[First Time] Advice for First Time Nudist Resort with Friends

[Kmaxx2525]

My wife and I got invited to go a nudist resort for the first time with another married couple we've been friends with for a few years.

Neither of us have ever been to one of these resorts. My wife and I have frequented many natural hot springs, and have gone with this couple twice. Apart from changing outside, we weren't naked with the couple at all. However, my wife and I have been naked many times at the hot springs by ourselves and around a few strangers, and are comfortable.

I have a few sincere questions I figured this community may be able to help with.

My wife is reluctant to go because she is afraid seeing mutual friends naked would make things weird going forward. We are very comfortable with this couple, however, and this would be strictly platonic plans.

Has anyone had friendships affected positively or negatively by seeing/being around one another nude?

The husband is a bigger guy than I am, and I am definitely a "grower" as they say. I'm worried about being embarrassed in front of his wife, and mine, if the penis size is largely different while flaccid and relaxed. Is that a normal concern and one easily gotten over once we're all naked?

Any thoughts on how I can make my wife more comfortable? Again, it's not the nudity aspect, but the nude with friends aspect.

Any other thoughts or helpful advice?

Thanks!

[raysallx]

I think you are overthinking things. Since everyone has agreed to go to the resort, there shouldn't really be any issues. There will be lots of other people there, some growers and some show-res. You'll probably be average, nothing to worry about. Same with the women...lots of average people at such places. As for feeling weird afterwards, since you're all mature adults I don't think that will happen, in fact I suspect it will strengthen your friendship. My wife and I have run into friends at a nude beach and it made us like them more.

[anonjohn]

The anxiety about seeing someone you know is based on embarassment - what will they think of me?
With the unspoken presumption that they are clothed and you are naked. But that's not the case. They aren't going to tell everyone they saw you there, because that would disclose they were there naked too.

The most likely outcome of meeting someone you know is that you now have something more in common with an acquaintance who then becomes a friend - isn't that a good thing?

It only becomes weird if it is sexual - which, in a genuine naturist/nudist environment (ie not swinging), it is not. People who have not experienced this have difficulty believing this - until they experience it themselves. We are on a porn site and people's brains are in porn fantasy mode, so accepting this is even more difficult here.

Did you not discuss these anxieties, in some detail, with your friends when they invited you?

Have you checked the websites of bona-fide naturist/nudist organizations (eg affiliated with the INF or AANR) which have extensive explanations which show that your fears are, in practice, completely unfounded - although common anxieties.

[lounge]

I would think it depends on the destination. If a naturalist place what are you thinking is of a concern?
If other, (swingers, fairly liberal sexual rules) I’d be looking for advise…

[Pearoak]

If it's an option, perhaps try to acclimatise by going to a clothed beach first. Thong + small bikini top is now totally acceptable, so your wife can get used to the couple seeing her nearly naked, maybe even topless, then the final step will be much easier.

Your wife may also be concerned about pubic hair styles. It's a bit more risky but you could discreetly mention this to the husband to find out the other couple's style so she (and you) have the option to 'match' if you want to.

For yourself, go to a gym / pool where you can be naked in the changing room to get used to being around other guys naked (although in your case it sounds like you've already done more than this, how do you know he's bigger?)

Please feed back on how it goes!

[Shihoin]

Originally Posted by Kmaxx2525

Any thoughts on how I can make my wife more comfortable? Again, it's not the nudity aspect, but the nude with friends aspect.

It's a "common" concern. We have friends we've invited to the resort; but they (specifically the BF) chickened out because of his concerns about the "aftermath" of us having seen each other naked. "How do you "come back" from that?" I've personally found the answer to be: quite easily, actually.

What's the actual "aftermath"? It's often just knowing you've seen each other naked. As Anonjohn mentioned, if the experience at the resort has been non-sexual; that's all there is to it. Sure, they're going to know more "intimate details" about your anatomy; but if your friends are genuine nudists, it's not going to redefine how they "see" you back in the real world. It's just "extra information." You will probably find that your "post-resort" interactions remain exactly the same; except maybe for the occasional joke about having "seen each other naked."

I assume the resort is C/O. Look it up online. C/O resorts allows newbies to stay covered; so if your wife is a bit reticent to be naked right away in front of your friends, she can always take a "gradual" approach by bringing/wearing a sarong. And taking it off when she's ready. Women tend to support each other in these "situations"; so I'm sure your friend's wife will do the same and help alleviate some of her anxieties.

My wife and I are friends with an old co-worker of mine we ran into at our resort. Sure, it was weird at first; for about 10 minutes. When we meet up "in the real world", you'd never know we regularly hang out naked at a resort. Unlike most non-nudist friends, we all know the women are shaven, what their boobs look like; or which guy is "bigger" and whose labia is "thicker." But still, it doesn't even figure into our "real world" interactions. There's no "weirdness" or tension at all. I expect it would be the same for you.

Hope this helps! I think it'll be fun.

[sam.77]

We have never been to a nudist resort. But we have seen many of our friends naked in sauna, on a beach etc. And it has never affected anything. Do not be afraid. (If it is a normal nude resort, not swingers or something like that.)

[riverdelivery]

Don't worry one bit,I've been twice with my ex to nudist resorts and 10 years to nude beaches,everyone there wants to be nude and they don't care if your nude,everyone is very friendly too,the staff is very friendly and you'll make new friends and have a great time.

[The Bares]

Strongly suggest visiting the AANR. Website.

[coupleak]

Just relax and enjoy.
Only the first 10m are a bit awkward, after that it just feels normal seeing eachother naked.
Even afterwards, nothing will change. They remain the same people, you've just seen each other naked.
And nowadays, naked is not that much less clothing that some of those small bikinis. Often seeing eachother naked is less erotic than seeing one another in a sexy dress or bikini.