Jacking off in relationships

[karlhein]

This may be a very biased audience, but I don't know anyone else to ask who might be as honest as the group here appears to be. It's not life shatteringly important, but it's something I've thought about ever since I started having sex with ladies, as opposed to just 'five fingered Mary' when I was young.

If you are in a relationship, where you are getting honest to goodness sex from a real woman; how often do you still 'play with yourself'. Is it related to how often you are cumming with her? I guess you could ask the same question of gay guys, but I think (based on long observation) that most of the people on this board are more likely to be straight.

I'm pretty old now, and have been in 4 serious long term relationships, and a certain number of shorter term adventures. And, even when the sex was very good (which is was in 2 of the 4), I still found myself 'taking care of business' on my own, with nearly daily frequency. Am I abnormal?

Back in the old days, it was skin mags, then videos you could get in the back of the video store. For the last 25 years or so, it's been the internet.....I was an early Redclouds fan, and still fully appreciate the concept of Waiting for Igor......and I've been on this site for some years, as it's comparatively low cost and provides forums like this, all sorts of entertaining pictures and even some video clips.

Now my gf is out of town, so I only see her on the weekend, so most evenings, I'm pulling the pud (it certainly beats most of what is on TV these days).

I'd estimate that until I turned 60, my average rate of ejaculations was more than 1 per day (say 10 per week), and didn't seem decrease if I was doing it with a nice lady a few times per week. And, I learned a long time ago the joy of 'edgeing', so my time of playing was a lot longer than just the time it took to cum.

What is the experience on the board? If you are with a hot lady frequently, do you stop "self servicing"? Or does your time with a nice lady just add to your personal pleasure?

[patrick_kevin]

When i was in a bad marriage i jacked off constantly ( she had totally cut me off) we seperated and i got a fantastic girlfriend who i am allowed to do with as i please, i still stroke the occasional one out. But alot less frequently, and some times while she watches...... To he honest i dont think people should ever stop self pleasuring themselves.

[y2kv2]

I'm twice divorced. First wife was a hottie (I've posted her pics here already) and all I wanted to do was be balls-deep in her. We weren't married long enough for me to get back into the habit of taking care of myself before she announced out of the blue that she was leaving me.

Second wife wasn't anywhere close to as good looking as the first, plus she was emotionally abusive. We dabbled in swinging for a while, but due to the emotional abuse & my just not finding her attractive (nor being attracted to her), the "computer room/office" doubled as my "fap den."

Got to be where I jacked off so much, anytime I had sex with her, I felt like I was cheatin' on myself.

[Beelzebozo]

My wife has no real problems about my jacking off by myself, though she teased me about it. I'm the first man she's been with who's libido outstrips her's. When I was single, my habit was usually twice a day. That's been reduced to once a day, usually at the end, when it's far too late to have sex.

Explanation: After she orgasms, she becomes so wired that she can't get to sleep. So there's a cut-off time that we can have sex if she wants a full-night's rest. Add in that we own our own business and our windows for intercourse get smaller and smaller depending on the day of the week, the week of the month, the price of tea in China....

It bothered her a little when we were first married, but realize it was 'me' time, as opposed to 'our' time.

On the other hand, she kinda encourages it. My dad had prostate cancer, which nearly doubles my chances of getting it. But regular ejaculation has been shown to reduce your likelihood of cancer.

[stoneme123]

Originally Posted by karlhein

This may be a very biased audience, but I don't know anyone else to ask who might be as honest as the group here appears to be. It's not life shatteringly important, but it's something I've thought about ever since I started having sex with ladies, as opposed to just 'five fingered Mary' when I was young.

If you are in a relationship, where you are getting honest to goodness sex from a real woman; how often do you still 'play with yourself'. Is it related to how often you are cumming with her? I guess you could ask the same question of gay guys, but I think (based on long observation) that most of the people on this board are more likely to be straight.

I'm pretty old now, and have been in 4 serious long term relationships, and a certain number of shorter term adventures. And, even when the sex was very good (which is was in 2 of the 4), I still found myself 'taking care of business' on my own, with nearly daily frequency. Am I abnormal?

Back in the old days, it was skin mags, then videos you could get in the back of the video store. For the last 25 years or so, it's been the internet.....I was an early Redclouds fan, and still fully appreciate the concept of Waiting for Igor......and I've been on this site for some years, as it's comparatively low cost and provides forums like this, all sorts of entertaining pictures and even some video clips.

Now my gf is out of town, so I only see her on the weekend, so most evenings, I'm pulling the pud (it certainly beats most of what is on TV these days).

I'd estimate that until I turned 60, my average rate of ejaculations was more than 1 per day (say 10 per week), and didn't seem decrease if I was doing it with a nice lady a few times per week. And, I learned a long time ago the joy of 'edgeing', so my time of playing was a lot longer than just the time it took to cum.

What is the experience on the board? If you are with a hot lady frequently, do you stop "self servicing"? Or does your time with a nice lady just add to your personal pleasure?

I pretty much fit this description, although younger - been in a relationship for years, still love a wank prob 10-15 a week.

[cufan86]

Originally Posted by y2kv2

Second wife wasn't anywhere close to as good looking as the first, plus she was emotionally abusive. We dabbled in swinging for a while, but due to the emotional abuse & my just not finding her attractive (nor being attracted to her), the "computer room/office" doubled as my "fap den."

Got to be where I jacked off so much, anytime I had sex with her, I felt like I was cheatin' on myself.

So why did you marry someone you didn’t find attractive, was emotionally abusive and someone you were not attracted to?

[HisFury]

In my experience, women don't like men to jack off when they are in a relationship (and probably not ever). I think the base reason is that it undermines their position of power over the man. Same goes for looking at porn.

[rickandsuzy]

one girlfriend who I was living with was smoking hot. so hot I would fun too quick. so I started jerking off so I would last longer. she didn't appreciate me jerking .

my current wife well I need to jerk off everyday. she doesn't do anything for me sexually anymore so I need to jerk off. I spend most of my time jerking off thinking about women I see at work and at the nude beach. my wife is so naive she has no idea I jerk everyday.

[tonz42]

I jerk off or cum daily.

I had a gf who loved watching me jerk off and I enjoyed doing it for her - one the stories here...

https://forum.oneclickchicks.com/show...37#post2207037

Current gf has kinda lost her sex drive, so we only get intimate once every month or so - she still goes to the gym and has a pretty nice body - so that just makes it worse.

On the occasion we do get intimate an normally finish by jerking on her pussy or tits.

She has caught me once or twice having a quiet wank, just ignored me and went about her business.

I have jerked off sitting in bed while she was getting dressed without her knowing.

I want to get to a point I can do it with her knowing and not really reacting one way or the other.

[karlhein]

Thanks guys. I thought I was weird or something. My best ever gf was a very multi orgasmic screamer, wanted it every day, sometimes twice daily. I was 25 then, so I could handle her pretty well, with the good news being that I was (and am) a slow cummer, so she really seemed to enjoy herself. I'll guess I'll never know if it was real, although to this day I think it was, but we once got a little scoreboard and counted what appeared be to 60 orgasms over a 2 hour period, before I finally blew my load. She had a certain rhythm to building up, cumming, and recovering.....but it was pretty predictable. Interestingly, she would only cum from fucking, I tried eating her, and she just thought it was pleasant, but when I put my dick in her, it lit the fuse. But, even with her, I would wank 2-3x weekly, and she was seemingly not aware of it My other relationships have been less spectacular, but whatever the frequency/quality of the sex, it seem like up until I hit 60, my "rhythm" was to need to cum 10-15x weekly. It's noticeably slower now, but there is still the same pattern, to at least play with it daily, even if the current, out of town gf, has been active.