You cheating..fucking others in front of her...things were not monogamous from the start..

I always wondered that myself ..if its the brains way of coping..instead of dealing with it head on out of fear of woman leaving us

Arousal and jealousy happen same time but yet cuckolds choose the arousal part instead of confronting the other part.

..plus could it be because you know her and would also be turned on seeing a friends wife...a female friend..avfriends mom..any female we knew fucking in front of us/telling us about it?

Just last night
 

So by posting this it has opened the door for me to be more honest about how I feel with her. So last night I asked how this all happened and she showed me this photo attached. That is what she sent him and in turn he sent a dick pic.

Of course he sent a dick pic, shes smoking hot. Do you think this was the only time she cheated? Sounds like lots of questions remain. Guess what you should be asking yourself is what do you ultimately want?

Was it a guy she met at gym?..how big/muscular is he compared to you..in case it ever came to a physical confrontation over this ?

No didn’t meet him at the gym. It was a friend of hers ex boyfriend. Not worried at all about confortation. She stoped working out and her ass and tits got way bigger since that picture. She lost muscle and only gained 15 lbs of weight.

Yeah Leopard,

It is more normal than you would think. Actually if I were you I would open it up and see if she was open to doing it again and letting you know about it and be a part of it. It could turn into a whole new hobby for you guys. That could lead to swinging for the both of you. Or it could let out your cuckold side a little bit. Who knows, but yes the idea of a big cock guy stretching out my demure sexless wife is a total turn on. Early on when we were dating I found out that she had a white guy with over 12" of cock swinging that she dated and only could only take 7" of so she wound up giving a lot of head and hand jobs. She said she didn't enjoy it. And after my wife he actually went totally for guys and turned gay.

It was just a real shocker to me that for one it happened (I wasn’t a pure saint) I didn’t think she had it in her. The second part is that I actually now fantasize about it. I told her I would even be cool with her doing it again but she said he would just bother the fuck out of her and she would just to appesise me but not worth it. She isn’t open to swinging currently.

It doesn’t have to be swinging. Approach the subject of her being a hotwife together. It doesn’t have to be degrading and can be very rewarding. Keep your options open and think about it. She’s gorgeous! I hope you’re able to get through all of this and possibly use it to open doors for the both of you.

Leopard hit my situation exactly. I was cheating and then found out my now ex-wife was fucking this young guy during the day 3 or 4 times a week. I walked in on it once and was turned on beyond description. We eventually got back together for sex and I asked her about it all the time and she finally started telling me. He would go 4 or 5 rounds in a couple hours, and she loved it. I guess he could cum buckets, and it drove her wild. He moved out of town, but I had been suggesting that I would like to watch it again. She pushed back until a couple weekends ago when we had an MMFF with two people she knows. Whoa.....

It was pretty surprising the first time it happened. But I think it's so hot now and makes me want her more than ever