What is More Embarassing: Nude Pic or BJ Pic
 

As our fighting men go off to war, American sweethearts often give their guys a picture as a keep sake to remember them while on the battlefield. Sometimes, these pictures get a bit risque.

Some girls may opt to provide a nude picture of herself. But she runs the risk that at some point it will be passed around the barracks and her treasures viewed by the whole company. How embarrassing. Is there an alternative?

Other girls may pose fully clothed but allow herself to photographed holding, or better yet sucking, her man's erect penis. As long as the man in confident in how well endowed he is, the girl is the only one embarrassed. Or is she?

What is more embarrassing for girls?

A. Having nude pictures of themselves shown to others.
B. Having clothed pictures of themselves holding or sucking their guys cock shown to others.
C. Equally embarrassing.

I say nudity matters more
 

Yes, there is the shown-in-action aspect of stolen or misused shots. I guess I don't get into them as much because they tend to have a big COCK in them. I'm not homophobic, but cocks just don't do it for me.

On a related note, knowing that the girl knows about the nude shots of her makes it more sexy. On the other hand, over the years I've had the privelage of owning nude shots of women that I know but who don't know I have them. That's exciting, too. If I had any of these anymore, I would post them. I've just lost them over the years. :(

I'm not really sure how to answer this poll since I'm not a female...

but I'd think the BJ pic would be more embarassing....

also on a side note... I asked this question before but forgot what thread I asked in so wasn't ever able to read the answer..

I also have photo's I've taken of women I've known ... something like 50 or 60...
Have pondered posting them a few times, but am always filled with mixed feelings of both being scared and feeling guilty for breaking the trust of the person that let me take them in first place...

Have any of you guys that have posted pictures of ex's etc... Had any negative consequences from posting?
If you have... does it make a difference if you blur the face?

Kinda curious... since one set I'd never post, but there is another set that I've been thinking about.. since she's no longer in my life... and is generally a b*tch.

That is why I keep saying ...
 

And THAT is why I keep saying nobody -- male or female -- should EVER pose naked for a lover or a spouse, "private, just for us Babe." There is no such thing as a private photo between spouses or lovers. Half the marriages end, and most of the relationships end. A huge number of them end badly.

Here is the proof:

Sheb has photos of a woman. Presumably she was fond of him at the time she posed. But then things went bad. He reports he may post her set of nude photos, because "she is no longer in his life, and she is a b*tch." She may not have been a b*tch when she posed, but now he is thinking of extracting revenge from her.

Roxanne

And Slacker68 reinforces my warning ...
 

Slacker68 provides reinforcement of the warning. If you don't want the whole wide world to see you naked, don't ever agree to pose for your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife.

Roxanne

It seems the very annoymous nature of the web makes posting of "Just for you" mateial much easier. Before the web there were people making nude videos and photos for each other but there was no easy way to desimminate them.

The web changed this.

But the truth is now if you don't want the photos posted for general consumption don't take them because there is always the chance they will be posted. If you take a nude photo you should take it with the realization that it will be posted.

It seems that younger women are more likely the victim of this because they are still in the stage of believing "it's forever and he really truly loves me and he's special and would never do that to me". Whether or not a younger or older woman would be more embrassed by it I don't know. Also since it's young men these young women date they seem more likely to post the photos or videos as a prank or revenge then older men by virtue of their youth. I don't know if it works the other way around as well.

Yet a recent TV car commercial reinforences this behavior where a young woman after she buy a car, because the car is so affordable, has enough money to buy a billboard with a naked photo of her old boyfriend. She and her female friend gigle about this. I doubt they would have the commercial show a man doing this. It would seem to be an act of abuse and not cute like when the woman does it. But it makes it seem the behavior is perfectly acceptable. It's cute or funny when the woman does it. However I find the commercial childish and thinks it says alot about America's attitude towards sex and nudity.

A big part of this problem does stems from the American attitude about sex and nudity. Americans are embrassed about both. In Europe where I lived for awhile this is not much of an issue.

But Roxanne is right, if you don't want your photo posted the only way to ensure this is to never take them in the first place.

AS to the morality of looking at such photos, I don't know. Since the material is posted it becomes a personal issue and I am sure we all have lines we don't cross and material we wouldn't look at. And in all honesty I enjoy looking at pictures of naked women, especially average everyday women instead of prissy pampered models and movie stars.

AS to the poll, I really don't think a woman should be embrassed by a naked photo as long as it's not done in a cruel way, such as "this is my ex the b*tch ha ha". If it's done as "wow she's hot" I see nothing to be embrassed about. However the woman herself would have to be the finale arbitrator of that. If a woman found out a photo of her had been posted here and asked it to be removed I would hope it would be.

AS to the other question, I think photos of sex acts are too intimate to look at.

So I really couldn't vote.

Good discussion
 

Alphaboo and Roxanne both make good points. There's a thread that's really happening right now in Sexy Ams filled with women shot of film, which means that most of the photos were taken before the internet, at a time when, at most, your ex bf was going to show your nude pictures to his friends. So, when you look at those pictures, there's a definite sense of increased intimacy--these are *really* private photos.

I agree with Roxanne's advise for people about posing nude in any circumstance other than someone who likes the idea of millions of others seeing them naked. I must confess, though, that I'm glad that millions of women have made the mistake. A big part of the turn-on for me as a viewer of ex-gf photos, is the humiliation factor. Same reason I like ENF. I recognize this as a kinky way of being, but I think it's part of human nature to intertwine sex with power. That's not to excuse it, but to explain it. :o

Voyeurism Changes the Rules, Roxanne
 

Modern electronic techniques have removed the entire concept of "posing" for photos. THOUSANDS OF WOMEN have had the world seen them not only nude of giving a bj, but being undressed to their most intimate Victoria's Secrets and working it A to Z with their guys. AND for every set of pics that gets posted to the internet, there are probably 10 sets that are still not posted and shown to friends, brothers, etc. I'll bet there are now over 10,000 women who have been and are being "secretly humiliated" as they go to parties, weddings or to the supermarket, and guys they see there know every naked truth about them.

Jes

Nude Pics More Embarrassing
 

I think once you eliminate the strippers, nudists, exhibitionists, nude sun bathers, and professional models, you are left with 85% of the female population. Most of these women have issues with their naked body and have a hard enough time just finding a bathing suit that covers their perceived faults. They make love in the dark so they are not easily seen. They are modest, shy, and embarrassed about being nude. They don't want anyone seeing what they feel are their small boobs, sagging boobs, hariy bush, big ass, etc. whether it is true or not.

Remember, Pamela Anderson is not affraid of being photographed nude, but then again, she is PAMELA ANDERSON! Most women do not come even close.

If you get past the point that a BJ is a sex act (just like Bill Clinton believes), holding a guys dick is like shaking his hand. Sucking it is like a kiss on the mouth. The new surveys say that high schoolers feel oral sex is the new "third base" and less intimate than vaginal intercourse.

Thus, I feel most women are more embarrassed to be seen naked than they are to be seen sucking a dick.

I think that alot of women finds the act of a bj humilliating.
so when every one know about that the humilliation part
gets alot stronger.
think about it , whats easier to convince a girl
to see her naked or getting a bowjob

GREAT quetion!!
 

Well, I would HAVE to say the naked one. Let's face it.. EITHER one is bad for your friends to see... The thing about it for me is that pretty much all women at some time or another will give a bj.. honestly, I never understood men's fascination of seeing pictures of this. Anyone, please help me out on that.

To see the naked form though, that is SO much more personal. I mean, who doesn't have a mouth? Who hasn't seen the mout of a coworker? A friend's wife, ect? Sure, you don't see any "male members" in there usually, but that is all that is missing. Now, how many people seen your coworkers nude? See what I mean?

I have been an accidental victim of the whole "nude pic" thing. LOONG story, not for this thread, ect. All I will tell you is that it is quite mortifying.

Laura

I would prefer not to be photographed either way, but I'd be much more embarrassed to be imortalized with an image of me sucking on a penis than I would be by an image of me naked.

Roxanne

Alot of good points here, being a male, I would be very impressed with my mate if she was nice enough to give me any picture erotic. But knowing this, she also knows going into this that she has now left herself open to others seeing it. Not that I would go around like chester the molester and show everyone the pic or pics, but things do get seen by others when they are well hidden. I have caught many babysitters riffling through my stuff just to see what we have. What it comes down to is if you dont want to be seen by others, then hide under a rock. I am not one for showing my wifes pics to anyone no matter what the reason is UNLESS she wants others to see them. Then again, being Australian is a bit different then being American as sex or the nakkid body is looked upon differently.

Being an american living in Aussieland, I can say that when I lived in NY, I gave up my rights to not having my picture being taken. You cant walk down the street anymore without 40 video camera's taking your picture. Big brother is watching you walk, talk, even taking a bloody piss. Does this make it right? Not in my book. Then again, I am also someone who will go on Paltalk and turn my vid on and show my face and chat with women teasing the shit out of everyone in the room. Again, I also know I give up some of my dignity if someone wants to capture my face and place it on some board in Russia. If someone thinks that I am so good looking that they need to have my picture, then good on them. God only knows that my picture is in the files of every casino, airport and licencing hall. Not that I am a bad person, just the opposite, but to think that every one of us doesnt have some kind of picture somewhere would just be bad judgement on your part.

Plus, we are all here looking at what others have done. I would tend to bet that 80% of the people that post pictures here (if original owners of the pics) didnt even tell the other person in the pictures that they are being posted on blogs. Men and women alike come here to perv on what others do. Arent we just causing this to keep going as supply will never meet demand? If there was no demand, would anyone give a rats butt? Would there be blogs and girlie mags and porn movies? One of the hottest girls now is Paris Hilton and everyone calls her a sl*t, but is she really? Seems to me is has done nothing different then MILLIONS of other people, but she has this CELEB status and well, now this makes her a sl*t.

If any woman who reads this post decided to post pictures of themselves here, I would resepect you as much as if you decided NOT to send pics. Its your life, you should do what you feel you want to do without someone like me looking at you as anything other then yourself.

Cheers

Lot of good points.

Damnit... I guess I won't ever post "the ex" pics to the internet. I had thought if I pose the question and then get a lot of supportive responses that would.... cleanse my conscience... I could post them and others guilt free....
but not working out that way. It's a question I've been pondering for a long time now, but these forums are the first place I ever bothered to ask. Thanks to the people that responded in regards to the question I asked.

I've got a few nude photos of my other half and no one else will ever see them. Well, perhaps if she wanted them to.

I like ENF, but I also like photos where she is obviously enjoying the attention. I think its more about getting some, any, sort of emotional response from her, rather than another pic of a bored model. And those pics are usually of real women too, rather than some "ideal" that I don't find attractive.

Please tell. We'd love to hear it.

I'd like to tell you something to change your mind because I'd like to see those pics, but I'd be lying.

PS: I'm not a woman so can't really answer this, and I think it'd vary from person to person anyway. I will say though that they're embarrassing in different ways. A BJ is a sex act, and posing nude kind of is too, but voyeur pics aren't and the subject is more likely to get sympathy than ridicule if they're circulated

To Laura Bi:

I really don't get it. I am not really interested in seeing such pictures. Also I never know any woman who didn't enjoy giving or receiving oral sex. Maybe men who are very interested in this type of material aren't very experienced yet. Maybe it is still a little taboo.

I think it's context. I do think it would be more embarrassing if granny found a photo of you giving oral sex than if she found a nude but I think that in a peer group the nude pictures are really more intimate and revealing.

To the group:

Now what about nude and giving oral sex?

What about photos of getting oral sex?

P.S.

AS to the Pamela Adderson comment, some of us don't find her attractive and those things on her chest have very little realtionship to real breasts. The make her look like a freak of nature. They are perfectly round, don't move and look like they are about to burst. Not very sexy at all.

What's More Humiliating?
 

By far, being seen in the nude is worse. If guys you know see pics of you give a blow job, big deal. It's just your face and they already know what that looks like. Also, since they like getting BJs, there's nothing humiliating about the fact they know you're giving one, except if maybe it's video and you're being "b*tch-dogged" by your bf. (H'e grabbing you by the hair and "making" you do it, or shoots off all over you in a way you feel used bcause it turns you on.

But standing there butt naked. OMG! The worst. Then they guy seeing the pic knows it all. Very the worst!

Jes

Actually I would think it would be really embarassing if no one wanted to save your nude photo.

If everyone was downloading your naked picture and saving it to their systems so they can look at over and over that might balance out the original embarasment knowing that all these guys and gals think your hot.

But if no one was interested in your nude photo that would be embarassing and painful.

Ouch!

bj pic would be waaaaaaayyyyyyy worse :(