I guess there is a a whole slew of us with that experience. I can only offer that, in my experience, it got better once the kids went to school and didn't need looking after full-time. Also on holiday, she can become extremely randy and can want more of me than I am able to offer at my age. So there you have my recipe, have patience until junior is about 6 and then go on holiday as often as possible.

Great story Camflasher, thanks for sharing.

Have shared my wife often :D but for some reason never managed to persuade her to visit a massage parlour. Your arousing account has resolved me to try again.

My wife and I had a beach massage in Hua Hin Thailand. Lady for us both and my wife had her bikini top removed during the massage. She admitted later that the massage of her breasts turned her on and she was imagining it was a man rather than a lady masseuse.

Took her to a sex show in Bangkok too - that opened her eyes !!

I hope to get a better understanding of what makes her tick.

You won't live that long!

A mystert as you say
 

I don't know why I didn't pick up on this post before know because it represents my wife's attitude exactly.

Tradionally she's reserved rather than prudish although always liked dressing nicely and posing for the camera. She'd go topless on the beach but this faded a bit as the kids got older. When they grew up and we went away together she loosened up a little. We had been on beaches that permitted nudity before but I took her to a busy beach where absolutley everyone was naked so you got stared at if you were dressed. I though she'd protest a little or get undressed sitting on her towel and stay put. To my surprise she got undressed and suggested we went for a walk along the crowded beach. Since then, this is usual behaviour on the beach or the dunes. She will also wear see through clothing when we are out and discretely flash.

The main thing in common with your Mrs is that she does not acknowledge any thrill from it. She says she does it to please me but then sometimes she does it when I don't ask or goes just a little beyond what I expect so I know she must getting a buzz from it as well.
I know her main boundary is family and friends, she would not even go topless in front of her own sisters these days.
I have avoided being too pushy but I'm now getting the feeling that she want's me to ask her to be more adventurous so that she can put up a token resistance but do it anyway to 'keep me happy'? Maybe?

Oh bugger this is giving me a sore head now!