Before and After
 

My wife had one guy before me and 13 guys and 5 women since we've been married. 4 of the guys more than once. given BJ's to 3 times that many.
So my wife didn't give her first BJ until she was in collage. her BF back than who taught her how to do it told her that she had to swallow every time, so that's what she did for every guy.
I'd love to meet him and thank him personally some day.
BTW, we talk about it a lot and its a big turn on.

Couple weeks ago I was chatting with a guy I just met on Facebook. Since we met first time I randomly checked his picture as general curiosity. There was one picture form his wedding day. Pretty old b/w picture. From there I can pretty much guess his age and the length of their marriage. His wife was a pretty nice lady at that time so I just complimented on her and told him he is a luck guy to lay with such women. From there subject lead on subject and I learned that they were swingers when in their younger days. He told they used to be pretty much open about it at the times but after couple of ill ended instances they decided to hide it from their environment.

Anyways... at some point he explained actually they were having an open type relationship since the beginning although they are married. Which he said that actually it was working more for his wife since I guess she has much more chance to lay with other man. After that he wanted me to guess the number of guys she laid. I told him its hard to guess since they were doing it for years but my best wild would be around 200 - 250 man. He told me that he already lost count but it is already over a 1.000.

:eek: -> that was my instant face when I read the message. I told bullshit but he said its true.

At the end I choose to believe him since he has no gain to lie to me since I'm a total stranger and actually our chat was not leading anything. Now I'm although I never experienced swing type of life or any open relationship still more a thousand different guys to fuck... well I think thats something else.

Wife
 

My wife has been w/ over 200 men in her life, but she hasn't been w/ anyone new for about a year.. we tend to stay w/ our regular swing friends. Just haven't found anyone new she wants to be with lately. Generally satisified w/ who we swings with.
We met at a swing group meeting so it wasn't any surprise as to how many thru our years together...my number of women I've been with is about the same.

Fun with math: 1 swinger party a month = 3 new men x 12 = 36 a yr x 30y = 1080 :)

As a guy, I think a busy month would be 12 a month, but avg 4~5 in my single days.

Over a thousand
 

We are married almost 25 years now, and we have been in an open relationship from the very beginning. So we used to meet some other partners here and there, for a one night stand or for long term things as well. However my number is very much lower than my wife's considering she was part time call girl for about 2 years.

Generally she worked 3-4 days a week half day, and typical day was 2-3 clients, however her personal record was 6 guys at the same day.

Anyways, based on that I estimated her number would be definitely more than one thousand, but probably less than 3000. That's the best estimation I can do.

If we exclude that experience from the calculations, I remember the number was around 100 in 2000, and since then she slowed down considerably, so I think it has to be around 150 now.

My guess is that the average husband knows about 50 percent of his wife's lovers. That's adding before and after marriage. I appreciate the guys who have more open wives who come clean with the whole history, but for the more common wife, I'd guess there are many strategic omissions....

Obviously, one husband's opinion...

Mrs. HedoRocks
 

We have been married over 17 years now. She is my first wife, though I am her second husband. Her first husband was her "first". After their divorce, she was with a few other guys before me, but not a lot.

Except.... One night she went on a date with a guy, and ended up back at his place. There were 4 other guys there. Everyone was drinking and having a good time. One thing led to another, and next thing she knew, she was the star attraction of a 5 guy gang-bang. While it wasn't her original plan for the night, she wasn't forced in any way. She said she "sort of" enjoyed it. Not so much the actual acts, but the fact that she was their focus, and that so much attention was being paid to her.

Up to that point she wasn't wild and crazy like that. She was pretty conservative. It just happened to be the right time and place (and probably the right amount of alcohol as well!).

I keep telling her she owes me a gang-bang, since I wasn't able to be a part of the first one! She keeps telling me that she doesn't want to "plan" anything, but if the opportunity ever organically comes up, she may indulge me. Trust me, even though she doesn't want to plan anything, I keep trying to figure out how to make it happen! LOL

So, to make a long story short, I'm guessing about 8-9 other guys have boned my wife besides me.

More than originally was told
 

I’ve been married to the same lady for over 20 years. When our dating started to get more serious we discussed prior partners. During these conversations my wife admitted to about 10 partners and stated that she never had a one night stand, nothing kinky, never been with more than one man at a time or been with any married men. Since she grew up in the LA beaches area I rounded up from 10 to probably 12. My wife wasn’t the first gal I dated from that area. Also, I figured the one night stand was probably not a hard and fast rule.

A few years back an event occurred with made me wonder about all of this again and I actually relayed the story of the event on this site. I was surprised that someone recognized it and my wife. I upped the tally and figured that my wife was probably been with around 20 guys, that she did have the occasional one night stand, that she pulled a few trains, was into bondage during a phase in her early 20’s. But, I was still a little suspect of what I had learned from the guy I spoke with on this site.

That suspicion was removed a year or so ago when I happened to overhear conversations my wife was having with her sisters as they were going through some old photo albums. I had to revise upward from 20 or so to probably 25-30. Also, the one night stand rule became a loose rule of thumb. I also learned that shortly before we met she was getting focused on finding a man willing to commit to a relationship so she was dating more than one man at a time. She also dated a couple of guys who were twice her age and that she slept with 2 married men. That translates to about 5 guys per year prior to our getting together.

While I am surprised by the number my feeling is that in the end I benefited from all of the experience she gathered during this time.

Not my wife but SIL
 

My SIL 18 months ago broke up with her long time husband (they got married at 20)

Last summer I saw her topless on the deck at the summer house. I was surprised by her casualness. Then a few days later fully nude at a beach. After that I would often see her fully naked and free at the summer house.

I thought she would have had maybe 1 or 2 boyfriends before her marriage and then a couple over the last year.

We have just got back from staying in Spain in a friend of my wifes apartment. I saw her a few times naked in the apartment which was good. My wife and her friend went off shopping one day so SIL went on down to Pedro's beach. A nice beach in a national park with a nude section around a small point. The main beach can be nude. SIL went nude all day at the main beach. She loved the attention. Guys would talk to her and she would walk around nude. She would quite comfortably talk to a group of 3 or 4 guys, her being the only one naked. A particular group got talking to her and she came over and said she was going back to town with them for a drink. I thought fine.

About 30 mins later I took the bus to the top of the road and decided to visit the ruin house above the beach to get some photos. Outside the ruin was a car. When I got to the ruin I heard some noises looked in and there was SIL on all fours in a roast spit with 3 of the guys (who were until then complete strangers).

I was shocked and not sure what I should do so I pushed the boundaries and walked in asked her if she was fine. She looked up said yes but asked if I could stay until she had finished and then take her home to clean up.

When she came out about 30 mins later she looked quite different. I now view her very differently. I thought she had had maybe 3 lovers and now I have seen her with 3 guys at one time.

A few days later we went back to Pedro's beach with wife and her friend and SIL. SIL kept her bikini on all day but went topless only on the sunbed.

My wife...
 

My wife won't say openly how many have used her wonderful pussy. But in conversations over the years I get the strong impression it's in the 30's prior to our marriage. Since then till now, I find it hard to believe it's just been me, only because she has introduced new completely different techniques that she had never used ever previously.
When I mentioned the different technique she just passed it off. Curious.

Married three times
 

My first wife L was an 18 year old virgin and only one other has had her since me. There is a reason she is an Ex.

My second wife and 2nd ex:
My Ex

She grew up in TX. She learned about orgasm and self-touching in HS doing it often in shower. She has two sisters and a niece.

Her first guy was J in High School - first kissing, then fondling her breasts, then she was fingered - going all the way - first orgasm in the back seat of a car. She went all the way at J’s house on the couch, totally nude. He was doing her from behind and started part way in and as she pulled away he pulled her back until he finally was all the way embedded and he started really slamming into her, taking her virginity. She was uncomfortable at first and then reached a plateau of excitement followed by orgasm.

Did three different guys in HS sucked and fucked all separately - all were friends, J, J, and R - She married the last guy - She did not stop seeing others while she was engaged to R and at different times did each one (J,S, and R) often seeing him with their sperm in her.

R was the smallest sized. R and she went to several porn films and she learned how to give even better BJs.

They had problems in marriage and they broke up, still married she dated several guys and did them going all the way oral and missionary, and tried anal, but then got back with R. Never stopped seeing two other guys and would get done at work and she would do them afterwards.

Finally broke up with R and lived with dentist guy - worked at dentist office. He was married and would enjoy her.

She changed jobs having several one night stands.

At work she was doing several of the Drs.

Also at work she found a Lesbian lover B. She had her Lesbian lover, and occasional guys on the side. Others had group sex with B in orgy with five ladies including a Philippine lady at work. She was introduced to pussy oral, anal, oral anal, and big toys.

Stayed several years with B, broke up over a lesbian lover S and they used vibrators, and often did anal, oral. "She always loved dick" she said.

She did a couple more guys at work while with B and S. Told me she would do a woman but always preferred cock.

She stayed with S then broke up after S had cancer treatment - she was doing a couple of guys regularly while she was with S.

After their break-up she dated and met several guys and went complete with them, oral, missionary, doggy, anal with them, finally finding another long term guy, who turned out to be a con man.

She married him, leading to an orgy to pay his debts. She was with him a few years and did a couple guys during their break-up. He offered her to his friends more than once, several who she took him up on.

After divorce, she dated and met several more men, doing again many one night stands.

One guy J she and he used to watch porn and do days in bed. Saw him at his house and then moved with him. They would watch porn and screw all day.

She didn't want to stay with him when she found women's panties - not hers at his house after she returned from a trip.

She returned to TX and lived with her sister. She changed jobs again and met several women friends. Her job took her travelling, and her best friend and she P were bi-sexual and dated together, another woman T went out with them, but became angry when she ended up with the one guy that she wanted.

She did an orgy with P, and did both guys in New Jersey to include DP with two guys.

At another job assignment overseas she did an Israeli DR and his assistant to keep the job and a good rating in the UK in Guildford.

Did two businessmen at once in Duluth (Says she was date ****d) but forgot that when she said she enjoyed the both of them at once. They switched back and forth and she took them in every hole.

Did a guy P in NY, an older guy - of normal size - several times and had an ongoing relationship while she was seeing a boyfriend at home and then met me, another future husband (I was meant to be a one night stand).

She was seeing her boyfriend JB, a bartender at an Irish Pub, he was huge 1998 lived with her huge sized.

Met me in UK (while doing JB in US as well) met at pub went to several pubs, and I met P her bisexual friend too.

On our first night at her Hotel in room 220. We did oral and missionary and later doggy style from behind - spent 3 nights with her, dropping load after load in her without protection. She never liked rubbers.

She was screwing around on then current boyfriend JB, who I didn't know about.

She did a friend of JB's to get free concert tickets and had several more one night stands with guys. I was one of her one night stands but then she decided she wanted me.

We married and she did everything from nude to dressed, oral, anal, missionary, from behind, pissing, use of dildos, double toys, vibrators, many captured in photos, even I learned a lot from her (including listening to all of her sexual history).

She traveled in UK and Scotland and screwed around multiple times on me with over 10-15 guys including several of her work mates, several times she had sperm in her pussy and I screwed her anyway. She got mad when I didn't want anal. She often had anal dildo when I did her. Liked big black dildo in her, anal smaller one and me in her mouth. Liked two headed dildo one head in each hole. She did at least one woman while we were married. She did a group of guys in a pub.

She ran off from me after meeting old HS boyfriend and did him for a week at his house in as she confessed both oral and missionary. She tried moving back in with me later saying he was small w erection probs.
She lives with him now.

My current wife was married once and has had four guys including me. I know or have met her ex husband, and both earlier lovers. She dabbled with maybe 20 others from kisses to fingering and maybe a bj.

So true ! Until recently my wife's official version was that she had only 5 lovers (and no one night stand)before me ....
As she got quite drunk at a diner lately, she opened up and confessed that the true nomber might be closer to 10 !
Considering that i know of all her previous serious relationships (we ve known each other for a long time), i can only assume the missing ones are one night stands !

A Lot
 

This is the wife not the husband so I hope that OK. I have no idea how many men I have fucked but it's a hell of a lot. I started at 15 and at 66 still going strong. Married for 36 years and he loves me fucking as many guys (or women) as I can. We moved from the States to a very small island several years ago and I'm limited what I can do here but when we get off the island I fuck basically everyone I can. We've done a lot of swing clubs where I would fuck as many guys as I could in a night. Sometimes it might be 2-3 sometimes it might be 10-10 and on occasion a gang bang which I love. On one trip to Hedo back in the 90s I think I fucked about 35 guys our last day there. My husband and I still have sex every day and he loves to fuck me with cum in my pussy or eat my pussy with cum in it. I am basically horny all the time. I love cum in my mouth and anal. I also can get turned on with golden shower. Basically anything that someone can think of. I really wish I had the opportunity to fuck several different guys a day. Obviously I'm not fucking tonight and that's why I on here thinking about it and playing with myself.

Nice story playcouple
 

anything more to add?

My GF won't tell me all of it either; mostly because I don't even want to know.

What I do know is that she went through an experimental stage after college (she was actually a "good girl" during college.) During that experimental stage she had an FFM threesome, a foursome with her best friend and two random guys, and a good amount of public sex (she was once doggy-styled over a garbage can right outside a nightclub).
After her fiance and her broke up (late 20's) she went through a string of one-night stands, bringing guys to her place and kicking them out the next morning. I have no idea how many guys she went through - this is a taboo topic between us.

Except for a couple of occasions, I've only been in monogamic long-term relationships; so stories of her youthful exuberance took some getting used to for me. But I've come to the conclusion that people express their sexuality in different ways throughout their lives; so I cannot reproach her past.

I’m not sure of the number but it’s around the mid to upper 30s from what she’s told me.

I mentioned in another thread recently about the threesome she had in her teens after a party. Apparently it was less of a porn-style threesome but just jumping into bed with two guys and doing them one after the other. What surprised me a bit about it was that they’d agreed the whole thing the previous day, so before the party had even started they knew at the end of it a threesome was on the cards.

Her most lively time was when she at University in Sheffield (England). She mentioned something about some sort of annual sex festival or something that goes on there where you can “fulfil all your fantasies”, though I was unable to extract any more detail of this.

She grew up in a rural part of England and said she’d learnt much of what she knew about sex from following the career of a certain gay pop star. In the earlier days of our relationship she loved me coming in her mouth and always swallowed. Even straight shagging she’d ask me to come in her mouth. I found out later that there was an incident with this pop star where he’d ended up in A&E (or “ER” as it’s known in the US) due to the quantity of various men’s sperm in his stomach!

The coming in the mouth hasn’t happened now for years - we tried for some time for a child where I was banned from coming anywhere but in her pussy and now we have a toddler and hardly ever have sex at all!

I’m constantly horny and permanently knackered at the same time!

So, I guess I shouldn't only lurk but contribute too. I know my wife has had fucked three other men, and think she may be "forgetting" some too. None of these are very recent, we have been together 20 years, so unfortunately it's not a topic we often visit any more.

Here's how: Her first was a high school crush. It (or he) didn't last very long - safe missionary type sex according to my wife, but good enough to figure out that she loved having sex. Then pretty soon she met a much older guy who in addition to new positions introduced her to watching porn, light bondage, anal sex, facials and swallowing instead of spitting... The funny fact is that on the surface my wife was (and still pretty much is) a good girl, not a sl*tty type at all. So while her friends, who had started having sex earlier, had already had some one night stands etc, were mostly having vanilla sex with their high school/college boyfriends, she was being tied up, getting her ass fucked... :D

After being together about a year we took a little time-out. During those 6 months I know she had at least one one night stand (according to her with a guy with a huge dick but no clue what to do with it). However, I think there may have been a few others, and know that she left a party with her room-mate and a new guy and headed to their flat. Of course they may have just slept, but more likely she either had a ringside seat to watching her friend having sex or joined in and practised some girl-to-girl love too.

Later on she worked abroad for half a year. We only saw twice during that time. I know her fingers and a couple of vibrating helpers did the work, but there would have been so many chances for the real thing as well. She said she didn't but who knows. What do you think?

I would say that she has had more than she is telling.

Well, I wouldn't much care if I were you. Unless you like hearing about it and the two of you use it for excitement, what difference does it make? At least to me, not much. The way I look at it, I have basically fucked everything that was moving slow enough to catch, so I'm hardly in a position to think that women should not jump on every swinging dick that comes along!

Prob too busy fucking to reply

Less than
 

10 is what she told me, frankly I could really care less. She has never had kids, so for 46 she is nice and tight.

That's what I think too.

I don't mind those at all, and I agree, partly from the same reasons! But I'd be happy to hear about those missing cases. Or more recent, but I doubt there has been any.

Before / After
 

My wife was 19 when we got married and a virgin as was I. She still had her hymen intact on our wedding night in 1984.

In the fall of 2004 after 30 years of marriage we had our first MFM experience and she had the first man other than me. We both had a great time and became involved in the swing lifestyle and remain active participants.

Before marriage: 0
After marriage: 67, including oral and penetration.

Of the 67 total to date 51 of them have been as a part of MFM connections we were both a part of. 15 have been solo with just her and the guy. 1 has been a steady boyfriend for the past 6 years and we play in MFM and she plays solo with him both. He is one of only 9 that have been permitted to cum inside her unprotected.

Of this number she has had multiple hookups with roughly 12 of these guys over time.

Conversely, I have had 8 different woman over the years as a part of either MF or MFM play.

Attached are a few random images from different hookups she has had.

Damn dude - you are a lucky man. Better than my one and done wife. One kid and done with sex or attempts to be sexy.

[QUOTE=hotal;1993480]15 different men have fucked my wife since we were married.

I wish my wife would do that, she only did it once and I was there to see it, it was great!

Sloppy seconds
 

My Mrs and I were swingers before her arthritis got bad and we had to give it up. I used to love watching her get fucked and having sloppy seconds after was superb.

[QUOTE=Trapper98;2385788]So tell us all about it!

Wow. I'd view that as a material breach of the marriage contract. If the situation never improved I'd kick her to the curb and move on, and find a woman who'll screw ya like ya like it. Life is too short.

Really tough call to make. But you know, many people get established in a certain life and family situation and go without sex. That's just how it goes sometimes. That's why I have occ and other outlets. Thanks for the encouragement, however. Maybe I start a
Sexless marriage thread- I bet a lot of dudes on here would join and post.

And yes, it is a breach of contract and a betrayal for sure.

Well, there are already a couple of those on the board which were pretty heavily commented on.

I imagine my response sounded a little harsh; it's a hair-trigger issue for me, as I went through a similar sort of dead bedroom, and ultimately dead marriage for 20 years. I eventually figured out how to fix it, and did. The responsibility to live the kind of life a person wants lies directly on that individual. I finally came to the realization that the fault of my no-sex marriage was solely mine. Fast forward another 20 years and I'm married to a much more compatible woman who loves to fuck. After a few years of marriage I successfully turned her into an agreeable, fun, and oftentimes enthusiastic hotwife. And my kids; they knew what was up during the first go-around and got over it. My life today is orders of magnitude better than it was before; happier, more relaxed and much more productive too.

But it doesn't have to. If you have the will to change your station in life I heartily recommend Robert Glover's No More Mister Nice Guy as a starting point. Best of luck in all your endeavors.

Any BBCs among your wife's 67 lovers?

Popular Girl
 

Before we started going steady at 16, she told me that she had to tell me something before we got too serious. She told me she had been with a lot of guys. She didn't know an exact number but it was in the 20s. This was all between the ages of 12 and 16. She developed early and with a big chest and she got attention. After her first, she was never alone and was never faithful to any boyfriend. She would rarely initiate, but hardly ever said No. she screwed, friends of boyfriends, siblings of girlfriends, study partners, teachers, guys at parties, you name it. It was not uncommon for her to have sex with two different guys in the same day. She even added a few more after we started going together including her own cousin. I would estimate that she has had her legs spread by almost 30 guys, screwed over 600 times and gave at least a few hundred blow jobs. I've met many who have had her in her past at high school reunions. I had wondered how much of a sl*t she really was and after she realized I didn't mind, she stripped and blew a friend of mine, then easily initiated a threesome with him. She is truly amazing to watch. She's had a couple of my friends and a few we've met online since we've been married. She took to it naturally, like she had never stopped. I'm convinced that you can't really take the sl*t out of the girl. We don't do that stuff anymore, but oh the memories.

Three so far to date.

One who she hooked up with multiple times when we visit the Washington DC area where he lives. (Probably 8 times or so.)

One guy we met on a vacation weekend get-away, met out on the dance floor at a tiki bar on the beach.

One other gentleman we met at a lifestyle club we have visited on occasion in Dayton, OH. I think they hooked up twice total in the past few years.

She has been communicating with one guy for several months on a swinger site and plan to meet but no date set yet due to his and her schedules conflicting. She travels for work, he travels for work and he has his kids on every other weekend.

I'm assuming you meant well. Feel free to let us sneak a peek at the hotwife you chose to brag about while going all guru on me. I'm guessing a fair share
Of our friends here would trade my once a month for your once a day. So yea, thanks for the encouragement. Really.

She read this and says I am missing two.

1. A guy we met in a hotel bar one evening when she was traveling with me for work. It was in St. Louis, MO and the guy was french I believe.

2. A guy she met out in Dallas, TX while on a business trip. - I was not aware of this but she swears she told me about it lol. So, I guess that means out of 68 to date................

I do have a few images from two of these.

If I am to believe my wife, there was an old boyfriend twice when I was in the service, which I did not find out till many years later. The problem is she was and still is horny - even at the age of 67, so I can't believe she did not fool around when I was away on a long cruise, or away on business trips.

When we did it the first time, there was no evidence of her being a virgin. She did act like she was a novice, even going as far to saying "if you want to put that thing in me, you have to do it yourself, because I am not touching it". May have been an act.

We are going to visit friends this summer, and he has confided to me that his wife fucked around while engaged. She told him all about it, and when he fucks her he asks her "is this how they fucked you? and she says yes - it was great" This gets him off.I plan on asking him to have his wife (a few glasses of wine) to tell my wife, and ask my wife if she ever fucked around on me. Hopefully my wife will share stories with her as they compare notes. There may also be mutual friends involved.

Any other suggestions?

For a long time I knew my wife's number was 3 other guys, a few more if you include oral and a handjob. I knew about them all before the deed was committed. Last year and old friend of mine died, he knew it was his time and he went peacefully. A few weeks later my wife and I were in bed getting sexy, talking about her hotwife activities, the few that there are, it still turns me on for her to talk about them.

Sometimes she is coy and makes up some story to arouse me, but she is a terrible liar and I can easily tell she's making it up. This time she said 'there is something I have to tell you about Alan', the friend that just died, she said 'I think you'll like it, but you may not.'

She told me that when we met Alan, she had a little crush on him, he was a real geek and even in his mid 20's he had never had a GF. She said the idea of being his first drove her crazy with lust, so she plotted to seduce him, and she did when I was out of town. Alan was a very good friend of mine and a hunting buddy, after clothes were off he was getting cold feet until my wife promised to never tell me about it, and she didn't until he was passed.

If I had found out about this when it happened I would have been crushed, now it is a big turn on, especially the part of how she had to give him a very detailed anatomy lesson on the first naked female he had ever been with. She said they only did it once then and once after he moved to Atlanta and she visited him when she visited her parents there.

A grand total of eight, including myself. I was the first. After we'd been married a few years, we experimented with three small swing parties, mostly with couples we knew. Even though she agreed to try swinging, my wife is very conservative, and very devoted to me. She is just not the flirting type. So short story short, seven other guys have boned my wife, and they did it while I was in the room.

Did she enjoy while she was doing it? If there were seven other guys, she must have done more than one in a night. Was she turned on by that? My wife is very conservative too so I have not even gotten as far as you with some experimenting.