No right answer perhaps
 

I just wanted to know. Casual inquiry at first, repeat question later and then plead for a little cooperation.

Alright I became somewhat vexed.

I finally got an answer, leaving me to ponder that answer. I squared my shoulders and decided it seemed sincere and I could accept it. All good in my mind. All good till the next time I took leave of my senses and brought up the number again a while later. She looked at me with that all too familiar look and said, you idiot, why would you even think I was serious?

So all of it was a waste. We survived and I leave direct questions out of my strategy of interrogation.

My wife is an open book. She has told me how many(surprised she could remember that many), their cock size, where the came, how many times she fucked them, where she fucked them, etc. I enjoy her openness!

Mine too!
 

Exactly. Very surprised she could remember that many, along with all the details, and a very descriptive story to go with each. Although they were all before my time, she did introduce me to several, but didn't say which two fucked her ass.

Yes. It could be that they weren’t pleasant experiences or that she regrets them or is embarrassed by them. Talking about it may bring up negative thoughts.

I suspect my wife has similar memories but always claims not to remember until she randomly comes up with a specific detail - the latest one being how sweaty her friend's little brother was and how surprisingly small his OK was.

At school she had 2 male friends who she's still in touch with. She dated one of them in high school (2nd guy she fucked) and fooled around off and on with the other (including when we were 1wt dating). Whenever she mentions them in passing I always reply with " is he the one who came inside you, or the one you wanked off an hour before I came to see you that time?"

That usually stirs her up and she claims not to remember.

On the flipside she's spent a lot of time with 3 gals from my past who I had various FWB arrangements with over the years so I guess we're even.

I just put her in a room with old friends add some alcohol and shake. The truth pours out.
Sometimes more than I want to know….

My now mature wife is still a very beautiful woman and still turns the heads of many men. The thing is life has gone on, kids, now grandkids and other things. When I look at her now, it's hard for me to imagine the things she did sexually (see above post from 4 years ago) when she was young. Looking at her, others would never imagine what she did years ago! I'm glad she told me about her past; it fills my fantasizes to this day!

Mine very much the same. At first she was more hidden with details and number, including how many while we had been broken up for a couple years.

But she has been very open now. Same as your wife, who they were, cock size, what positions they fucked, who she sucked, who were multiple vs one night stands, etc.

The only details that bothered me were guys she fucked that we have seen socially over the years, but I didn’t know it at first. For instance at a wedding and we were at a table with a guy she fucked and I didn’t know about it until after.

To be honest, it would have made me hard knowing that guy not only saw her naked, but fucked her, and came inside her. And they both were remembering those times as they sat there.

More excitement
 

It is just exciting to know others had found her desirable as I do, and how they had pleasured her.

Knowing she had been with others initially, I don't see why she doesn't mention the ones she has been with. How else would she be the sl*t I love in the bedroom.

I would thank some of them, who had a "hand? - LOL" in teaching or changing her that way.

Just more exciting when I think of her.

Precisely. Although virginity is, I suppose, still highly 'prized', sought after and regarded by sections of society, I can think of nothing worse than having to teach a woman sex from scratch. Or, indeed, to be so lacking in experience oneself that you don't know how to pleasure her.

Sadly, the double standards applied to women in society in general is very much in evidence in sex. The guy can screw who he wants to with impunity and he's 'the stud'. If a girl screws around she can quickly be labelled 'a sl*t', even in 2025.

Sex is meant to be good, it's meant to be fun for both people involved. Previous lovers, for both parties involved, simply means that the sex starts off great and gets better.