Trying to understand

[greentryingtounderstand]

I do everything I can to please my boyfriend , I will masturbate in front of him , give him a blow job any time make dirty movies for him . It hurts me inside that he would rather download movies and look at other girls. It makes me feel like I can't please him. I just don't know what to do. I feel like im not good enough

[doc holiday]

Sounds to me like you are the perfect girlfriend! I know a lot of women have a hard time understanding why we men do the things we do, but don't take it personal. We just love naked women & we want to see them all. My wife is super hot & I crave her sexually all the time. She is not nearly as giving as you are, which sucks for me, but I still fantasize about her all the time even when I'm looking at porn. Maybe if she were more giving I wouldn't look at it as much, but I'd still be looking - it's just embedded in our dna to want to see every girl naked - excluding moms, sisters, & family members!

[jacksonhole]

Guys will look at pictures and videos of naked girls (or guys). Period. It's how we are wired.

It doesn't mean you aren't pleasing him. He may be embarrassed to talk about some of the things that turn him on, or he may be so horny that he needs a quick release from time to time. He may do it to get ideas for things he wants to do with you or even so he can last longer when you are fooling around.

He's been doing it since before he met you, and will be doing it for as long as he is able.

It isn't an either/or thing.

The worst thing you can do is make it an issue. I suggest you have fun with it. Ask him to show you something that he thinks is really hot. Look at the porn together, not in a judgemental way, but have fun picking out a fantasy you can do together.

The hottest thing a guy can hear in this situation is his girl saying, "that looks like fun, let's try it!"

Whatever you do, don't ask him if he thinks a particular girl is hotter than you. That will totally kill the mood.

Good luck

[treetorn]

Get over yourself, stop making it about you. If anything, your rant is about your own insecurity. Insecurity is what drives guys away.

Guys need a variety of spice. They need eye candy. It does not mean that they want relationships with others or that they are leaving you. It is the nature of man. Too many women think they have to be the center of everything as if they are so worthy of praise, especially American women. Relax a bit, get secured with yourself, and have some fun. Do what you like to do. But if this does not help then learn the art of seduction. Lean how to seduce and you will be the one in control in your relationship.

[DoctorWorm]

Originally Posted by jacksonhole

The hottest thing a guy can hear in this situation is his girl saying, "that looks like fun, let's try it!"

Hell, that's just about the hottest thing a guy can hear from his girl, period.

[ModelT-MsDollie]

Green you are the perfect partner. The others already told you how us males are programmed. I've been married forever to a woman who does everything I fantasize and talk about. Yet I have never stopped looking and fooling with other women.
Keep being yourself and enjoy your games with your boyfriend.

Originally Posted by jacksonhole
The hottest thing a guy can hear in this situation is his girl saying, "that looks like fun, let's try it!"


This right here is the best suggestion yet. Try it!

[BaconBot]

Originally Posted by greentryingtounderstand

I do everything I can to please my boyfriend , I will masturbate in front of him , give him a blow job any time make dirty movies for him . It hurts me inside that he would rather download movies and look at other girls. It makes me feel like I can't please him. I just don't know what to do. I feel like im not good enough

Post some pictures on this website for him to find!

[clitty]

Looks like men have responded (there are women on this board too) with honest posts.

Seriously, do NOT take it personal. ALL guys have and look at porn. I've seen porn on a preachers computer, and yet he had a pretty hot looking wife. Its a visual thing, not a personal thing - and can also lead to more sex or ideas.

My wife knows I have porn, look at porn and even posting on this site and uploaded a recent nude photo of her here as well. Why? Because we are very honest with each other, and we love each other. No porn or other women can make me lose interest in her. I've had sex with other women that she knows about - hell, she was in the same room / building.


So give him his porn space, maybe suck him off while he's watching internet porn.

BTW: Why call it "dirty movies"? Unless you are doing something with dirt or poo... its just sex. To call it "dirty" is degrading to yourself... and hopefully you are enjoying the videos you make for him.


Now the very opposite and worse I've seen happen to a married guy is this: His wife as installed some sort of porn-blocking software on his computers. *HE* cannot look at any porn... she's treating him like a child, she has password-locked security software that does this? WTF? I would dump her so fast. But that is *HIS* problem, not mine.

As long as you both care about each other and having good sex... enjoy it.

[delt]

Sometimes we guys are looking at the internet to fanaticize about sex that we could never ask the women we love to indulge in. There are acts that I love imagining my wife doing, but I would never ask her to do. Porn is rarely real people ---it is mostly actors and actresses performing other peoples fantasies.

[ModelT-MsDollie]

Someone wrote there should be a woman's side of this. My husband and I both think there have been some great replies here. This is a great site to share and to learn.
My husband has gotten me to do way more in my lifetime than I would have ever done on my own or with another man if I was married to another. Still Denny looks at pictures here and other places of every type porn and sex act there is.
He does not really look at a lot porn compared to his friends. It never has bothered me. In fact when he or his friends mentioned things I'd look too. I've learned things from it and I'm sure that's where he got a lot of his ideas.
We are happy and I still try to act out his fantasies. He'll never stop looking at other women or stop looking at porn or whatever you want to call it.
Years ago we went together to adult movies and even fooled around while dirty old men watched and commented. It's what men do. Us women need to enjoy watching and performing our own porn. It's not really dirty. It's being human and loving life. Okay this didn't make any sense but I tried.