Answers to your questions
 

To answer your questions, my other children were all boys so the answer would be, not necessarily. My boys have brown hair and brown eyes. Our daughter has blond hair and blue eyes. The boys have joked about our surprise, but they love her and dote on her. The boys were not aware of their dad's vasectomy, so we've been able to avoid that unpleasant conversation.

Our little girl is such a joy in our lives, that we are actually thankful that our teasing and flirting got out of control. As much as I regretted it at the time, has come back as a wonderful gift many times over.

That's unfair to her, she has a right to know.

That she was the product of a semi nonconsensual, semi adulterous sex act? You're right, knowing that could only be good for her. Why don't climb down off of your high horse, and go back to wacking off, huh? ;)

If my wife had gotten pregnant from our one experience, we wouldn't have told our daughter the truth either. You are doing nothing wrong by not telling her how she was conceived.

A year has past since tinamarie last posted. Perhaps she no longer checks in. Last on 09-14-2013 11:30 PM
She seemed to have joined only to get this off her mind.
Her story is much different than others here. I can see her reasoning for not telling her daughter. There is no purpose to it. I also see that the family is very happy by the outcome.
I also see where my wife and I were very lucky when we spent many nights in bars and strip clubs doing very much the same. She'd often go in ahead of me and I'd later sit at the bar and watch guys flirt and fondle. All harmless fun. The difference was I was always watching and there in case someone wanted to take my wife outside.
The husband getting drunk was the first mistake. Tinamarie going outside was not right but I can understand doing it while expecting her husband to walk out anytime.
From then on I can see no way my wife would have gotten in our van with a young stranger and had intercourse. By not stopping the young man she did consent. Tinamarie did not need her husband to say no or yell out for help. Both partners were wrong and both paid the consequenses.
For better or worse, things did turn out great for them. It took a lot of nerve for tinamarie to write her stories and reply to the many comments. Others can learn from our mistakes and our games.
We had three children before my wife was fixed due to other problems after our daughter was born. Still we also ended up with a fourth child when we adopted our first grandson. People can not always plan everything.
I just hope timamarie and her husband continue to have a happy marriage. I also think they should try their game again under more strict rules just for fun.

Sounds a whole lot like the way I got pregnant with my daughter
 

Sounds a whole like the way that I got pregnant with my daughter, except for the fact that my husband was in the car as I was impregnated.

We never told our daughter how she was conceived either.

NO child should know how they're conceived.

Was I aroused
 

I would think that speaks for it self, hubby was out cold so to speak, you did not have any safeguard since hubby was absent and you did not know what harm if any could befall you getting pregnant was not even a worry when you first entered the van and he got intimate till he planted his love seed into your fertile body, but I can see you consider the girl a love child so to speak as both you and hubby love her.
Did you see the young man again after, not sexually I mean but around in a club or so.? :)

Love child
 

With the love you refer to your child and the love you and your husband have for her, could she really be called a mistake, granted she was not conceived by you and your husband but by you , with basically hubby's consent you both loved the going to a club and had fun with the sexual teasing of others you got aroused enough to Not fight his bareback entry into your pussy,you were aroused enough to allow his seed to flow into your womb and impregnate you, from what I can gather you and or hubby did not consider abortion at any time so it would appear to me your little girl was conceived and born in love. You could always explain to her that you wanted a child but hubby was unable and you had a love relationship that resulted in her being born. ;)

Hind sight
 

When one is sexually aroused presence of mind gets dimmed or blurred and goes by the wayside I'd think that even with you being anxious and waiting for hubby to show up and stop it you were sexually aroused and did not put up much resistance but submitted to his penetrating and pounding your pussy full of his seed, most men have a hard time withdrawing after entering so his filling you with his seed would have been a forgone conclusion when hubby did not show, Love you child and tell her I would say in case she finds out from family or friends or some other way best to be honest about it. She is considered a love child by you and hubby.:) :)