...thanks to everyone for their honest advise i love u guys

As the good old saying goes "Be careful what you wish for."

Good luck once you get back. I think you may have a few "coming to Jesus" moments with your wife. That type of conversation usually does not make for smooth sailings, but both of you need to be honest with what your feeling at all times.

It feels like you guys don't communicate very well. Texts aren't good for meaningful conversations, and even when you describe yourselves on the phone etc, it sounds like you use a lot of ultimatums and aggressive phrasing. I think you may benefit from learning to talk to each other in a more emotionally safe way - once you get THERE, then discussions about expanding the limits of your marriage will be more constructive. Having these conversations in a rush (i.e. time pressure) is a great way to fuck up an otherwise sexy opportunity.

I'd let it lie for a few weeks, even months, then in a neutral space without anyone particular in mind, come back to it in a conversation where you talk about the abstract idea instead of an immediate casting call.

Good luck!

Yea i think we jumped the gun too soon.. Alot more planning needs to go into things like this.

It has however opened up my eyes on how i might have neglected my wife to an extent...and how it really is a very thin line that is walked when u dont pay attention to someone..all it takes is the right person to do and say the right things...and poof u lost ur partner...

Lets see what the future brings

You planted the seed, let it grow and then applied Round Up.
The trouble is that she will probably carry on anyway and you will not know dot about it.
Maybe you should of opted for the 3 some venture in a private hotel where you could control what happens.

Lb

Dude this may be the end of your marriage. Especially since she was sending him suggestive photos before she even told you about it. Are you sure you can handle this? If you regret this now think how you'll feel after it's done. If it were me I would pull the plug on this and get a marriage counselor. Either way good luck man.

Edit: I see my response came a bit late. Good on you for putting a stop to it. I'd still recommend counseling though.

I like the threesome idea. My wife and I have had a strange and wonderful sex life. She has lived up to pretty much all of my crazy fantasies and after 50+ years we are still active. I honestly believe she has never fooled around without me. She has never had intercourse with another man. Even though I have asked and begged her to.
The situation with the older man was already going on before you sugggested it. Which means it will happen again somewhere someday. Try to keep her honest and let her know it's okay if you know all about it and prefer you play as a team. Good luck.
Don't think I speak from experience, read Non Fiction CLOSET CLEANING. It's only the beginning of our true stories.

Pandora's box?
 

Some good advice already given on here. Seems like there may be a 'pandora's box' here waiting to be opened. Just make sure you really want to open it. I agree with ModelT & Dollie in that the team approach is best. Do you really want her to go solo? Wouldn't you get more out of it if you were involved too? Maybe tell her you'd like her to do it but you really want to be there - if only to watch and give her support. My wife has had other men, but neither of us liked the idea of her going alone with another man. The big turn-on for us was that once we'd both agreed in principle to her infidelity we laid the plan together and enjoyed both playing our roles in achieving its execution. Maybe if you tell your wife you want to be there and watch her suck this guy's cock she'll find that even more stimulating. It might be that the man isn't into it - but given the option of having her suck his cock on your (both of you) terms or not getting it sucked at all I think he'll ovecome any qualms pretty quickly :) Then organise a time and venue that suits you all.
It may take longer, but then that's okay, I find that a huge part of the thrill is in the gradual progress of the project, the setting in motion of the scheme and the rising feeling of anticipation as you move it towards the moment. Most important, though, is the trust between you - if it's not something that you both want equally and you both trust each other that there'll be no comebacks on either side then it's a non-starter. Good luck and keep us posted :)

Hmmmm
 

Well when married to my first wife I let a friend of mine fuck her once,it was only to be a one time thing but in her case she took it way to far and started fucking around big time on me. With my second wife she once gave a guy head in front of me but didnt do nothing again after that. My wife now has done a couple of things that I wanted but said no more again. It depends on what kind of woman you got and how far you can trust her in my opinion. It sounds to me that your worried because you are having some trust issues with the whole thing now,if that is the case tell her how you feel about it now and that you may want to change your mind and not go thru with it see what her reaction is to it. If she agrees not to go thru with it and doesnt then I would say you dont have nothing to worry about she is ok. But if she gets all upset about it then you have something to worry about like she has more intrest in this guy than she is telling you type of thing just saying is all. Good luck to you!

Dollie thanks OCC
 

Wow! This post, the one with wives tied up, and even more, the post about multiple men with one woman has finally changed my wife's way of thinking. As we looked and read together her comments to me shocked me!
To really know us you need to read the non fiction CLOSET CLEANING.
The thank you part has to do with something that we are planning with four or five male friends we know. As a safety net for Dollie, the one friend will have his wife there only to watch and call for help if needed.
Hopefully I will have a good story to add to CLOSET CLEANING. One I gave up on many years ago.
Yes, thanks OCC from both of us.
Just proves everyone needs to be honest and work with your wife, not against her.

Your right Model T, its best to do it together and always together.
Open and honest.
Our play rules are no sleep overs, never apart and talk before action.
Certainly makes for an entertaining sex life.

Lb

I agree counseling is a good idea, you might need someone impartial to help you regardless of the whole wife-sharing fantasy business.

I know some folks who thought they could hash it out instead of getting counseling. You know what they are? Divorced.

Sometimes a fantasy is best as a fantasy.