"Never gonna happen."
 

My wife doesn't like to suck cock. In fact I started a thread about that subject here on OCC. However, she will reluctantly do it for me on occasion and did a few nights ago. There is, however, more to this story than a blow-job. Even though it probably happens for most of you, it was new to me.*

I had already done the awkward "ask for sex" thing, so I knew it was go time that night. I hate that whole "Do you want to have sex?" question because it really is an awkward moment every time. She might say no, and I have to be cool with that. She might say yes, and I have to act cool with that too. I have been married to this girl for 22 years and there is still that little game that must be played in order for me to be able to spray my cum in her or on her. Our sex life has done a 180 since the kids have gotten older, but I still feel like a teenage boy trying to get in a girl's pants when it comes to getting laid. Once the awkward ask is over, though, comes the part I really like: How and where am I going to fuck her? Is there anything I haven't tried yet?

It was warm outside that evening and my initial thought was to try to convince my wife to fuck outdoors. I have gotten her to do it outside in the past and was ready to suggest it. Shortly after having that plan, though, *I*gave up the idea. This decision wasn't due to anything more than a familiar read. It was because after 22 years of marriage I know when something is not going to work out before I even ask. From her mood I knew this was one of those nights. I postponed the idea and went with a new plan.

When she came in to get ready, I pulled her into our bathroom that is attached to the bedroom. She was reluctant at first because she knew I was up to something "weird". I told her I simply wanted to take a shower with and wash her. She hates sex in the shower because it "never works right", so I promised her I just wanted to wash her. My additional motive that I didn't tell her was I wanted her to see me thoroughly wash my cock because I wanted a blow job.*

I undressed her and led her into the shower. I washed every inch of her body, first with my bare hands and then with a loofa. I soaped up her tits and took the loofa and scrubbed her pussy and ass. It was awesome to feel her slippery body, especially her big soapy tits against me. I held her against me with my hard cock buried in her stomach. I stuck to my promise and didn't try to fuck her there. Besides, I find it better to spread her out on the bed like a buffet so I can see, touch and taste every inch of her body.

After she got out and dried off, I laid her on the bed and started kissing her mouth, then sucking her tits and then started down to eat her pussy. She is really ticklish down there and if I don't take my time she tenses up making it worse. I didn't take my time and she tensed up. I didn't want to take my time because at this point I had the overwhelmingly intense desire to put my cock inside her. So much for my plan. I knew by doing this I would likely forfeit any hope of a blow job, but sometimes you just want to fuck a wet juicy pussy.*

One of the other things my wife would not do in the past is kiss me after I had been eating her pussy. She said it was gross to have her own juice in her mouth. I, on the other hand, have made it my mission to get her own juice into her mouth because it turns me on. I would love to see another woman's pussy juice in her mouth to be quite honest- and watching her eat out her best friend would be simply amazing. Slowly she has given in to kissing me after oral, but her adversity to cock in her mouth combined with it being covered with her pussy juice was squarely in the "never going to happen" category.

Regardless, I just HAD*to go ahead and stick my cock in her. For such a conservative girl, she has always liked it when I thrust in her as hard as I can. Just to give you a frame of reference, my erect cock is 7" long and 6 1/2" inches around. (I measured for the purpose of this story). According to most research I have read, that is above average, but not quite porn star size. She was told by her gynecologist early in our marriage to make sure we are using lube because I had ripped her. *However, despite this, or maybe because of this, she has always enjoyed a good pounding.*

*After I rammed inside her several times, I went down once again to lick her pussy. She was still tense. I didn't want to slow down. I couldn't get her settled. I called an audible.

*We have established she doesn't like my cock or her pussy juice in her mouth. *Still, the audible I called was a 69. I moved her into position and asked her to blow me while I vibrated her. To my surprise, she did. I absolutely love the visual perspective of this. After all, she is not one of those "beautiful to me" women. She is a women that has large breasts, has maintained her body very well, has beautiful skin and always smells good all over - from head to toe. *She is classy, conservative and well respected in our community. *All my friends would love to fuck her and want to see her naked.

I was lying on the bed. Her muscular legs were on either sides of my head, so her pink wet pussy with a small patch of soft pubes was inches from my face as I worked her clit with a vibrator. I look toward my feet and see her big tits on my stomach. Between her tits I can see her mouth bobbing up and down on my cock as she is SUCKING OFF HER OWN PUSSY JUICE MIXED WITH MY PRE-EJACULATE CUM! It was awesome and I didn't want it to stop, so I told her I wanted her mouth on my cock when she orgasms. She was so close to orgasm, I think I could have asked for about anything - but this is what I wanted more than anything at this moment. She kept my dick in her mouth and as she started to orgasm she slid her mouth even further down on me. It was all I could do to not cum fully in her mouth. I probably should have.

As a side note, and for the record, one time in the past when I asked her to have my dick in her mouth when she orgasms, she literally told me - while we were having sex - "That is never going to happen." I like a good challenge.*

I turned her on her back and vibrated her to another orgasm. She had a huge one. She then spread her legs, literally grabbed my cock and guided me inside her, which she has been doing on a regular basis for the past year after orgasm. She said "Ok" which has come to mean "Fuck me hard NOW!"...which I did. I rammed her and the harder I rammed, the better she liked it and she had another orgasm. *I shot a load into her so hard I think she could probably taste it.*

The reason I am sharing this story is because her list of "Never gonna happen." took a big hit that night. Compared to where my wife and I were a few years ago,this was an unexpected surprise for me.*What a difference from 6 years ago when my story would have been:
Last night my wife laid on her back. We kissed. I sucked on her tits. I fingered her pussy. I used lube so I could get inside her. I stuck my dick in her and pumped until I cummed. We kissed. We went to sleep.*

You know- since we have been married she said cumming in her mouth is never gonna happen...

Good luck with that, buddy. I know where you are. Married 16 years. Every once in a while she surprises me, though.

Why is it?
 

I know what you're talking about. I've been married 14 years, and the sex now seems very infrequent, and nowhere near as exciting as it was before we were married.

- Years ago, before we were married, we did it outdoors on her friends' pool deck at midnight.
- Again, before we were married, I made her go into the ladies room and take her panties off in a restaurant and come back and hand them to me under the table (a story I've told in more detail in another post on OCC).
- I once let myself into her apartment in New York and caught her in just her panties (she had a studio) - she had grabbed her trench coat and put it on because she was afraid it was the super coming in. I thought it was so sexy that she was in just panties and a trench coat that I made her put her high heels on and take a ten block walk around the Upper East Side in New York with her in just her trench coat and panties. I chuckled as we walked right past the building maintenance men at the front door, with her saying hello to them.
- She sucked and swallowed right from the beginning, and never had a problem with taking my cock in her mouth after I'd just pulled it out of her pussy. In fact sometimes, I'd have her suck it wet with her juices, then go back and fuck her some more and give her my cock to suck again.
- She sucked me in the back seat of the limo on the way to the airport the morning after our wedding.

Now, none of this happens, and the sex is very infrequent and mundane. She's put on a lot of weight, which hasn't helped. I did too, but I've lost all the weight. It seems like it would be easier to screw someone else's wife, which I've thought about. Back when I was single, I found married women to be very approachable - they seemed to like the attention. Maybe all the above is why. I've had long affairs with married women, and they seemed to be willing to do stuff they'd never done with their husbands.

- Daaaaang, Dude.

- Thanks for sharing such an extended and well crafted peek at your philosophy regarding the male/female mystery.

Your flawless logic and clarity of vision are presented with an air of authority and self-confidence that can only come from successfully sustaining a relationship with a single partner for d-e-c-a-d-e-s. Succeed for a lesser duration and one could only claim to be guessing. Add in any failed relationships, and one could only claim to be guessing poorly.

Congratulations to you - a man who figured it all out - and to the lucky lady that afforded you the opportunity to learn these important truths of life.

No shit! However, most of the negativity toward sex began once she became a mama. Now that our kids are older she still reverts back to some of her rhetoric, but is doing more now than she ever has. I think what surprised me the most this last time is she just did it without complaining.

Here is her list list of "Never gonna happen" from the moment she only wanted sex to make babies:
- eat her pussy(and by extension 69) She actually turned around and hit me once for licking her pussy before I fucked her from behind. It was right there! What was I supposed to do?
- fuck outdoors
- masturbate herself to orgasm
- swallow my cum (which she did before we were married)
- let me cum on her tits (or any other exterior part of her body)
- use sex toys
- anal sex

The first 18 years of marriage was like this and I stuck it out for the kids. In the last four years we have done everything on that list with the exception of me cumming in her mouth. That timing coincides with the time the kids became much more independent. I imagine there are many who have had or are currently experiencing a similar existence. If you haven't gone through your needs being replaced by kids, you are fortunate.

Very Thoughtful, and even provocative
 

wildaboutyou:

Ironically, we have restaurant issues too, so I got a chuckle out of that.

Your entire post was very well and thoughtfully written. Even provocative. I liked it, and it's made me start to think about some things differently. I think I'm falling back into my old ways in my relationship with my wife - where I'm trying to be a people pleaser - which was the way I was years ago, well before I met her. In fact, it was only when I started to be assertive about what I wanted, in every way, from restaurants to living arrangements, to the bedroom (where sometimes the venue changed to the living room floor, standing up in the shower, or to the second floor landing). When I asserted myself, I was no longer needy, and I found relationships worked better - maybe they were simply more satisfying to me. For instance, the first time I slipped my cock up a woman's ass and fucked her anally, I felt like I was the king of the world.

I'll think about this some more, but thank you for putting together such a considered response.

- Your story has become a living testament to the old saying: 'Never give up.' And yes, I do admit to being a fortunate man, kids and all.

@Larry: Any luck with getting to cum in her mouth yet? ;)

Some thoughts
 

I went through much of these problems with my wife before we finally separated after 24 years though it wasn't so much sex problems that caused the separation. I'm not an expert but I can say one thing, generally you should never "ask" for sex but rather assume a yes answer and proceed as though they have already said yes. The reason for this is that you are handing complete power to the other person when you ask a direct question and their answer will be yes or no or perhaps they might accept with a delay (so they are still holding the power). Once they become accustomed to weilding power they will enjoy it and continue the game forever, power is the greatest aphrodisiac in the world.

The other promising thing for you is that it sounds as though your wife is approaching her "midlife crisis" time when many women will do things way out of their norm. The "naughty forties" and "frisky fifties" do happen and I'm not sure of the cause but there seems to be a couple of things happening, the kids have grown and maybe left home so they feel their job as mother whilst not finished is much reduced giving them greater freedom and there is also a change in hormone levels. There are several threads on this site with stories of how women in their 40s and 50s have shocked their husbands by doing things that "were never gonna happen" and sometimes quite a bit more and they make great reading. The common thing on these threads seems to be that the guy has planted a seed of thought e.g. When not having sex to ask her what her wildest fantasies are and then nurturing that idea so that it grows within her. Sometimes they will also respond to a challenge particularly if they think that they are being shown up by another woman, yes jealousy is very real. Best of luck.