married with 2 kids
 

Hi,

Just to let you all know, when we were married 10years , we used to have sex on a regular basis. Things changed when we had our first baby after 7 yrs of marriage. Lot of trying, since she has Thyroid and PCO (poly cyst ovaries). During the lot of trying period, sex was almost everyday, since she wanted a baby desperately.

Just to let you all know, my wife is a very cooperating lady and i have this fantasy of exposing her on webcams to some of the friends (women only earlier) on yahoo messenger. Though she never liked the idea, she used to agree and lay on the bed in her lingerie and scantily dressed clothes just to satisfy my fantasies. Also, once we were in Bangkok, she had a few drinks and agreed to her clit being massaged by masseuse. after that i gave her a good fuck in front of her Masseuse. i know those times would never come back.

After our first baby, her priorities shifted towards the baby, which is very natural for any women. The sex used to be only weekly then. I used to fuck her a lot, since it was only one day in a week and without rubber ofcourse. When my elder kid was an year old, we got the news that my wife is pregnant again. Initially we were shocked and somehow, we managed ourselves and got ready for the second one.

After the second one, unfortunately, she doesnt have time for any sex. i cant blame her though, of course we have been trying every night, but somehow it doesnt seem to go after foreplay. Either my younger one wakes up or my elder one. i request her to sleep without panties and she even obliges to it. i get to rub my dick against her ass and sometimes she allows me to even take a pic of her ass and legs in the morning.

But suddenly now for past 1 month, everything has come to a standstill. we are only in the foreplay now a days.

Am deeply saddened by the turn of events and i really dont know what to do. she is trying to work out on treadmill and try some weights also to be back in shape, since she delivered 2 kids in a span of 2.5 years.
sometimes i feel like going and banging some wh**e. But somehow i cant gather enough courage to do it.

Has anybody in here been in a similar situations??.. i require your help and comments to take me forward in this crucial time of life..

Sorry to tell, but... Welcome to the club!
I hope both of you will work it out. I know we won't.

Maybe toy should tell her that having sex burns a lot of calories

This is a tough one to try to answer. Keep in mind your not the only couple this happens to after several children are in your lives. As you know, kids do take a lot of time and wear mothers out. Hopefully as they get older you two can get away for a sexy weekend.
So far you have been patient and understanding. Damned I can't really come up with anything except keep trying but don't get pushy. Whatever you do do not go to a prostitute for your pleasure. If your wife finds out things could get nasty. On the other hand if you mention this to her and she agrees possibly an outsider will help you enjoy your sex life until your wife gets back to normal sharing herself with you.
I am no Dear Abbey or Ann Landers and trying to be does not help. I hope this was a little help to both of you. good luck.

This happens to many, many people. Try to get some time together away from the kids and the house. A short vacation to someplace tropical... Even a hotel in the next town will help.
As the kids grow older and need less attention, you will be able to reorient your relationship. It may be hard now, but, trust me, it will get better.

DR (been there, done that)

On the other hand some women who start out loving sex when young change after several kids or simply loose interest after marriage. And of course this is a two way street. There are horny women with husbands who are tired all the time, overworked, or just loose interest in sex.
Somehow we have to get these uninterested people interested in each other and the ones wanting sex to get together. Of course this ain't gonna happen! I hate to see anyone get a divorce, especially when children are involved. But as mentioned, life is too short to be miserable and do without a loving partner. Keep in mind when you and your wife are unhappy the kids are unhappy. You're actually doing everyone a favor by divorcing.
I truly think talking about it with your partner is very important and explaining that if I can't get it at home there are plenty of women, or other men, willing. This usually leads to divorce which is finally gonna give you a chance to find a loving partner.
On the plus side, as we get older we tend to notice those older women who are sexually interested and hopefully active. Hell there are thousands of them right on here.
For years I took my wife for granted, as many of you happy campers do. After almost 57 years of sexually active marriage I am one of the luckiest men alive! So how can I begin to understand your problems? Actually when I think of our life together I do understand.
Hell I think I'll sign off and go make love to my wife.

Thank you for all the lovely comments and the time taken out to reply to me on this post. Just to let you all know, i did discuss this with my wife and we had sex for the first time after a month and i even she allowed me to post a pic of her back!!!

woman
 

i never understand why woman are losing their interest in sex with their own husband.
they do it almost as an obligation because they are married with him.
but there is no passion and it is not fun anymore.


the most strange thing about this is when this kind of woman find another men by cheating,they suddenly enjoy sex a lot.

Camflasher, I don't know what to say (write). I joined this group thinking we could help a few members find ways to play sex games. Just this one post and finding out you and your wife are having sex again makes it all worth being here. We both hope you and Mrs Cam continue to enjoy sex at least now and then. By the way, beautiful ass!

mikee45. Ever since that first young guy shared an apple with that nymphomanic in the garden man has wondered what the hell he was getting into. Supposedly Eve was the Devil's work. Man has suffered in hell ever since but loved almost every minute of it. Great wars, murder, and criminal acts are often over woman.
I've also seen friends and their wives not have sex for years then later find those same cold sexless wives were having affairs with others. Man can go to the moon, invent this computer, and other things, but no man has figured woman out!;)

No sex
 

Hey guys, we have been married for thirty years and had a fun sex life for a long time. Then came "the change in life"
Or menopause. Vaginal dryness caused intercourse to become painful.
My wife still enjoys sex, but not intercourse.
I enjoy giving oral on a regular basis. Masturbation is the general outcome afterwards. I thinks she enjoys watching and will frequently respond to my overtures with "I want to watch you jerk off"
Intercourse is not allowed.
We still have a great time together and sex is ok, just different.

Anyone else in the same place?

Change in life
 

Hi Bugeye, We've reached this stage on both sides now that we're in our sixties. I don't seem to function too well without the little blue pill although I have no problems jerking off given the right visual or physical stimulus. And the frequency of my abilities has dropped to about twice a week. No problems with the fingers and tongue though.

She has the vaginal dryness you talk about. But we solve that with lots of lube. All women are different and my lady loves to feel my dick inside her although she does not get off on anything else inside her. So lots of clit and labial stimulation, also needing lube, and then we're off for the ride. One thing about aging is you're never in fear of premature ejaculation, rather the opposite.

The main thing is never to say I'm too old for sex. It ain't true.

Not quite, Bugeye7, but the vaginal dryness is an issue nowadays.

We've been married almost 40 years, and she's still interested in sex. Ironically, before I had my prostate removed (cancer -- doc says it's all clear, now), when I took Viagra/Levitra, I got too hard for her comfort. Now, even with meds and a vacuum pump, I get a usable erection, but I stay soft enough that she can enjoy it without causing her discomfort.

What's become a problem is scheduling. We're both retired, but we both keep busy with volunteering, hobbies, etc. Since it takes at least 30-45 minutes for the meds to take effect and we both like to shower before sex, plus there's cleaning up the lubricant afterwards, it gets difficult to remember to set aside the time.

F

Ain't that the truth. The lack of spontaneity is the biggest passion-killer of all. You want to but there's the 30-60 minute wait before the pill kicks in and in that time you can get involved in something else and the feeling just goes. What do you do with a no-longer wanted raging erection?

Spontaneity is easy, my wife and I have spontaneous sex on Thursday mornings at 10:30 and Sunday afternoons at 3:00

Perfect!!!!! :D

won't ask anymore
 

Been married for 18 years I have been dealing with little or no sex for the last 12 years of our marriage. Before our 2 children were born we had sex every where and anywhere. after the first child is slowed down which I understood. When the 2nd child came it went to once every month or so then 4 times a year. I have tried to get her to try different things asked her what she would like to do or try.

She will tell me she was in the mood i would go into the bedroom and lay in bed waiting for her only to find out she fell asleep on the couch. Or she would go into bed not telling me she was in the mood then in the morning tell me she fell asleep waiting for me to come into bed. If I try to become intimate she becomes very nasty or will do something to try and get me out of the mood and I usually roll over and go to sleep.This seems to have become a game for her to play at my expense.

I have asked if I was the problem if i was good enough, not doing what she wanted, and she always tells me I'm not the problem. If I mention anything about possibly going out and being able to have sex, I am told she will divorce me. I can't remember the last time we have had sex .I do love her but I hate that I feel like I have to beg for it
I have spoke with her about it and I am told that is all I every think about.

So I have recently given up on asking or trying .I usually take care of it myself and not deal with the aggravation or disappointment.

A friend of mine told me years ago "When you get married your wife is your right hand, After children your right hand is your wife"

Can it be that she is deeply worried about get pregnant again and having to go through childbirth again? I know it is against the survival of the species but nevertheless some women are traumatized by childbirth. Thank goodness others embrace it. I', just wondering if an offer of a vasectomy on your part might improve things.

Or maybe she feels deep down that having produced your two offspring her sexual function is no longer needed.

Or maybe she's getting it from that fit looking guy 5 doors down. Sorry.

Tiredness and exhaustion will often cause a woman to loose all interest in sex. And many men too. Are the children stretching her resources too far?

I don't which country you live in but most places have organisations that will offer marriage conciliating and counselling and it sounds to me that before either of you takes the road to the divorce court a stopover for some counselling might do you good.

That said, sex is a primal drive in all of us. No good will come of suppressing it. In the marriage ceremony they say to love and cherish but what they really mean is to fuck and be fucked.If that ain't happening they you are maybe both right to look elsewhere.

Good luck.

There may be hope.........
 

I would just like to share my experience over the last few years. Perhaps some of you can take some ideas from my experience. This is not a sermon. This is just a recounting of my experience and how I have changed my life for the better. As I say to my children and friends, my advice is worth exactly what you paid for it. Do with it what you will.

I, like many here, have gone for a year or more without sex. Several years, as a matter of fact.
I, like many here, have spent time trying to resolve the issue of my desire for sex, with my wife, and her lack of desire for sex, period.
For over a year, ending in January 2012, on my 33 anniversary, I waffled between having an affair and getting a divorce.

Having an affair was out of the question. My first wife cheated on me several times and the pain was too much. No matter how angry I was about the lack of sex in our marriage, I could not bring that pain to my wife.

Divorce was another question, but at 62 I was really not looking forward to dating, etc, and, the concept of splitting the marriage assets, fights over money, the house, and a successful business, seemed overwhelming.

After my first marriage ended, I had sought counseling. One of the things I had learned, but failed to apply to my life, was that the only person that you can change is yourself. I decided that beginning with our 33rd anniversary I would give one year to changing myself in an effort to save my marriage.

On January 6, 2012, I stopped on my way home and bought my wife 33 roses. One for each year we had been married. She was not expecting them because we had not acknowledged or celebrated our anniversary in about 10 years. No card, no dinner, no nothing.

I told her that I was sorry for the way thing had been over the last few years but they would be better. I was not expecting anything from her. This was my year to change.

We ate dinner and went about our usual life that night.

A few nights later, after I got home, she started complaining about something truly inconsequential. I don't remember whether it was about me or some other event. My typical response, no matter what the reason for her anger, would have been wrong. This day was different. I walked over to her and said "I know somebody that needs a hug" and she said "I DON'T need a hug" and I told her that she did, she just didn't know it yet. I put my arms around her and gave her a hug and asked her if she felt better and she said it didn't help. I said I must not have done it right so I did it again. It didn't help this time either but she was starting to change. There was a little less anger. So, I did it again. Didn't help this time either but there was a change in her eyes. A couple more hugs and she was starting to grin and by the time I was done with her she was laughing. The situation had been defused and instead of her being pissed off, she was now in a good mood. By changing my reaction, I had changed her.

I have used this so many times that my grown kids, all boys, caught on. If she goes into a rant while they are around they will say "does somebody need a hug?" If there is more than one here, it will become a group hug and everyone ends up laughing. Not only did I change her, but I changed them.

That weekend, I suggested we go out to dinner, just the two of us. Just something casual. So we went out to the Ruby Tuesdays nearby. It is one of her favorites because they have a big salad bar.

After dinner I asked her if she would like to watch a movie with me. I had picked up a comedy that I thought she would enjoy. She doesn't like sci-fi, or drama. She likes to be entertained and laugh. So, we camped out in front of the TV to watch the movie, and had a few adult beverages. After the movie was over she said she had enjoyed the evening, just the two of us, and I made my pitch. How about ending the evening with a little "dessert". She said sure, and we were off.

The following Saturday, I suggested a repeat of the previous Saturday. Dinner, a movie, and "dessert" and she said it sounded like fun, so we did it again.

As a matter of fact, we have done it every Saturday, in one form or another, for two and a half years.

We have been invited to other events over that period of time and my response has always been that Saturday night is date night with my wife. If she would like to change it, it is up to her, but as far as I am concerned, she and I go out to dinner, watch a movie, and have dessert. It has gotten to the point that none of the kids come over on Saturday evening, nobody calls, because everybody knows where we will be Saturday night, and as far as I am concerned, it is written in stone.

We have had conversations about what she like and doesn't like. She brought up the issue of post menopausal dryness so we have tried different lubricants. Then she said they didn't get far enough in so.........I give myself an injection of Testosterone every week and save the used syringes. Not the needles, just syringes. They are washed to remove all traces of the testosterone. They are tiny, about 1/4" diameter. 1 ml total volume. We use them to put peroxide on cuts, alcohol in ears, any thing where you might have trouble placing a liquid. I asked her what she thought about trying to use one of the syringes to get the lube where it was needed and she said go for it. Now, it is a ritual for me to fill two small syringes with different lubes prior to our lovemaking so they are available at the right time. This has totally solved the painful intercourse associated with postmenopausal vaginal dryness and returned pleasure to her. One of her friends told me recently that during a girl conversation about sex, when the other ladies were complaining, yes the ladies complain too, my wife said that sex is so good for her that sometimes she sees flashes of light when she cums.

Because I have changes the way I respond to her, she has, unconsciously, changed the way she responds to me.
I refuse to strike out at her verbally. If she is angry, I let it pass. If she doesn't want to do something with me I do it myself.

I like to go to the nude beach. Gunnison Beach is closest. She said she is uncomfortable with the nudity and I annoy her asking her to go topless. So, I started gong by myself. She decided she might want to go but wanted to sit near the break near the textile side, so she went with me again. She started chatting with some of the folks on the beach and discovered that just because you are naked, you are not a pervert. Now she goes to the beach. Her idea, not mine. We drive down on Friday evening, have dinner, stay in a room, have dessert, and spend a day, together, by ourselves, on the beach. I don't bug her about topless. Life is too short. But, I have said to her, "someday, when I am changing your diaper, you will apologize to me for not giving me that small amount of pleasure".

As I stated in the beginning, I have gone years without sex. I was bitter and angry with my wife. There were weeks when we would hardly speak. I would lie awake, not being able to sleep because the person next to me was not fulfilling my expectations about being a sex partner. I decided to change me. The reality of physics is that every action has an equal and opposite reaction. The reality of relationships is that every action has an equal and opposite reaction.

By changing the action, you can change the reaction.

To everybody in this thread, change yourself and see how it will change your life.

Two times it was a problem came to mind when I read your response.

One New Year's Eve shortly after I'd started taking Viagra, we were all set to get down and dirty; the Viagra was working, and we were in the mood. Then, just as we were undressing, we got a telephone call that a close friend and former co-worker of my wife's had died. That killed the mood, but not the erection. My wife was in tears, so I wound up having to hit the bathroom and masturbate.

Backing up a few months, I'd just started taking the blue pills. At that time, I'd get at least two very functional erections; we'd go at it, take a break and have supper, etc., then go at it again.

We had sex, then supper, and started watching a program on the Titanic. Out of the blue... BOING! No foreplay, not even some cuddling. My wife still jokes about people drowning having an odd effect on me!:o

F

Jrs.1996 and camflasher ... I am in the same boat albeit one that is rocking a bit differently thankfully ... We are married for 7 yrs now and have got two kids 4 and 2 yrs old. But our sex life has been good. I also faced the same problems of her being tired, exhausted rather, irritated with the kids, not in the mood, etc. But our average frequency has still been 2-3 times a week... and mind you all with her willing and orgasming most of the times with me or before me.
What I think primarily worked for me (and still works) was I never let her feel that sex is only thing that I want. So i would do things to make her feel how important she is to me. Like, after coming back from work, I would let her take a complete break from kids for an hour before they are put to sleep. So when time comes she is relaxed ... and feels cared for. Quite often it did happen that babies threw up pranks ( i still rem once when she was in the middle of climaxing when the younger one started screaming. Boy, she was livid!) ... But i guess thats the fun part. .. Give her a bath, massage her early in the morning on a weekend, let her go out of the house shopping for just an hour alone ... and am sure she would return the favours.

Thank you all
 

Thank you ModelT,DRDavenport,alterego and others for your lovely comments on this thread. well just to let you all know, that was 10 days before we had sex and till now nothing and still counting :)) But as you guys have said, am trying to be more patient, since i know nothing is going to come off by hurrying..

As alterego said, i will try giving her a massage every nite.. That may help.. Earlier she used to have Wine/Alchohol regularly and then after that, it was much easier.. But now a days after the kids, she hates alchohol, since she has to feed my son.

After reading all the posts in here, i understand Divorce is not the option nor is cheating, as ModelT rightly puts it. you guys have travelled these roads and from your posts i know, its not an easy road. But for me, atleast on fridays i get to expose her on cam to few of my male friends (for 20 to 30minutes, if am lucky),which really satisfies my fantasy world. i will keep posting in here, with new pics of her and let you all know the outcome..

ModelT has really made my day today with his comment on my wife's ass:D..

I got my first girlfriend pregnant
 

So, as I loved her very much, and she was a virgin, I married her - but after the birth, sex was a big no no.. She claimed it was not nice, and she hated it. We struggled on without it for 8 years, and I came home from work on evening, and she said she was leaving me. She was up the duff, by my best friend.
I re-married a divorcee, of 21years, and She asked for sex so regularly, I was eventually performing FIVE TIMES a day, (including handjobs whenever she saw my trousers down) from 1971 till she had several strokes, in 2006. and passed away... She also used a penis pump on me, leaving it on throughout evening TV programs, when ever possible, When she was dying, she told a single nurse about my cock, and the fun she had enjoyed, and invited Her, to come visit me, to check me out - and I obliged her.......I am now over 80, and married tp a young Asian beauty......

hey camflasher .. any progress ?

Trying to be patient
 

Its been difficult these days and moreover i was unable to log into OCC, since i had forgotten the password. I tried in vain to access my password by resetting as per the forum's guidelines, but i was not succesful. Hence created another account to log in.

@alterego, i have been patient these days and providing regular massage to my wife everyday and waiting her to be horny for a fuck.. But no such luck, since my younger one wakes up irregularly and she has to rush in to attend.
But she did allowed me to take a pic of her naked back on the sofa couple of days earlier.
Only thing i get these days is rubbing my shaft on her ass. The other day i got so worked up that i almost inserted it inside, when she gave a horrible shout and that was the end of it.. :mad:

Am just posting couple of pic's of her back. will try to get her big breasts pic for u guys pretty soon.

my sympathies friend ... all i can say is i understand ur position ... more so after seeing the pics. She is gorgeous and its hard to resist such a sexy one!
Why dont u try giving her a bath and talking to her at the same time about this ... how it is getting difficult for u. May be she would understand that you are doing your part in trying to be patient and she should do hers by not asking you to be patient forever ... good luck friend.

Hello
 

@alterego, thats a good idea. i will surely try to convince her..

Camflasher: that woman should be getting fucked silly. Thank you for sharing.

I have a beautiful exotic mid- 30's wife who is totally frigid. This is fucked up, but I have spent the last few years intentionally underperforming and feigning impotence in hopes that she would cheat on me and another man would light her fire. I'm to the point of finding another outlet, but I have not crossed the rubicon.

@crankdingo: if it was so, i would have known it. Anyhow would explore on that angle. However, i can tell u that she is very busy looking after the kids..

One small but important bit of advice that no one tells you growing up (it probably applies to both sexes ) :

Do not marry someone who does not masturbate.
It probably means there are some major sex drive issues.

In my experience, you speak the truth. Unfortunately, after 4 kids and 36 years of marriage, I am too tired to change the status quo. That, plus I am not up to the task of splitting assets acquired over half my lifetime. I go to the gym, work out , and hope I can outlive her so that maybe someday, a merciful God will send me someone that is more enthusiastic about experiencing new things. As I frequently say, I hope there is an afterlife and living up to your promises is rewarded otherwise, I will be one really pissed off dead guy.

Naaa... you'd just be dead.

One of my good friends is in his mid 60s, he's usually banging 1-3 new women a month from 19~35 years (avg 26). He's not in great shape, but has got game.

So talk with your wife about OPTIONS, since you are not interested in cheating on her... yet she is NOT providing sexual relief (or intimacy) with you... then she is a problem. After having a baby a few years ago, my own sex drive went downhill for months (Wife wasn't too pleased) from the stress and doing so many things. Sometimes the little tyke is a cock-blocker... when he wakes up at the wrong time - half the time, its like *HE KNOWS*.

- Talk about going to Couples/sex counseling.
- If a NO-GO, talk about open relationship... you see other women, she sees other women or men... whatever floats her boat. I gather you both are in your mid 50s... so live while you can... get your dick wet.
- if all else fails... divorce. If she's making your like SUCK... then so what if you lose half your assets... vs. dying when you are about 75~85 with a non-functional penis and she's out-living you.

Compared to going out, meeting NEW people, new women - and having fun... either way, you ain't taking your money or things with you. Not even billionaires can't buy their way through the Perly gates.

Up until I meat my wife, I avg. about 2~4 women a month at age 40 - even dating 21yr olds. Now its about 3~5 women a year... :) and she is well aware since she's usually in the same room... she's cute and is damn sexy when making out with other chicks...

Some of these posts are very sad to read. It's not just the women, many men change their feelings about sex over the years. I suggest some of you read Dollie's and my stories. Many are listed under our post below.
We've had such a great sex life others feel it's sickening when I brag. I am not really bragging, just trying to share our fun and games. We are getting close to the end ourselves. An old body can only do so much.

Amazingly I spent most of our married life trying to get my wife to swap or have intercourse with others. Yes I use the words intercourse because she has been fondled and fingered by 1000's. The sex part has always been there. It took the stories and photos here in OCC to get my wife to finally change. So, yes there is hope.
She now has more than 40 different fuck buddies and we estimate since May 2014 she's been well fucked way over 500 times by most of them. Since the first of this year she's cut way down and probably has less than 25 regulars. Sometimes as many as 2-5 a day. Notice we are usualy not on here until in the afternoon? There hasn't been a time I wasn't with her to watch and help. I guess that makes me a cuckhold or just a pervert. I do know we are both loving it.

There are several reasons Dollie has all of her fuck buddies. The biggest reason is from what some of you have written. We live where there are many older retired single men and men who's wives no longer want sex. They are starving for pussy. No matter what their age they don't care if she's old, wrinkled, and overweght. They only want attention, tits, and pussy. All are friendly, polite, and thankfull.
All she's had to do is wear revealing clothes and act sexy. Things she's always done. We are sure Dollie could have gotten a hundred partners or more without asking. Together we feel we are doing these men a favor and we are having fun at the same time. Don't ask, she has more partners than she wants and has been turning many of them down. After all, she's not a kid anymore.


Never give up. But always be ready to start over. I'd rather be poor and have sex than live alone or with an iceburg.

I would add someone who hasn't had many partners as well. I have been married 27 years, and have experienced most of what everyone else in this thread has experienced. After years of begging, inquiring about how I could make things better, I gave up. I use to go to bed every night upset. Now I don't even bother asking or trying. I haven't had sex for 2 years now, and I feel less stressed about it.

My wife of 35 years and I have had our sexual ups and downs. I have to say that sex with her has been absolutely thrilling 95% of the time. She's enthusiastic, adventurous, and willing to try new things. I would like to present a question for men or women to address. How was sex when she was pregnant? Some guys I've talked with complain their wife cut them off and there was no or very little sex. Other men have said just the opposite. In my case, my wife was extremely horny and initiated sex every day. As her belly grew we had to limit positions but great sex continued. From my understanding it's a hormonal thing but I don't understand how different women so completely opposite.

I finally stopped begging
 

My story::
I was Married 12 years, as soon as we had kids I quickly became her room mate.
I begged, pawed even dragged us to therapy to see how to handle issues of kid stress n hoping she was going to eventually fall back madly in love w me. When we "scheduled" sex it was great but definitely "scheduled"? And heck I would even ask her to kiss me prior as foreplay to get me hard as she was a person to compliment me,I always had to kiss her first, say I loved her first, and constantly tried to beat my own chest trying to show her how lucky she was, hoping she'd willingly show me some normal attention and validate me a tad, but no luck.
I eventually cheated just because I needed someone to show affection and smile when they looked at me, she no sooner found out, divorced me, and blamed me for it all but of course as "cought him cheating" was her mantra to everyone..
My only advice for any guy heading down this road is once they loose respect for you, call it quits, don't hemorage your "man card" , it sucks and wish non of it happened but making someone feel for you again is impossible and you'll see how fleeting and forced it really is if they just go through the motions,,,
Lots of pain, but ya gotta move on, and better than being in a marriage that's all one sided and you've turned into only a roommate.
Hope this helps another!

After my grandfather died, my grandmother gave my wife a bunch of clothes that were hers from a very long time ago when she was very young....they were married for almost 60 years and she also wanted to pass on a bit of advise to my wife..... In her words... "to keep your husband happy you need to be two things... a chef in the kitchen and a w.h.o.r.e. in the bedroom". Pretty sure I choked when my wife said this to me....then I laughed my ass off when she pulled out some black lingerie from the bag... NOT something I wanted to think about or see my wife in....Have no idea if it was originally hers, and didn't want to ask... Needless to say my wife didn't keep the gift or ever try it on...or take her advice unfortunately for me...lol

Tricky
 

It's a tricky slope men usually won't win,
As mine got to blame her lack of interest on 2 young children being the priority..
I get how hard it is w kids but I was no slouch to help.
But alas, how could I think of complaining about zero attention from her for years when we had 2 children.
I now realize it was her bullet proof excuse
To keep me off the priority list..and I was no ogre to say the least.
After the divorce she told the kids "she finally had time for herself"...when they were with me.
It's funny how everyone turns the story to suit their real feelings or needs..
She ended up w everything she wanted, a huge amount of $$$ child support every week and scheduled weekly time off when w me..
Ugh, talk about about bad choices..
Oh well as they say....

All women are different....
 

I have been married 3 times. The first was a nun, didn't want nun, wasn't going to give nobody nun! Married her because I was 17 and she was pregnant. We were both kids and made bad choices so whatever. After our divorce I tried to be careful. Meet a hometown girl that had the same interests as I, dated a while, lived together a while. Sex was great, for about 5 years or halfway into our marriage. Her father is a Pentecostal preacher. She said she met me in a "weird" time of her life when she was rebelling. Sex stopped when she got pregnant with our daughter. Which was odds to me since the only time my first wife wanted it was when she was pregnant. :-\ I hung on for another 5 years and met my current wife. She is over 8 years my junior and wants out all the time, more that I feel like unfortunately. She well do anything, anywhere, with just about anybody I ask her to. We have pretty much an open marriage and I like it because it takes some pressure off me. LOL.

Guess I was halfway reporting the opposite end of the spectrum and halfway bragging. :-)

Just a quick pic to brag some more!

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Sex in pregnancy? That would have been nice. My wife looked incredible with my bun in her oven. I looked forward to what guys often say- how their wife gets horny during pregnancy and how they can't keep up - and for me? Nothing. It was so frustrating. From the time she discovered she was pregnant and for almost 18 months thereafter, there was no sex. It has barely improved.

As I wrote in a prior post, I used to feign impotence and taught myself to prematurely ejaculate really badly - as in, without getting hard - in hopes that she might get inspired to cheat or do the hot wife thing. I had some medical issues going on that made for a plausible cover story. That didn't work, so I miraculously "cured" myself, and went back to full strength, so to speak. Now this lovely mid- 30's woman can't take a proper fucking without wearing out after 2 minutes. I get a shot at that about once a month. My married sex life sucks. It is like looking into the window of a candy shop that never opens. That is why I use this forum as an outlet.

When I was younger, I told a co-worker (older than me) that a girl I was dating loved to suck my cock. He told my father, who advised me that it's OK to fool around with a girl like that, but you should never marry a sl*t.

I have been married for 46 years, and every day I give thanks that I did not listen to him.

Our sex life was always good. We had children at a young age, and after they moved out, the sex went from good to fantastic. It has slowed down at our age, but still is there. She likes porn, fucking in the car, on the hood of the car, on golf courses, in bars and clubs, etc. Anyplace she might be seen gets her soaked.

She likes to be watched, and I love watching. We have been to a couple of swing clubs and to Desire in Cancun. At one club she did suck another guy, trying to get him hard, but he stayed limp. She claims she would not have fucked him, but I suspect she would have, since my cock was in his wife's, mouth at the time. She also 69'd the wife, but said she was not a good pussy eater.

At Desire, I sat her on the edge of the hot tub and ate her while others watched. She came quickly, and another guy asked if he could eat her. She readily agreed and gushed all over his face.

So my advice is to be sure of the sex before it is too late, and try anything you can. Toys, movies, a few hours at an adult motel, etc. Some women sometimes want to be treated like sex objects but are afraid to let the husband know.

so true barmixer ... we have fantasised so any times about that and am sure my wife would love to be watched while i eat her out ... but sadly we have not been able to try it ever. May be sometime in the future when we tour europe we would give it a try !
At present, am talking to her about posting some pics here ... she has not agreed but has not denied it either. May be she would agree to give it a try just to see the reactions ... whenever that happens, you guys would be the first to know (and see) :)