Loss of erection capability is the canary in the coal mine indicating metabolic dysfunction. It's one of the first things to go as the body tips off into insulin resistance, pre-diabetes, and finally diabetes. It kills testosterone levels as well as causing a host of other well-known diabetes symptoms. Also, abdominal fat eventually chokes off the blood supply to the dick, reducing blood flow and eventually killing nerves too.

Testosterone replacement will work for a while but it eventually doesn't. Plus, it just feels weird. You can mostly get a hard-on but may never be able really get horny. That's what happened to me anyway.

The solution, and this will be controversial, is simple, but certainly not easy. It is to permanently cut off all sugar from the diet. All processed food crap (cookies, Twinkies), bread, pizza, beer, AND vegetables. Anything that is a carbohydrate, whatever its form, turns to sugar in the bloodstream.

Which leaves . . . meat. Nothing but meat. Any kind of meat. But only meat. It may take a year or three, but your metabolism will eventually heal; you'll lose weight, diabetes will go into remission, and hard-ons will return. But it may take a while depending on how far down the metabolic dysfunction road you've traveled.

I full well understand that this sounds like crazy talk, but for anybody who is genuinely curious about restoring their health, I'm happy to talk to you via private message.

P.S. Carrie, you look great. I'd be happy to drill you with my restored cock function. Took me a couple of years to get it back, but it works just as good now as it did before.

Nudism
 

Honestly try just becoming a nudist around the house. Just do everything naked and don’t mention it to him let him just notice it.

COMMUNICATION!!! What was his trigger before, amp it up. Go out in public in shear tops. Why the resistance to Viagra or Calais? There are pumps that people use. Injections and implants, but it doesn't sound like he's there yet. Did I mention communication??? Work on this together!!!

Cialis works longer than Viagra. And T shots help with more than just ED.
A visit with his urologist/GP is indicated.

DR

P.S. Carrie, you look great. I'd be happy to drill you with my restored cock function. Took me a couple of years to get it back, but it works just as good now as it did before.[/QUOTE]

Thanks for your thoughts. There maybe some underlying health concerns, although a recent medical gave him a clean bill of health. He weighs like 180lb so excess weight isn't THE issue. Lots to sort out.
I've tried to add a pic to my responses that is connected to the conversation to avoid blocks of text that are irrelevant to everyone else. I don't have any pics of you drilling me with your revitalized cock (I checked). Hope this pic suits.

I'm sure he'd notice, but he'd be nervous about what the kids were thinking. Lingerie is the farthest I can go strolling through this stage of life.

I am 73 years old and suffered from ED for about 20 years. About 3 years ago I went to a urologist to see if he could help me. We tried several things that did work for me but were not totally satisfactory. Due to other medications I take Viagra was not an option. The one thing that worked was to inject a drug into my penis. It gave me a decent erection for an hour or two but just seemed to be too barbaric. After trying the injections for a month or so I decided to get a penile implant. This is major surgery and it was extremely painful for about 6 weeks, but I cannot be any happier. I am now able to get an erection at any time I wish and I can maintain that erection for as long as I want, lasting weeks if I so desired. The surgery is expensive but because of my age Medicare paid for almost all of it. My final bill for the urologist was less than $100. There are options out there, and my suggestion for any man suffering from ED is to consult with a urologist and explore what is available. Some options are very inexpensive, some are very costly, but the doctor will work with your husband to find a solution.

Steve443
 

Thanks for sharing very personal information like this. It is humbling for me that you share such intimate struggles.

ED problems can by physical or psychological.

If he gets hard by anything, be it you blowing him, others having sex with him, masturbating, or even (OMG) flashing, his body is working fine, his mind has problems. No medicine will help.

If he doesn't get hard with you, then you need some honest talk with him. No accusations, no insults, no marriage problem problem talks. He simply needs to find out what gets him hard. Then you two can figure out how that could happen in your marriage. Many men are ashamed all life long to simply tell their wife what really turns them on. Read here about all the fuss those married guye go to hiding their flashing fun from their wives. Tell him to be honest, and DO NOT do any accusations, if you like staying married happily.

Kick him in the balls. Or tie him to a tree naked in your neighborhood and call the cops. He wants to fuck you, humiliatite your husband and ruin your marriage. And then laugh his ass off. What a wonderful neighbor.

rudolfm
 

I expect you are right, the erection trouble could be psychological. I also think that if his equipment trouble was not a source of frustration for him he would lose many of the stresses that are presenting as erection failure. It seems (to me) like a loop that could evaporate if the erection issue could be resolved.

Feel good about erection performance = less frustration = better erectile function

The erection trouble predated the 'helpful neighbour', but yeah...
I don't have any pics of neighbours tied to trees. Closest I have is me pruning a tree. Not very graceful, but I don't like heights. Maybe I needed the rope so I wouldn't be afraid of falling?