| Duran Duran |
04-14-2020 04:46 AM |
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Originally Posted by TomPeeping2019
(Post 2815270)
I've read through this thread looking for someone who shares my perspective, but I didn't see anything comparable so I guess I'll throw in my two cents. Just as some background, my wife is in her mid-40s and has been very shy about her body since we started dating as teenagers. She has virtually no sex drive and generally considers any non-mainstream sexual acts/desires to be "undignified." Sex has become increasingly rare and mundane.
I began sharing her photos, all taken without her knowledge, about two years ago. It's been on and off since then, mostly on xhamster but also on Reddit and some other sites as well as one-to-one on kik. I typically post for a couple of months before becoming remorseful and deleting everything. Having thought a lot about my reasons, here's what I've come up with:
1. I'm punishing my wife for withholding her sexuality from me. By exposing her naked body to strangers, I'm making her the seductress she can't/won't bring herself to be. I love hearing my proper, dignified wife referred to in the most demeaning, humiliating terms.
2. I'm punishing myself. Even though I'm a reasonably attractive, fit, well-educated, affluent man, it's hard for me not to blame myself for her near-total lack of sexual interest. I've developed low self-esteem because of my inability to bring out her sexuality. I've sometimes invited other men to insult and demean me while telling me what they would do to my wife. I feel ashamed when I read what they have to say, but it's also cathartic to hear someone else affirm what I've been thinking about myself.
3a. Conversely, I get a vicarious thrill from knowing another man is making himself cum while fantasizing about my wife.
3b. Because I'm responsible for sharing her, and she is my wife after all, the other man's desire somehow transfers to me. I feel more powerful, attractive, and sexy when I can get another person off, even if what he's looking at isn't actually me.
4. Transgression is just really fucking sexy. By exposing my unsuspecting wife's naked body--her breasts, vagina, and asshole--I am violating the most fundamental rules of our relationship. I spend nearly every moment of my life trying to do the "right thing." Being evil is a very attractive release.
So, that's my story. I'd be happy to entertain any questions you all might have.
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1. Yes. I agree that is what you are doing. Are you sharing her face? If so, then it's definitely not a wise thing to do. Yet, she is pushing you mentally and physically to this scenario as she doesn't seem to be making an effort in the relationship. It seems messy.
2. Are you happy? If not, seek help. See a sex therapist or a regular therapist as it sounds like you have developed some issues that are manifesting themselves in unhealthy habits that may then escalate into something dangerous. Just you at first. Not with the wife.
3a. Yes. Absolutely you will feel powerful because it shows that the woman you've chosen to partner with is desired by others. That's true for most men unless they are cucks.
3b. At their basest emotions, most women want to be taken. But only by men they respect in some way. I personally don't like to hear men talk about their wives or GFs in such possessive ways. I think that's up to the woman to decide if she is taken or not. Do you think your wife respects you in certain ways?
4. This seems like a way for you to get some power over her. You're also getting off on the forbidden.
We're all at different levels when it comes to what we would like our wives/GFs to do. My wife does plenty but if I compare to others on here she comes off as conservative! haha. But I think if we can somehow involve them in the process, it will make it more fun. Dunno. Just my feelings... |
