My wife did it just on spite for competition!
 

I have been trying to get my wife to try anal SEX of years, but she wouldn't do it. But late in life when we changed our lifestyle and we got to see and enjoy sharing pleasures with others as well as seeing what they do it helped out some!
But when I gave my wife a Surprise 40th Adult Birthday party it turned out to be a Blessing for both of us, for some reason women enjoy competition and don't enjoy being out done by another woman!
My wife and the neighbors wife who are Best friends too, are always trying to out do one another. But for myself and the hubby of the wife next door, we worked out a nice Trade agreement early with our wife's!
His wife doesn't like you CUM in her mouth nor swallow it, but she does Anal sex. My wife is just the opposite and won't do anal, but will let you CUM in her mouth and she'll swallow it!
So when us hubby's want to enjoy the other pleasures, we just exchange wife's for it. lol
But at my wife's 40th B/day party I didn't have any Candles on the cake, so when she asked about them I told her my plan was for her to Blow all the guys at her party instead and I made sure we had plenty of Guest too.
My wife had the entire evening and night for her task, so while taking a break from cock she enjoyed some Pussy too from the wife's of the guys! Our neighbor wife was getting so intoxicated on drinks, but at the same time she was going down and eating out my wife too. There were a few times when my wife went to clean up some of the creamy gooey mess that was leaking out of her, but a few times somebody went down on her and made that impossible. I was taking care of the Guest and doing plenty of watching too! lol
The neighbors wife came up to me and told me that my wife was tasting real good tonight, but she couldn't understand the reason for that? I told her that if she paid more attention she would have seen that some guys made their CUM deposits inside her, so besides enjoying my wife's juices she was having her 1st taste of CUM too!
She was startled by my response and thought about it for a few minutes, than she asked me to come up with her to the bedroom upstairs. Once in my bedroom she asked me to do her a favor, she wanted me to CUM in her mouth and she would swallow it. This was something that I wanted to do with her for along time, so I said sure. She locked the door and started doing oral on my bobbing cock. When I was ready to CUM, I had a change of Heart on this drunken neighbors wife and started to pull out of her mouth!
She was bound and determined to get my CUM, so she held me inside her mouth and after my deposit she kept on sucking more out of me if possible? lol
She told me that I was right, but not to tell any of the guys at the party cause she didn't want them all asking her for the same pleasure.
At the end of the night in bed with my wife, I told her about what happened and she was in disbelief about it and shocked saying she would never let anybody CUM in her mouth.
So to make sure I wasn't telling a fib, the next morning my wife rushed over to the neighbors house to ask her if it was True? Both of the neighbors were home and when my wife asked her, she replied she did let me CUM in her mouth and swallowed it! That moment even put a shock face on her hubby since she never done it before and it left my wife even speechless for the moment!
But not wanting to be outdone, my wife asked the neighbors hubby if he wanted to try Anal sex with her right now?
He said sure, so all of them went up to their bedroom and got their clothing off and a bit prepared for him to bone my wife in her tight asshole! Since I wasn't there, I would imagine they all had a great time together while my wife got it anal for her 1st time. She can home and while telling me about it, she got exposed for me and showed me his deposit leaking out of her now widen & red asshole!
Just like the neighbor hubby, I was shocked and surprised by what she done along with the neighbors wife too.
But the good part is now both of them have a change of Heart for more different pleasures, but we still have our exchange of wife's to keep the wife's Happy too~
;)
I can just say that women for some strange reason enjoy being in competition with other women in doing anything and its great when it comes to SEX!

Update
 

Me and my wife have finally been able to move into a home where we could be alone and no longer have roommates. She's still working, but she says she wants to ease back into the full submission lifestyle she used to live. We've decided to do a sort of benchmark system. Like, once I find a job, she would start calling me "Master" again. Or once she no longer has to work, she'll no longer be allowed to 'whatever'. I have since gotten a job and she is now calling me Master as promised.

So here's my question to the community. Does anyone have suggestions for benchmarks? If such-n-such happens, then she'll give up such-n-such, or have to start doing such-n-such, or is no longer allowed to such-n-such.

Her goal is to be a complete submissive, so nothing is off the table. The end goal is that she has to do whatever I say and is not allowed to do anything without my permission. Basically she would relinquish all freedom, choice, possessions, and dignity to me, willingly, as a way of sexual gratification for herself. Our reason for easing her into it instead of ripping off a band-aid is that it's been a long time since she's been in that state of mind, and we're also still finding our footing financially. Basically, the more that financial responsibility shifts away from her, and onto me, the more she feels she'll be able to focus on being my sub.

So does anyone have any ideas on what I can accomplish? And what freedom she would have to relinquish once I have achieved said accomplishment?

Training a submissive
 

I’d suggest you always keep in mind the maxim that a good Dominant can force a submissive to do anything the submissive wants to do! In our case I discovered that my wife was particularly aroused by sexual humiliation, so that’s what we worked on. After a while she was doing stuff at bdsm parties that had experienced perverts of both persuasions goggle-eyed. And she loved it.

My advice is work out what your partner likes most and encourage her.

Anything and Everything
 

Thanks for the advice, I appreciate it. What she's come to realize about herself is that the more I degrade/humiliate her (or she degrades/humiliates herself), the wetter she gets lol. She didn't realize this about herself at first, or maybe didn't want to realize it lol, but the more we dabbled in submissive play, the hornier she found herself. After a while she started saying things during or before sex that would act as a sort of foreplay for her.

By which I mean, she'd start out saying that she was "worthless" or that she was "just an object to be played with by her Master (me)." But eventually she started saying things like "I'm worth less than dog shit" or whatever came to mind as the most degrading thing she could think to say about herself, she'd say it, and it would make her wet knowing, and feeling like she was owned by me, or like she was losing her dignity. Then she'd talk to me outside of foreplay about things I could do that would make her feel more degraded. Her foreplay comments evolved into statements that amounted to her "wishing she could actually be an object owned by me, and that it could be legally recognized" lol. Like, literally, she started saying things like, she wanted to be legally bound to follow my rules.

She's acted like a dog, and even eaten out of a dog bowl on the floor in front of a mutual friend. She's written "worthless", "stupid" or any other degrading thing you can think, onto her own forehead. So when I say nothing is off the table, it's not so much my own wishful thinking as it is her actual wish. She wants to be degraded by me and wants to feel like I own her like a possession. The trouble is that since we had to stop submissive actions for such a long time, she wants to ease her way back into it, rather than just jump back in picking up right where we left off, if that makes sense.

Training
 

One thing that worked really well for us is scripting the play. I’d write everything: scenario, what she was to wear, what she was to say and what she was to do. I’d put the script in a sealed envelope and go to the pub. After I left she would open the envelope and do as she was told.

When she was correctly dressed and had memorised the script she would contact me to say she was ready. Maybe I’d have told her what to say when she texted or called me….

Then of course it was up to me how long I made her wait before I came home!

Nice
 

Oo, I like this idea a lot. I can imagine employing some fun scenarios this way. Thanks.

I wonder if I should start a thread asking for people to send in submissions for things I can make my wife do lol. I can get pretty creative, but it's always nice to have some outside ideas. Also who knows, maybe it'll humiliate her more knowing that she's being told to do things, not just by her husband, but by strangers on the internet lol.

I almost had her trained to sit up and beg, but then she bit me.

Re Nice
 

Fair’s fair, if we are going to put in that sort of effort we will need full reports with photos.

Weellll..
 

Let's be careful about over-asking now lol. Full reports were always part of the plan, but photos are not something I can guarantee. If that disqualifies you from offering suggestions, so be it. Although, by that same logic, I would be obligated to withhold any story in which I came up with the idea of what to make her do, without the help of the community, so 6 of 1, half dozen of the other lol. I'm gonna be controlling my wife (at her own request) regardless of any suggestions I may or may not receive. I was just offering for you to have the opportunity to control her as well. Feel free to pass on that opportunity.

All that having been said, just yesterday, I had my wife strip naked in the privacy of our own bedroom. I put a lockable collar around her neck, and a tight leash on her. I wrote "b*tch" across her forehead, and "DUMB c*nt" on her ass, one word on each cheek. I had her stand in front of the window (blinds still down), and told her to put her hands behind her head. She complied. I pulled the blinds up and had her stand there completely naked, facing an open window. Before I go any further, I should point out that this was 1:30pm on a Sunday, so people were definitely awake and out and about at this time.

After about 5 minutes of having her stand there with her fingers laced behind her head, I told her to turn around and spread her ass cheeks. She didn't hesitate. She turned her ass toward the open window and spread her cheeks wide. Anyone who may have been looking would've seen her asshole with "DUMB c*nt" written across her butt. I left her there for another 3 minutes or so before I couldn't take it anymore. I grabbed her leash and pulled her over to the bed and fucked her brains out. Not a very long story, but like I said, we're just trying to ease her back into a 24/7 lifestyle by doing little submissive events here and there. I'm re-training her to follow my commands, and she's a fast learner ;)

Pussy to mouth
 

Pussy to mouth

The idea started very early after we got married. My wife enjoys me eating her out as part of foreplay to get her really turned on before penetration. One time, early on, weeks into marriage I was eating her out and then sucking and teasing her nipples and started then kissing her neck and made my way to her mouth and she stopped me and said I can taste and smell myself on your lips. She said ,” I don’t know how I feel about that.” I was like ok no big deal let’s just fuck then.

Next few days it got me thinking as I had not realized it that she never had sucked me after penetration and it kind of became a thing I wanted and I don’t know if part of it was her resistance or reluctance but that made it hotter trying to get her to do it.

So baby steps I figured. Continued with the eating her out then eventually “forgetting and kissing her.” She eventually became more accustomed to that and didn’t resist anymore. This then turned to while foreplay as I kiss her after eating her out I would rub my dick over her pussy opening while her juices would then get on my dick and shaft.

Learning my wife I knew she loved getting eating from behind on all fours and we usually would do 69 but if we were going to do 69 that was the first event and her foreplay.

So I started to first rev her up with the technique of eating her out and then while kissing her while rubbing my dick on her pussy opening knowing her juices where coating my dick. Then I would suggest 69 knowing she would then suck my dick after being coated with her juice. First time she did it but reluctantly. It was hot but I didn’t get to see it. I so wanted to watch her take my dick coated in her juices and watch as she licked my dick clean and her lips covered in her juices.

My goal continued as instead of just rubbing on the outside of her pussy I would start penetrating her as while teasing and eventually leading to 69. She started getting more and more comfortable with it.

Eventually I decided an evening she was pretty drunk to try full on. This time I ate her out first and then again would fuck her and then stop and eat her out again until she was on edge and then fuck again. She was so turned on my dick was coated in her juices and it was pooling on the lower portion of my cock and dripping onto my balls. She was so wet eventually she couldn’t take the teasing anymore and came on my dick. I had not cum yet myself knowing my plan and asked if I could finish in her mouth. She being still drunk and euphoric readily accepted and got up and I sat on a chair as she got on her knees. I while walking to the chair rubbed her juices that had pooled on the lower part of my dick and spread it along my entire cock and within the crevice of the area between my tip and shaft. It was completely covered and obviously wet from her grool. She got close to my cock and then grabbed it making a comment about how wet it was. I was ready to cum just from that and then she opened her mouth and started to suck me. Her juices coated her lips and the corners of her mouth as she went down. She stopped and rubbed me while reluctantly licking her lips realizing it was her grool and then took her wrist to her mouth rub some off. I opened my legs more suggesting she lick my balls which were dripping with her grool and she did as I watched her tongue and mouth covered with her grool and her swallow and licking it off her lips and mouth with her tongue before continuing. It was so hot watching her clean me and then continue to suck me. I didn’t last long and finally told her I was about to cum as I exploded in her mouth.

This is now something she will do and is no longer reluctant about it but will do it with enthusiasm. It is extremely hot. I hate to say it but part of it is that she initially was reluctant.

I've eating my new fwb only since last August. And I found out early on that she doesn't like to suck cock. She and her late hubby were very sexual but she never sucked his dick.
Well, she wants to please me SO much that we've gone from me rubbing my dick across her mouth to her wanting to suck my dick. Yesterday was the best.
She is still learning.

Anal
 

Anal and lots of it, she asks me for it now and does ass to mouth without being asked too, total win!

I'm teaching my new fwb how to suck a cock. She has been married to the same guy for 40 years. he died. she never had sucked ANY dick.
But she takes instruction good. she doesn't know what to do when I cum...(i haven't yet)

I was in my early 20s and my girlfriend at the time was embarrassed to buy a sex toy, so I told her to buy a cheap vibrating toothbrush and place the brush side away from her clitoris when using it..

She still uses vibrating toothbrushes to this day, although she has purchased more conventional sex toys over the years.

Mine was the same thing in the beginning. Didn't like sucking it after being in her pussy. I eventually cured her of that by fucking her some, getting her hot but not cum yet. Stick it in her mouth some, then continue fucking her. If she wants to cum on my cock, then she would suck it in between fucking with her juices on it.

Everything
 

Since my wife was a 21 year old virgin when we got married myself and her black lovers taught her everything she know about sex. Her black lovers taught her how to squirt. They taught her how to take a black cock down her throat. They showed her how much she liked being fucked in the ass and how to take a black cock in all 3 holes at one time.

My little lovely now comes from very little stimulation. It's both beautiful and hugely satisfying to witness.

For quite some time now, there's been a clear progress and path in this respect but it's still something I hoped for rather than planned or expected. I've just followed her 'subliminal' lead, trying to pick up on her clues (or hoping I am!) and then making good use of them.

She is pathologically submissive but only to me and I'm not talking the stereotype master and slave thing - it's much more subtle and psychological than that - almost spiritual and I can't believe I'm even writing that!!

It started in a hotel room a few years ago when we were messing around together and naked. It all became a bit too much for me and I ended up shooting my load across her bare thigh.

She came as soon as she felt the hot fluid on her skin! I'd read about this kind of thing years before an mostly dismissed it as bullshit/wank fantasy but her it was happening right next to me.

As time went on, it became quite obvious that she likes to have her tits crushed (big as they are) and her nipples both crushed and stretched. She doesn't verbalise this (she doesn't usually speak at all when she's 'in the zone) but she does very definitely pull against me and she's made it quite obvious that it's not to get away - she wants her tits stretched!!

I've got the memo now and sure enough, do it right and she comes as I do it.

It's interesting and very different to all the other women I've known. She doesn't climb slowly to one or two huge orgasms - she takes off like a jet fighter, reaches an incredible 'altitude' in no time at all and then comes repeatedly - much as though you were driving a mile of bumpy road! There's just a constant stream of orgasms until the stimulation is taken away!!

Seeing such sensitivity, we decided we'd try to find out how far it could go and so far, she's come from having her ankle stroked in the right way, in the right place and also from having me trace my finger around the outer edge of her breast, as well as the more obvious nipple play (which never fails!) It's pretty amazing to be a part of!!

The most recent development came (!) after I told her I thought that she could probably now come by me touching pretty much any part of her in the right way. She laughed but didn't disagree.

Later that weekend, we were at a Foo Fighters show and in between bands, I took her hand, turned it over and proceeded to 'draw' shapes on the inside of her wrist with my finger.

She came in a couple of minutes. Not a word exchanged - we just smiled, laughed and hugged but we'd proved it again.

It's lovely!! Not sure where it goes next but she's awesome!!!

I met my wife when she was 20 and I was 37 (24 years ago) so I got to mold her in many ways. Getting her to pose for pics and helping her perfect her blowjob technique were just a couple...

Fine work
 

Toons, you have done fine work. She’s looking hot in the pictures you have shared and those eyes are gorgeous… don’t break that mold !

Thanks, man! And I'd never break that mold! :D

Nude pictures
 

Finally convinced my wife to let me take nude picture and she seemed to enjoy it! Said that she would consider letting me take some more and I have so many ideas now.

Never would have thought she would
 

Over the years, I had taken sneaky nude pictures of my wife that she didn’t know about for my masturbating pleasure.

I’d been asking her to let me take ones and she always refused. She was more self conscious about her body (she’s 57) than anything else. I kept telling her how sexy she was, and that any man would want her. What changed her mind was her finally realizing guys were looking at her when she was shopping, and flirting with her.

She finally posed for some pictures, and said “only for you”. She must know me. It got the best of me and I showed in person to a friend. I told her and she was not as mad as I thought. Followed by “what did he say?” I told her he loved the pics and that he said he masturbated to them. I could tell she liked that, but immediately said “I am not going to do anything with him before you think it”. It did turn her on, and we have done some sexy role play.

But what Really surprised me was she finally agreed to go to a clothing optional beach this summer and take it all off.

Rimming
 

My wife admits to being pretty wild before we met but was always reluctant about ass-play. She was however always very keen on oral and over the years this has progressed from just cock and balls to licking my ass too. This has always been without my asking and she denies ever rimming other guys. She prefers it with me on my back, legs wide open and up in the air. I think it’s a domination thing for her, with me in such a submissive position. I think that because we do other things where she dominates me too. She is still not keen on me returning the favour and she refuses anal sex but most times when she wants to suck me off it’ll include playing with my ass, penetrating me or licking and probing me with her tongue.

My teachings
 

My wife was a virgin at 20 when we married. Between that time and when she had her first black cock I taught her everything I knew about sex. After she started fucking black guys she said what she learned from me was kindergarten compared to the Masters degree the black guys gave her. She said the greatest lesson she learned was the night 3 black guys got her airtight.

I had a 2 year affair with a married 48 year old. Although it was her second marriage and she claimed to have many men in her past, she had never done anything anal. She was a tiny woman at five foot 110 lbs with an ass to die for. I broke her in by masterbating her and slipping my pinkie in her anus. Before we ended it I was regularly fingering her asshole while fucking her, had rimmed her and had fucked her balls deep in the ass a couple of times. She even requested it once.

Although her husband eventually found out, I would bet hard money she never told him about the anal adultery.