My two cents:

She fucked around on you.
You discovered it. You turned out to like it. You told her you'd be okay with her continuing it, and including some humiliation in the mix.
She agreed, and started branching out. She set her boundaries around her friend. You violated those boundaries. She freaked out and acted out.

As I said earlier, if you didn't want to fuck other women, this would be perfect, but you not only want to fuck other women you really want to fuck this friend. Seems to me that you should say to her:
"Honey, I gave you free reign to be the 'not one-man woman' you said you are, and I need the freedom to be that 'not-one-woman-man.' If you need to set boundaries around your friend, then I get to set boundaries around some of your behavior, and part of that is not disappearing - you have to tell me who you're with, even if I can't veto them. If you can't be honest, then we're done."

OR you can pussy out and take her back with no other negotiation and promise not to fuck her friend, but secretly hope that she'll soften on that some day if you earn her trust back. That seems like a frustrating wait for an unlikely outcome.

I think right now she's taken over all the power in the relationship, and you appear not to be "down" with that completely. You still want her to tell you who she's with, and you want to fuck this one woman. Only you can answer if she's the kind of woman that will respond to being dominated back into place, or if she would react
badly to that and leave again, this time for good.

candy ass
 

Yes I guess I am a candy ass. I could get rid of my wife, but I do love her , and if I would divorce her I would lose to much. I don't feel like someday being a lonely old man with no money living in a tiny apartment because my wife got all my money.

Also I have to admit I am enjoying her exploits with other men. If this makes me a candy ass or cuckold or wimp, or whatever you want to call me, it's fine by me.

I could go behind my wifes back and fuck other women, and maybe someday I will go this route, but for right now I'm fairly happy watching her have sex, and yes I still would like to get in her friends pants. The little bit of hand job, and blow job, weren't near enough.

I always wanted a sl*t wife, and now i have one, and I'm not ready to give her up yet. Ever since I was in high school, I have always gone for the girls who have bad reputations. The girls who would fuck anything that walked, those were the ones I always went for. The ones that would fuck around on me and then dump me. I know this isn't a normal thing, but I can't be the only person in the world with my desires, or maybe I am.

I asked my wife earlier tonight where she was for the days she left me, she told me she stayed with the guy she is fucking from work. Believe it or not I am not bothered by this at all. I told her she could fuck whoever she wanted, whenever she wanted. All I ask of her is that she either tell me about her adventures, or let me watch her. I also asked her tonight when I could start watching her again, she said maybe in a couple of weeks, if I behave myself.

I guess some people will think I am sick in the head or a pervert, but right now this kind of lifestyle is bringing me a lot of pleasure. Maybe some day this will change and I won't want this kind of lifestyle, I really don't know.

If our relationship upsets anyone , just let me know and I won't post anymore about us. I will just keep my wifes adventures for myself to enjoy. I will also get a lot more sleep if I don't post anymore, I don't type, spell, or relate stories very well, so to post something takes me at least an hour or more.

keep posting please
 

you're fine mate .. keep posting.
I only wish I lived closer to you and could have a crack at your wife. She sounds fantastic ;-))))

Just echoing the supportive comments - the bottom line is that if it works for you both, then nobody else's opinions are worth a damn!

I'm glad you're still, overall, glad to be married to her, and that you two are on the road to more stability. Please keep posting - I have a good friend in a similar situation (though he's more in control of his submissive wife), and I appreciate hearing your thoughts and reactions to what you're going through.

Stiv- I was wrong to call you a candy ass. It was a knee-jerk reaction. please accept my aplogy. I have no right to judge. Sorry man.

Maybe your wife and her friend planned it. Just a thought.

No problem
 

No problem, I just was a bit sensitive last night.

You could be right.
 

Maybe they did plan it, you never can tell whats going on in a womens head. Maybe it was a ploy so my wife could shack up with her boyfriend for a few days. As much freedom as I give her, all she would have done was ask me and I would have told her to go and enjoy herself.

After reading all the posts last night about how I should get rid of her, it got me to thinking. My cock hasn't been in any other pussy but my wifes for over twenty years, and with the exception of the night at that wedding, it hasn't been in any other mouth but my wifes.

Maybe it's time I have a little fun on my own. With my job, I sometimes only get to come home on the weekends, depending how far our job site is from home. It would be nothing for me to tell my wife I have to stay at work overnite, and have a little fun.

I even have a women in mind, her name is Nikki, she is in her mid thirties, two teenage kids, divorced, and has an air of deperation aboout her. One of my coworkers was fucking her for a while, then he dumped her, for his current girlfriend. The last time I saw her, she told me I should stop at her house and visit her, and that I was always welcome. Nikki isn't bad looking, she has a nice set of medium size tits, and a nice little chubby ass, but it's chubby in a good way. The guy I work with told me she swallows, and takes it in the ass, which is exactly what I am looking for in a women. If I am going to have an affair, she seems like a good start.

I have to think about this some more, If I decide to visit Nikki, or hook up with any other women, I will post the details.

Probably a good idea given your situation. If your wife can fuck whomever she wants when she wants, why can't that deal work both ways? It wouldn't cost her anything, and a woman who swallows and likes anal is not that easy to find.

The troubling part of your story is that she's changing the deal on you unilaterally. If that's what she wants to do, then why can't you do the same?

Sorry, but that's how I see it.

Just make sure Nikki knows she's a FB and nothing more. I understand that some women have trouble with that concept. Seal the deal before you seal the deal, if you know what I mean.

good advice
 

Xxxenophile and malaka have given you good advice. Me personally I would ditch her but it is YOUR LIFE and you seem to enjoy your situation...good luck and keep posting!!